What do women think of divorced men?

Question

is being divorced a warning sign to stay away, do you see it as a flaw, or don't think to much of it knowing how common divorce is in these days.

Answer 1

I would think that most women would tread carefully and wonder what went wrong.
However if there is open communication and the man openly expresses himself truthfully I don't think much is thought about it.
And if the woman is judging, then the Man should walk...because there would just be turmoil and who would want a relationship like that...It matters what you think (the man) too.

best wishes

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with divorced men however, some women think it is a bad thing because they know that the Ex already took his *** down through there and it's hard to run a muck because they have already been there and done that. Divorced men have experience. I hope that this sounds right without sounding to harsh. I'm married, this is my first marriage and my husbands second. Example: When I cry my husband questions if it real. His Ex must a cried a river(lol)

Answer 3

Divorce isn't always the man's fault. Strange coming from a female huh? It's true. I know women that had great husbands and they're the one who wrecked they're marriage to the men. I've met some divorced men that were just to nice, and that's why they're divorced, because the women used that against them and took them for all they could, even in the end. Some men are divorced because they were abusive, but those kind cannot really hide they're true side, it shows no matter how much they try to hide that side of themselves. I feel for a lot of men because I know the things women will try to pull on them, especially if they are "too nice".

Answer 4

I, too, am divorced and I have always wondered the same thing. Are men going to stay away from me because it has somehow been proven that I am lousy at marriage? Then I realized that it is pretty much in my mind.

Once you get close to someone else, they WILL want to know the reason behind your divorce. As long as you are honest about it (and the reason is not too terrible), I see no reason why it should be held against you.

Women tend to be very understanding. Just show them the beauty of your personality and character, and leave the rest to love!

Answer 5

No. Most people get divorced anymore, so it is a fact of life. Lifetime marriages are a thing of the past.

I would start to wonder if someone were a certain age and hadn't been married. Commitment issues, etc.

Now if a person had been married and divorced multiple times, short term marriages, etc. I would see those as red flags too.

Answer 6

When we are young, we are idealistic, and hope to live a perfect life.

We expect to find the man/woman of our dreams, and to live happily every after.

We believe in love, and we are convinced that the flame of passion will last forever.

We see divorce as an ill, and we are sure that will never happen to us.

But life plays tricks on us.

While I have never got married (and have already crossed that off my plans), I have had some other disappointments in life.

So, I don't give divorced people a bad look.

Furthermore, I now know that happens to the best ones.

Answer 7

I am a divorced woman, so I don't think it would be fair to judge someone for that. Also, at my age, (in my thirties) I would find it strange for a man to have not been married, and it would be very difficult to find one my age who hasn't been married. I have met a handful of men my age who have never been married. Usually they were engaged and it got called off or something like that. But anyway, when I first got divorced I felt like I had a big letter D on my forehead, but I got over it. In other words, don't worry about it. There are plenty of women who understand that life throws a lot of curve balls at you.

Answer 8

Well, i just got engaged to a divorced man, and I love him to death.. having said that, when he first told me he was divorced, the red flags went up.. but my mother has been married three times now, so I know that people make mistakes and they shouldn't be forced to live with them for the rest of their lives. In my hubby-to-be's case, his ex-wife was a nasty piece of work who cheated on him and even slashed him with a knife at one stage. Once I knew the whole story I applauded him for having the courage to get out of such a bad situation, and still be able to love someone else.

All in all, I think if a man has really tried to make their marriage work but for whatever reason, it just couldn't, then I won't judge harshly

Answer 9

I'm a divorced woman and I see no reason why a divorced man should be someone to staw away from, just because he divorced.

Answer 10

Personally I'd prefer to stay away from divorced guys cos I hate dealing with other people's baggage, but let's face it, if a girl really likes a guy she'll put up with all sorts of shite.