Marriage & Divorce - 16 May 2007

I am 34 years old and I definantly am in my prime. As for my husband he is 42 and I always have to go to him to give it up. It is very frustrating!! We have been married for 6 years and we have 2 children so there are few windows of opertunity. But he seems like he is never interested. And I know it isn't me, what is his problem??? Is it his age or is there something else wrong. Do men over 40 have issues?? I have needs too and if I can't get them fofilled than I guess it has to take greater measures. Oh yeah and even when I do approch him with this he just fluffs it off like there is nothing wrong. Maybe I should disolove viagra into his coffee.. I am losing my mind!!!!

2007-05-16 22:59:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need some good advice. I have been married 1 yr, I am 20yrs old, have a 11 mnth old and am expecting my second baby to my husband in 3 wks. I love him so much but we always argue about little things that turn into huge things. He doesnt get along with my parents, I dont get along with his. I'm sick of arguing in front of my child and dont want my children brought up around this. The other night we had a huge argument and he ended up punching me in the face and ripping my hair. I know he loves me so much and I'm scared of what my life would be like without him, that I would be lonely and dont want another guy. It wasn't his fault he hit me, coz I was arguing and yelling at him. What should I do? He wants me back and our baby is due in 3 wks.

2007-05-16 22:31:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

There is this girl that works with my husband, you can see she's into him, He is friendly in general..that doesn't bother me, the thing is she is not respecting the fact that we are married, she keeps doing stuff like taking pics of him infront of me and I don't know if I should confront her or behave like a ***** and maybe she will get the message or I'm just going to make everything worse...What is best ? To be indiferent or to mark your territory ?

2007-05-16 22:31:00 · 31 answers · asked by kari 1

You left your job to look after your frequent sick child. You spent all your savings to pay for food, medical, phone bills,etc. Also the housing loan. Hubby doesn't give you a single cents yet kept criticizing on your cooking, cleanliness of the house and even have strict rules on how things are to be run in the household.
Your bubbly girl enjoy staying with the aunties rather than at home cause daddy and grandpa will shout at her when she a bit loud (laughing).
You have so many talks with your hubby, but nothing changed. You felt like pack and go with your little girl. Will you if you are in her shoes?

2007-05-16 22:07:49 · 12 answers · asked by search4souls 1

2007-05-16 21:46:45 · 15 answers · asked by jaded 1

My twelve year old son stays with his father and I'm remarried. My husband I and are taking our boat out to the lake this weekend and we ask my son if he was going to join us? My son said " That his father and him are going camping at the same lake that we take our boat to and they will meet us on the boat dock". When I told my husband what my son told me my husband said " Tell him to buy his own boat".(meaning my Ex) What should I do I stuck in the middle. My husband doesn't like my Ex-the father of my son. How do I explain this to a innocent 12 year old boy.

2007-05-16 20:33:14 · 14 answers · asked by jnnfchar 3

we have been married for 9 yrs.. have 2 kids.. and recently while cleaning his cabinet i saw a letter to his ex.... appologize for leaving her without words...and ask for her forgiveness..he wrote the letter 2 yrs ago..how should i react?..

2007-05-16 19:42:16 · 18 answers · asked by saroja 1

Me and my husband have been married since December. We have alot of issues with his ex-wife. Just a couple of weeks ago he was thinking about leaving me so I did not have to put up with his ex's crap any more. Well he decided the best way to deal with her is to take her to court. He paid the attorney half of the money and then never called him back or paid the other half. Last week he started to talk about buying a house. Right now we live in an apartment. I asked him if we could just wait a year because we have so much going on in our lives. He got upset and went to try and get a loan. Well he got one and we know the house we want because I seen it a few months ago and loved it. I am getting ready to get $16,000.00 for a workmans comp claim and he is getting ready to get $7,500.00 for half of his bonus for the army reserves. Well he wants me to put my money towards the house because he said he has bills to pay with his. Well I wanted my truck paid off. I just need some advice. Thanks

2007-05-16 19:38:56 · 11 answers · asked by melinda d 2

i have really bad temper problems and as he says "i don't know what to say things at the rite time" or you know i say wrong things at the wrong times...i m so depressed rite now

2007-05-16 19:32:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

is being divorced a warning sign to stay away, do you see it as a flaw, or don't think to much of it knowing how common divorce is in these days.

