Marriage & Divorce - 18 May 2007

2007-05-18 05:41:57 · 7 answers · asked by super girl 3

Before marriage, my husband&I have agreed on going back to USA after we get married. I've been married for more than a yr now and living in Egypt. He had completely changed his mind about living in USA& wants to stay in Egypt cuz he's taking care of the family business although his elder brother didn't care about their business& migrated to USA. Now I wanna go back to USA cuz I'm having difficulty adapting to the lifestyle in Egypt, but mainly cuz I wanna go further with my education & pursue a masters degree. I also need to be next to my parents. He isn't sacrificing his career for anything&1 other reason he doesn't wanna go to USA is cuz he wanna be next to his parents. What abt my parents?my ambitions?my dreams? I considered many options but he is not accepting any. He doesn't accept me living there alone n him staying in Egypt,n he's not agreeing on living their with me. I love my husband&don't wanna a divorce, so plz do not advice me on getting a divorce.

2007-05-18 05:41:16 · 5 answers · asked by Ruby 6

I think siging a pre-nub means who are planning for a divorce? Why are you planning to make a divorce go well when you are getting married??? To me it does not make any sense. I honestly think if you trust someone you should be planning on living with them forever. You get married for better or worse right?? If you think you are going to have problems with you spouse in the future then why are you wasting you time getting married with the person. It is like saying i "love you BUT......" I think love is trust and hoping for the best, not preparing for the worst? What do you guys think??? Have anybody signed a pre-nup if so how did you feel?

2007-05-18 05:34:25 · 15 answers · asked by sweetgirl 2

ok my b/f has said that he cant see himself living after 20, that since he was a little kid he always thought he would die at 20 or not even make it to his 20th b-day. i told him we can see what happens 10 years from now or know whats going to happen a week from now but we still hope our life will be some way in the next year. he just kept saying he cant picture anything past 20. i think its becuase he is stuck in a hard place with a job and goals and everything but he still argues that he dosent think he is ment to live long...could he really have a sense of this? or are some people like this, they cant picture what they "want" there life to be like. this worries me because i need him and cant loose him...what are your thoughts

2007-05-18 05:31:29 · 12 answers · asked by lovely 3

My husband has always been mentally abusive towards me. We have tried counseling and it didn't work. He is still this overbearing, macho, selfish person. I feel I am an attractive woman, so I have been told through the years, I have a degree and a great job. I seem to have it together yet nothing is good enough for him. He still constantly degrades me and try's to put me down in what ever I say or do. We argue at least 4 or 5 days out of the week. We have a 3 year old daughter together that is like his shadow and is closer to him then me. I finally found the courage to asked him for a divorce and to please work with me for our daughters sake. I said I would give him 50/50 and not ask for anything else. I explained to him how I wanted both of us to be happy. He is now avoiding my phone calls and will not return his daughter's phone calls, which is not like him. I feel that he is punishing our daughter to get to me. I can't understand why if he hates me so much, degrades me everyday, tells me I'm a terrible mother and thinks he could get better why doesn't he cooperate with the divorce, so we can both be happy apart?

2007-05-18 05:30:42 · 12 answers · asked by September 2

That's what my friend did now she's miserable.

2007-05-18 05:27:18 · 16 answers · asked by skeeny03 1

My fiancee and I have agreed to have a prenup. filed before we are married. would like advice on how and where it could be done inexpensively in the Missouri area.

2007-05-18 05:19:27 · 9 answers · asked by crystal h 1

He left me and 2 kids a year ago and he was the one having the affair and he is the one who filed for divorce, not me. We no longer can talk at all and I've tried and tried to just talk normal without bitterness and he can't do it. He is short, rude and for the 1st time in 17 yrs has called me names like loser & free loader and I don't understand why he has so much anger towards me. He is the one who brought on this nightmare we are going through. It hurts to hear him speak this way and it hurts to see what kind of person he has become. He is not the same man we lived with a year or so ago.

2007-05-18 05:17:32 · 13 answers · asked by Gettcha 2

just need to get through today - one day at a time.. if you have been thru this - I just need to hear that good things are coming. Usually i can get through but today it's hard again.

2007-05-18 05:13:48 · 31 answers · asked by Centered 4

I would like to hear different comments on this matter. Just curious I guess. I also have a poll going on my blog if you want to vote.
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2007-05-18 05:05:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

when you have a spouse who you voice your issues about them to and they turn it around on you what is that called?

2007-05-18 04:56:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's mine:
He pees in the bathtub in the middle of the night.
He puts huge boogers under the keyboard shelf.
He blows his nose on t shirts.
He spits in the sink.
He clips his toenails anywhere and lets them fly.

