I need some help, I have only been marrie a year and I only Married her because she got pregent. Now we are going through a divorce. I filled out my divorece papers and served her. Today She served me and the papers smellied like weed. She put in them that I am not allowed visatations. I can call her 2 hours in advance if I want to see my son at her house were she lives with her dad. A few weeks ago she told me I needed to sign over rights to my son. During the week its hard for me to see him because I work 12-15 hours a day. Can anyone help or have advice I would really appresate it. Also my son lives with her, he bottled feed and will be 9 months on june 5. I also went out and bought everthing I needed for him. PLEASE HELP Also when I filled out my papers I was really resanable. I asked for ever other weekend and each year we switched holidays. The only thing we would have troble is his birthday because he was born on my birthday.
2007-05-29 09:49:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try the following link
http://www.usalegalcare.com/divorce.htm
2007-05-29 18:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being reasonable man your being screwed. A child molesting dad get almost the same visitation as your asking for. You go for full custody zip loc the papers to preserve the smell, probably won't get you far. First of all you need a paternity test, regardless of what you think, there's only one person who really knows, and she's p!SSED at you right now.
You don't have to give up any rights, tell her to kiss your @SS
Here are some things you'd better do,and make sure something like what's mentioned below, if legal in your state gets put into your divorce decree, and if not don't come in here crying about it later, learn from others mistakes.
1. If you can't get full custody, Settle on 50/50 legal and joint, and nothing less. If your atty. don't want to try to get it get another atty.
2. The child support stops if he leaves her home, and moves in with you, joins the circus, grandma takes him what ever.
3. If he goes to college, you pay him directly, the payments stop going to her
4. You get to claim him AT LEAST every other year on your taxes.
5. Make sure if your covering the insurance, she covers deductibles, and co pays.
As far as his birthday it's split in half 8-4 w/ dad the rest of the day and night w/ mom then alternate that every year
This is the short list of things that needs to be done
2007-05-29 10:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is going to take time.. A lot of it... You did not not meet in a day, married a day later, and had a baby a day later... So give it some time and let the pain subside a little. Women can be very hurtful doing a break up so just be a man let her say what she gotta say and not respond with hurtful things back because it could cause more delays... In the mean time.. Consult a attorney, about your visitations... Their are some free attorneys for this, it's just going to take some time to find them..... And don't use work as an excuse for not taking care of your business concerning your child.... Pray and let it go....Without retorting...
2007-05-29 09:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by ajoyce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the way the courts willgo here; she willprbably get custody and child support but you will get state mandated visitation rights. They will not be supervised unless she can prove a realgood reason for such. You never need to sign over your rights unless you want to. Keep all receipts you have or will have for your son as the Judge may request them. You can have what you need for visitation exactly peeled out in the final divorce decree. She can ask or demand what she wants and unless you agree or sign anything from her theres not much legally she can do.The Judge has the finalsay so concerning allmatters,not her
2007-05-29 10:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such element as a protection tension divorce. All divorces are civil concerns. even although, the quantity of latest child help is in keeping with earnings. If there's a court order in place that states how plenty new child help he might desire to pay, then that's what he desires to pay. the only way he might desire to petition the courts to diminish the quantity is that if his circumstances replaced and he unexpectedly began making severely much less money. As for sending extra money on each and every occasion his ex asks for it, he's no longer obligated to try this and he's somewhat a fool to realize this.
2016-10-09 02:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and go to court. You as a father have rights too.Unless one of you are proved unfit you should pay child support and get your kid every other weekend. And don't forget taxes. Ask to file your child every other year on your taxes. Whoever files for divorce first usually gets what they want within reason. And i hope you learned a very good lesson here. Allot of people think this is a reason to marry. Not the case as you can see.
2007-05-29 10:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!nononono! Never sign off your rights to that little boy, especially if you suspect she's doing drugs or exposing your baby to them. And her answer to the divorce papers is completely unreasonable (no visitation? Is she effin crazy?!?!) Don't back down...women aren't any more entitled to the kids then the fathers are...your son needs you and you deserve each other. I would request joint physical and legal custody. (I don't think your request for every other weekend and splitting holidays is unreasonable at all.)
And, most importantly, know your rights. Contact a father's rights org. that isn't anti-women (they just cause problems) and get an attorney if you need one. Good luck!
2007-05-29 10:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by Luvitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER sign anything that your attorney does not read first. Also, just because you sign over your rights, does not mean that you will not be financially obligated to your son in the future. Again, talk to your attorney. I know someone in Oklahoma who lost his parental rights because he went one year without supporting or visiting his child.
2007-05-29 09:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE is full of it! All you need to do is get a good attorney! Don't sign anything SHE gives you! You don't need or have to give up the rights to your Son! You can request shared custody! Don't let the bi tch push you around, fight for your Son!
2007-05-29 09:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are swab tests you can buy at the pharmacy to test for drug residue.
I think you need a lawyer and need to go to court becuase of your son... Your ex is not willing to be reasonable.
Now next time you find someone special make sure she is quality..... and don't have sex unles you are married to her.
2007-05-29 10:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