2007-05-16 19:16:38 · 14 answers · asked by VM96 1

What are some tips (or links) for novice investors in the stock market.

such as different types of markets, intrest rate changes, news sources, diversification plans and such

Do keep in mind, we're novices, not experts

2007-05-16 19:09:06 · 2 answers · asked by Mercury 2010 7

first of, don't judge me 4 saying this, but it was an arrange marraige & i wuzn't ready 4 it. but soon i accepted everything & was so happy & even happier ven i had a daughter. but we never really had so much of a gr8 understanding. & yes due 2 arrange marraige, he is much older dan me & nothing of our interests r the same. I am a completely diff person as who he wants me to be. da things dat he likes r just not in my nature (i m extremely simple and don't know much about the world since i wud only be in my room all the time) although i do want 2 change myself but yet am so frustrated of how to be all the things i am not. (bold, outgoing, sensible, smart) etc. Although he is extremely cooperative & loving but recently we had an argument & i gave him "permision" 2 go find another girl who he likes...& he has started dis new class & the 1st day he told me dere r only 2 guys n de class...so now he shaves daily, dresses nice & is recently listening to romantic songs which he never did b4!

2007-05-16 19:01:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

They've behaved so badly. All our children are suffering, his 4 and our 2. They've lied, cheated continuously behind all our backs, eg. they went on a $40k skiing trip together, 3 days in she called to say she'd made the mistake of her life. She came back, jumped straight into bed with me, "I'll never leave you again" said she left him in Europe over a week earlier. Then wife, sons and I went on a holiday together, happy sexy, fun!? When we returned her lovers wife sent me messages found on his phone my wife sent while we were away."In bed dreaming of Paris".."The stars are the limit of our universe". I confonted her, She justified it saying she had to let him go slowly because he might suicide. I then found out she slept with him only hours before she jumped into bed with me when she came home from her trip. One example of many very hurtful acts. What do I do? What makes people be so cruel. Is she sick? I want my life back. Do I move on or wait? Can I ever trust her? Been Betrayed!

2007-05-16 19:01:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im in a process of filing divorce papers, but my question is now that i live with my girlfriend of 4 years and our daughter; will this effect my divorce??? My wife and I have not lived together for the past 6 years or so and she cannot claim alimony(she makes more twice then what i make) or anything else. From the beginning of our marriage we kept our own individual things. We both have our seperate bank accounts,houses(luckily we never bought a house together),cars, no kids together,etc.. Basically it all comes down to it was the biggest mistake to marry her, so by me living with girlfriend will this effect my divorce?

2007-05-16 18:56:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-16 18:54:17 · 32 answers · asked by john b 2

Is it wrong to get married at an early age? i kno that it's bad cuz u dont really get to "live life". But what about the saying "live life as if u was gonna die tomorrow"?... I kno most people get married at an early age cuz of pregnacy but i wanna kno how is it, without being pregnant

Does it works out in the long run?

Are there successful marriages out there that really succeed?

Im asking cuz Im not the type that goes out to parties all the time n like being with different guys .. i been with my boyfriend for almost 3yrs n i still love him like crazy n im 17.. I always dreamed of being married n later on having kids.. We wanna get married but we wanna get an apartment first hes 18 n is about to get a really good paying job. And my parents luv him.. But i wanna kno from other people experiences, cuz i havent met anyone that married so early.....

2007-05-16 18:13:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

could you help me how can i find her , i tried to chat , could you find any woman even she is old to marry her. i am out side Europe . and want to marry woman from Europe , could you help me

2007-05-16 17:31:00 · 4 answers · asked by someone 1

My husband works for a prison facility and it requires a lot of his time and energy. When he comes home he's so furustrated with work and all the crap the inmates give him he doesn't have time for me (it seems like). I dont work I take care of my grandmother (whom is sick with Alzihmers) she reqiures 24/7 care and I give that to her. I dont know if it's both our stressfull jobs, but it seems like all we do is fight! What do you suggest we do?

