just need to get through today - one day at a time.. if you have been thru this - I just need to hear that good things are coming. Usually i can get through but today it's hard again.
2007-05-18 05:13:48 · 31 answers · asked by Centered 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is ending because his family verbally and pschologically abused me for years. HE DID NOTHING except feel caught up in the middle and cry. I refused to take more abuse and fought back, but in the process lost respect for him for being so weak and a mama's boy. Finally, i started to yell and scream at him and he couldn't take it. So in his eyes it's my fault.
2007-05-18 05:35:09 · update #1
Sorry to hear that! But this day will pass....
2007-05-18 05:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through a divorce. I can't even imagine the depth of pain and sadness that you are going through. Please remember that God is always with you and He only gives us challenges that he knows that we can overcome. I wish there was something that I could tell you that would make you feel better. I will keep you in my prayers - I will ask God to give you the support and guidence that you need to get though this. Do you have friends or family that you could spend time with and talk to? Just know that you are not going through this alone - there are always people out there that care.
Let Go and Let God.
God Bless You - today, tomorrow and always.
2007-05-18 05:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by Case 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been through a divorce not that long ago, but I'm the one who filed. I guess I beat him to it. Even so, it's a very sad way to end a marriage that you thought was forever. You will experience many up & down days, but in time, there will be more up days than down. Just take one day at a time. I know that's easier said than done but it's true. Try to keep yourself busy & surrounded by loving friends & family when possible. It's a nice time of the year, so try to spend time outdoors each day. I walked daily & that helped to clear my head. If you have any hobbies, try to focus on them. Truthfully, going through something like this will make you a much stronger person in the end. I wish you all the best. Keep your chin up. :)
2007-05-18 05:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I actually filed for my divorce this past Wednesday. (I filed because he walked out and moved in with some other girl, but then refused to pay for the divorce, just FYI.) So I understand how you feel.
Take it one day at a time. Focus on yourself, work, kids if you have any, other family members. One thing I have been working on since my husband left is raising my self esteem and getting back to me, because he pushed me to make a lot of changes in my life. I'm also repainting the kitchen the color I want, and other silly little stuff like that, to kinda reclaim my life as my own.
I'd like to add that I truly believe that there is someone better out there for me, and for you too, and we should both learn from the mistakes we made this time around. It gets easier as it goes, I think. Good luck, and if you want to talk, please message me.
2007-05-18 06:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Trisha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I haven't been thru a divorce but I've been thru serious baby daddy drama. And I can say that you will get through this. How I figure is that there are alot of people in this world who have gone through the same situations and even worse situations. And if they can find the rainbow at the end and find the strength to move on and live life for themselves, then I'm strong enough to do it too.............and if I and many people can get through it.........then you're strong enough to get through it. And the end of a storm you'll always find a rainbow.... you just have to look out the window sometimes. Good luck!!!
2007-05-18 05:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by chacha 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Congratulations!!!!
I'm not sure the grounds for your divorce, but the process is like a flu shot. Just go in, make a payment and you're done. Enjoy your freedom.
I know it's tough...I've been there, but you'll lose years of your life if you dwell on it. Take a few months to "get over it" and then enjoy being Ms. Independent.
I hope kids weren't involved. If so, that makes it a lot tougher.
Either way, best of luck to you!!!
2007-05-18 05:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by michaelyoung_airforce 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just think that things happen for a reason. I myself have not gone through this, but two of my brothers have. And I've been with them since the beginning. Good things will come for you in the future, but you can't let your self come down. Specially if you hace any children. Now you have to think on them and only them. If they see you down, they will suffer even more, but if they see you strong it will make it easier for both you and them. It will be hard at the beginning but little by little the pain will be going away.
Good luck and wish you the best
2007-05-18 05:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by shygirl22 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes, as much as it hurts, a fresh start is the best thing that can happen to you. I've been through it and it turned out to be a great blessing to be out of that situation. No one should have to be unhappy.
What's up with the thumbs down? You try to be encouraging and get kicked in the teeth.
2007-05-18 05:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by 55Spud 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're a wonderful person...sometimes people can't accept change and growth...sometimes people can't stay committed...whatever the reason, you're now being given the opportunity to share your gift and love and talents and smile with someone who's going to appreciate you. He laughed in my face when he left...his life is awful now. Don't wish any ill will on him but know that good things await you and are yours for the taking. Change is hard but, you will make it and excel. God Bless you.
2007-05-18 05:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by Emerald Jones 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you will get through this and will be a stronger person for it. It is hard during the time it is happening, but remember, this too shall pass. I made it, you are going to make it.
And things will get bettern and better - hang in there.
2007-05-18 05:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you come to the edge of all the light you know, and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, FAINT is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught how to fly.
-Barbara J. Winter
2007-05-18 05:22:46 · answer #11 · answered by OZ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