They are never fully grown when we get 'em...

2007-05-18 04:54:20 · 21 answers · asked by pouting_pisces 2

My husbands ex girlfriend /mother of his other children and his family seem to think that whenever there is something wrong with his ex, he should come running. For example someone stole the radio out of her car and she told his family she knew who it was. When they told my husband and he just shrugged his shoulders they got mad because he wouldn't go beat the guy up. And the same guy she cheted with when they were together, now smacks her around. My husband doesn't care but his family thinks he should. I could see if she were on her deathbed buthe and I feel she is no longer his concern, only the kids. What do you think?

2007-05-18 04:48:04 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I work over 50 hours/week. I do all the laundry, dishes, sweeping, and mopping. I also bring home most of the $ we have. If I do something little, like not making the bed because I've got to rush to work, he FLIPS out on me and we almost break up. What can I do to make him happy?

2007-05-18 04:47:21 · 13 answers · asked by lizzyj 2

So far I have received some pretty valid answers to my questions on this site. So my questions keep poring in. I will be visiting my family this summer for my parent’s anniversary. I am extremely happy to go and visit all my long last relatives. I am an independent women and the rebel of the family free spirited traveler. I have always been unconventional and eclectic in my lifestyle. I am happy and fulfilled with my chosen life style. My worry is that when I am faced with the more traditional family members I am going to be hounded with questions such as: Why are you still single? When are you getting married? Where is the man in your life? I will also be the 3rd, 5th or 7th wheel you get the idea. How do I politely handle this issue with out offending any of my family members?

2007-05-18 04:38:08 · 18 answers · asked by Starlite 2

My close friend is in love with a muslim girl and they have been romantically involved for some years now..But the girl is not sure whether her parents will accept this . but now she wants to inform them before they start looking for grooms. But afraid what will be their reaction

what is the best way you suggest to be taken for this ?

seeing many questions related to this I thought I could ask too to help my friend

2007-05-18 04:34:01 · 9 answers · asked by ricki 2

2007-05-18 04:33:48 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

how may an idleman become rich?

2007-05-18 04:21:55 · 11 answers · asked by kelechi o 1

His wife is old looking and fat. They never have sex anymore. And she is boring. He is in great shape and still very handsome. The 22 year old looks like a Playboy centerfold & is very well educated as she is getting ready for her bar exam. She keeps trying to get him into bed but he refuses until he physically leaves his wife. He is a strict Catholic. His 5 kids are all grown up. Yes, he is very attracted to her. What advice can I give him?

2007-05-18 04:21:21 · 22 answers · asked by Ballbuster 1

This is Babu here, had registered love marriage on 3rd June, 2006. Since from the marriage day my wife is not staying with me because of some misunderstanding. Since things become worst to worst between two families to accept. Now me-wife both decided to part away. What are the ways we can get nullify or cancel marriage.

2007-05-18 04:12:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Wife begins affair with husband's friend while still living at home and then moves into her own apartment. Affair is very serious, lasts almost 6 months. Completely emotional, physical, etc. Wife is ready to leave husband for friend. Then 4 weeks ago, at the 11th hour decides to go back to husband and try to save the marriage. Both seem "sincere" about trying to fix this. She's in counseling, he's in counseling, but they're not in counseling together yet.Tells husband of affair but makes up a fake person that she had affair with. Doesn't want husband to know it's his friend. Family and her friends are willing to go along with cover-up. They're spending lots of time together, but he has stopped talking to his friends and she still talks to the friend twice a week on the phone. I have 2 questions.....
1. Will the marriage survive?
2. Will he find out who it really is, even if he's not actively pursuing it.

2007-05-18 04:11:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My first wife divorced me after 11 years of being together. I remarried 2 years later to a very loving woman who now is the mother of my child (first marriage no kids). My first wife will have no contact with me nor even consider getting back together which is fine, as we both need to move on, but sometimes I feel stuck in my heart and wonder why I don't love my second wife as much as I think I loved my first (who really was the greatest love of my life). I've been told that I can "grow to love" her as I am not passionately excited or in love with her as I was with my first wife...any advice?

2007-05-18 04:06:50 · 33 answers · asked by Psa23 1

i have a feeling that he is like bored with me...no doubt he loves me...but i want his attention always...so what should i do?...how should i attract him towards me.?.....pls pls help me out.....i m confused coz its just one year,....and i am just 21 and he is 26.....so give me sum tips?...god will bless u.. guyz....

