my boyfrirend wants to get married!?

Question

my boyfriend wants to get married and have a kid! should i marry him? he is really nice and cute but im only 19. should i wait till next year? i really like him though?????????

Answer 1

You "like" him? He's "nice" and "cute"? Doesn't sound like this is someone you should marry. You need to love the person you marry - you'll need it to get you thru the rough times.
If you are at all uncertain (and you are, or you wouldn't be posting here) you should not get married.

Answer 2

You are pretty young to be getting married. I'm sure you're getting sick of hearing this, but it's true. I'm not saying things might not work out if you DO get married but think of a few things first. Your education. If your marriage fails, are you prepared to be a single mother? Have you reached some educational goals to ensure that you can have a decent paying job? Your goals in life. Do you know what these are? Have you really questioned what kind of life you want to live? Being nice and cute is great but it does not make a marriage. If you are thinking of going forward with this, get some pre-marital counseling to make sure you are both on the same page. I got married at 24 and we did the counseling thing. Its great to have someone older and wiser make you question things that you're probably not even thinking of now. The most important thing before getting married is knowing yourself. This goes for the both of you. Be two whole people with common interests that come together and create a life. not two people who have no idea what marriage is all about. Good luck :)

Answer 3

really liking him is not enough. ur 19? if u attend college then wait until after u graduate and get a good job. if not then wait until u get A LOT of money saved up: 1.) to get ur own place right NOW and 2.) for the future. remember 62% of marriages end in divorce. so u must be absolutely possitive that u want to spend the rest of ur life with him. u cant just go by how u feel. u must also take into account financial circumstances as well. a good idea is to get engaged, and live with the guy for about a year before u get married.

Answer 4

Well, the ideal situation is if you loved him, not "like". Also, you have to think about your kid and how he will be in the father role. I say if you have doubts, wait. He'll still be there. Get to know him better emotionally. Then if you feel that he's the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with, then go for it. But imo, I say wait. You can't marry someone just cuz they're nice, cute and you like. But it's up to you. Good luck!

Answer 5

You really like him? That's it? You don't love him? Ok, that's a very good reason to get married and have a kid. (You can just hear the sarcasm dripping off that statement.)

Marriage is not something to be taken lightly. It's a lot of work. If you are asking on Y!A if you should marry your boyfriend, you are certainly not ready to handle the responsiblities of married. I would remain single until you can make your own decisions.

Answer 6

19?! Are you kidding me?! No way sister.
You've got to live your twenties, I mean go out have a good time, get all that ansty pantsy stuff out of your system... and THEN settle down. You don't want to be 40 yrs old divorced and unhappy that you didn't live your twenties. I see so many people throw them away and then regret it later because they got married and pregnant way too soon.
You're so young, cherish your youth. Then you'll have more life experience and a little more wisdom to make better decisions later.

If your apprehensive now, consider how it will be after you're married and pregnant . YIKES. One more thing...you said "I really LIKE him though'....

You like him? Listen to yourself. So young, so young. Please do me a favor, and DON'T get married. What the hell's the rush! I'm almost 27 and can't imagine being married or pregnant still! I'm taking my time, deciding what I like and don't like in the opposite sex. There are way too many choices out there to limit yourself to one so quickly and at such a young age.

Answer 7

Wait. Don't rush into anything. If you two do get married you'll have the rest of your lives together, so make sure it's the decision you really want. Time is the best way to become even more certain it is, or to realize that maybe it's not.

Answer 8

Darling, if you're so unsure of the answer you have to ask it on Yahoo Answers and get replies from anonymous people, I'd say you're not ready. If all you can say about him is "he is really nice and cute" than I don't think your emotions run deep enough for that serious of a commitment. Evalute yourself. Could you see yourself with him in ten years? In Five even? Marriage is a serious thing, and it's a long-term promise.. a life-long promise. Take it slowly and consider all aspects of your relationship. It's ok to say "I'm not ready for that yet" God bless you :)

Answer 9

People should not get married because their boyfriends are "nice and cute". They should marry persons who are level-headed, responsible, ambitious, have a financial plan, love children, and are prepared to be in it for the long haul.

It is always best to have a long courtship and a short engagement, so wait a little before you accept, so as to give yourself enough time to discover whether or not he is "husband material".

Answer 10

You sound very immature (I'm sorry, not trying to insult you)..."i really like him though"--that is NOT a reason to marry...you marry a man because you're ready to establish a life and family with someone, and becasue you have met the man you just can't imagine spending the rest of your life without.