2007-05-16 17:08:53 · 19 answers · asked by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3

"Why buy stale bread when you can get it fresh.? That kind of hurt my feelings.

2007-05-16 16:39:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-16 16:28:10 · 20 answers · asked by gangstergal_onlyone 1

My theory is that you will most liketly find your mate at age 18 to 21. My reasoning is that biologically we are most receptive to a mate at this age.

2007-05-16 16:11:21 · 29 answers · asked by Nancy B 4

I am having feelings about my ex-husband for the past three years. We broke up 10 years ago. In my sleep I dream that we are getting back together. He is a wonderful father to our daughter. He is remarried quickly after we broke up and has been married for 9 years. I would NEVER try to break up his marriage. I told him about my dreams hoping it would stop how I was feeling but it did not work. I did not want the divorce. He ended the relationship due to I was not being the kind of wife I should be (but I was NOT cheating on him). I have changed over the years for the better. I wish I had him back but I know he loves his wife although they have problems. I have grieved this relationship the last 3 years and am not over him. Whenever I see him I just wish I had him back. I have tried dating other guys. Once he said he thinks about "what if" sometimes too. I doubt he will get divorced, they have a 6 yr old daughter together. Should I wait around? How can I move on? Will this ever go away?

2007-05-16 16:09:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

We were "officially" married by the town's mayor the day before our actual wedding day (October 28) but we had the big ceremony and stuff on the 29th. I don't even remember why. Our certificate shoes the date of marriage being October 29th. Does this mean the marriage isn't valid, or does it not matter? I'm trying to figure out what to do because we are going to start the divorce process, but wondered if this date issue would have any effect. I need to end this legally and as quickly as humanly possible since I'm supposed to get married July 22nd!! Help!!

2007-05-16 16:01:34 · 4 answers · asked by Lisa G 1

We planed on getting married when i got out of the military. Then we found out that i would make more money if we got married while i was in. so we decided to get married while i was in and not tell any one about us getting married now. and tell everyone that we are going to get married when i get out

2007-05-16 15:42:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married 10 years and I honestly can say that I don't know what love is.

I like my parents and siblings but there is also an equal amount of hate. I never liked anybody enough to say that I truly love them. I mostly hate people.

I like hanging out with they wifey. I would even go as far as to say were are good friends...but the deep love that so many of you women describe....I don't have any of that.

What exactly is love?

2007-05-16 15:37:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

can the courts order me 2 pay child support if the child is not your child?

2007-05-16 15:36:45 · 19 answers · asked by ruslypaul1 1

How many days can you go without sex, without getting irritable......?

2007-05-16 15:34:18 · 32 answers · asked by Solace 4

My husband and i are seperated. We got married at the spur of the moment during a seperation and guess what, we are seperated again. We have been seperated since summer of last year, two months after we said i do. I found out he was cheating during a three week seperation ( the first time) and I am sure it didnt just manifest. It was the same chick I thought he had something before seperation.


My point is to much damage has been done in my view of things. I am getting the help I need to cope with all the damage done from this disfunctional relationship. I want to believe him but the truth is I dont believe in him. Everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie to me. I dont know what to do when he just pushes the issue that we will make it lets just try again. I feel i have no more inside to work with on us. I hate that he comes to visit the kids and makes it look like we are together again. I have a std to remind me of what he is really about. Am I wrong about him or is it presu

2007-05-16 15:30:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-16 15:26:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been thrown threw ringer with my fiancee quite a few times over little things these past few weeks and he is constantly getting upset with me over little things and it really hurts my feelings....I don't have fun with him anymore, I mean I understand we have been together for 5 years and we have two children together but I don't get thefact that he is always complaining....I try to do everything I can think of to keep him from having anything to complain about but he ALWAYS finds something that irratates him and gets him going....we are getting married in 2 months and I have been waiting for this for what seems like FOREVER but I want to find a way to make things easy going and calm and exciting (mentally and sexually) what can a girl do to change this aggravating behaviour without having to leave the relationship???

2007-05-16 15:26:06 · 16 answers · asked by Sam Fisher 3