2007-05-18 04:05:30 · 14 answers · asked by mahveensmum 2

my boyfriend wants to get married and have a kid! should i marry him? he is really nice and cute but im only 19. should i wait till next year? i really like him though?????????

2007-05-18 04:05:13 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've sat here and read several stories about people who feel the need to cheat. My personal opinion is if anyone is not happy in their marriage/relationship for one reason or another have the decency to tell ur mate, preferrably before cheating. If ur out there already doing it then why bother to ask for help on this forum? U apparently know it's wrong already so what do u all expect from us really? Nobody's opinion really counts but your own so why r u really wasting our time and energy? If u feel what ur is aok why r u bothering to ask other peoples opinions? I don't mean to be judgemental, but if ur cheating now or plan to then u already know what could happen when your mates find out! This forum is for those people that trully want help w/serious issues. Cheating is not a serious issue especially when it is happening all the time and most people with a conscience know it is not ok EVER no matter how you word it or put your own spin on it to make it seem like its ok!

2007-05-18 03:49:31 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband, his brother, and two sisters will be having a dinner reunion this weekend. I don't care much for his one sister, I never met the other one, I like his brother (we met once two months ago).

This reunion is for everyone because no one other than my husband and his one sister has seen each other for 22 years.
Only the sister I have not met is bringing her husband the other two are single.

Okay, scenario: My husband told my daughter it would break his heart if I don't go. He already told me he feels that I should be there for him during this happy time. I have already my desire not to go.

My husband and I are going thru a very rocky time right now and I feel wrong in going. Plus I know I won't really have much of a good time. I have already heard most of the stories and the rest I probably won't care to hear.

What would be the most respectful thing to do?

2007-05-18 03:41:37 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

To expand on shdwtalker's explanation in my last question:

"In other words, cheaters tend to accept that they are running afoul of societal norms, and so society treats them like children who have misbehaved, but who know they have misbehaved: with leniency. Swingers do not care that they are running afoul of societal norms, so society treats them like unrepentant, willfully misbehaving children: with severity. "

It's a foregone conclusion that cheating is wrong and probably the most harmful thing a person can do to himself or to others. So with that in mind, please explain to me (in excruciating detail) why you think it is better to cheat than to swing? IS it actually better to lie to your spouse? Why is so wrong to be truthful...especially when it turns something that could be disastrously negative into a very positive and happy thing? Or is our happiness just a delusion? And is it a delusion because others say it is? 'Cause it sure feels real to us...

2007-05-18 03:24:23 · 36 answers · asked by intuition897 4

He is a good man and treats me well, but we are struggling just to eat, much less pay bills. He says he is afraid to go look for a job, because he has a warrant out for his arrest (for non-payment of probation fees) - He gets angry when I try to talk to him about working. I work about 45-50 hours per week and I am going to have to find another job on the weekends just to get my head above water. I love him so much, but I just dont understand how he can just sit there and let us slide deeper and deeper in debt without even trying to help. I found him a job that pays $10 per hour cash - he wont go - he says the state troopers will pick him up if he leaves the house. And if you are wondering if my house is spotless since I have a live-in houseman - sorry to say, he does dishes and yardwork and not much else. Sometimes supper is cooked for me when I come home, most of the time it is not. Any suggestions on what I should do, aside from the obvious...kick his butt out...I cant do that

2007-05-18 03:22:56 · 37 answers · asked by goodkharma333 3

My husband is a very adept manipulator, so good in fact that no one realises they are being manipulated. He is a narcissist.
He had a very bad relationship with his mother and has severely damaged the relationship between my son and I. He has created a gulf with his lies or HALF TRUTHS making it so hard to uncover the truth. He has a hidden agenda of not liking women but he needs women to give him his power. So he works with vulnerable women and disabled children.
He thinks he's a good dad but I've begged him not to get into my (adult) sons head as I hear him do all the time.
He is playing a really dirty game now he's met a wealthy client he's having a relationship with. he is projecting on me all the very horrible things he is doing. He's telling my son I'm playing unfair, he's the one who's closing accounts, moving money and pretending he's having a tough time. Now my son believes him. This man's quote to me is no one will beat him..He crosses professional boundaries unchallanged

2007-05-18 01:47:35 · 18 answers · asked by dragon 2

I don't understand why in the world a married man would want to get his tongue pierced. I don't have anything pierced but my ears. He got a tatoo about 5 years ago. Thoughts or reccomendations? I'm trying to talk him out of it because I find the "benefits" to be a turn off.

2007-05-18 01:40:25 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous