My twelve year old son stays with his father and I'm remarried. My husband I and are taking our boat out to the lake this weekend and we ask my son if he was going to join us? My son said " That his father and him are going camping at the same lake that we take our boat to and they will meet us on the boat dock". When I told my husband what my son told me my husband said " Tell him to buy his own boat".(meaning my Ex) What should I do I stuck in the middle. My husband doesn't like my Ex-the father of my son. How do I explain this to a innocent 12 year old boy.
2007-05-16 20:33:14 · 14 answers · asked by jnnfchar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I read the answers you got. I do not agree with alot of them. I would not take my new husbands ex-wife on a boat trip and I know he would not take my ex-husband on a boat trip. But you are right you do not tell your son. You tell your ex husband. One answer said that it might just be your son going and your ex is taking him to the dock. So I would talk to the ex and tell him that it is just your son going on the boat trip with you two. And yes you and your son are stuck in the middle.
2007-05-16 20:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by melinda d 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You explain that you are wanting some alone time with your just son. If it is your weekend, you may want to speak to his father and tell him that this weekend you and your husband want it just to be the 3 of you. (Hubby, you, and son)
And for the same reason you don't want to hurt your son, it may be the same for him. Your son may be the one who wanted you all to get together. And your ex would more than likely rather die than do so. So, give him an easy out. And for the boy, you all could try to manage lunch or dinner together once for his sake.
2007-05-17 05:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean how do you tell your son?! You mean how do you tell your husband...Tell your husband to grow up and that your son wants to spend time with you and that your son will always come first, if he's gonna throw a hissy fit just because he doesnt like your ex husband then tell him to go camping alone while you join your son and your ex husband(for the sake of your son)
2007-05-17 03:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be adults about it for your sons sake! Tell your ex next time we'll use your boat, and tell your husband that you son will be crushed.
(Use your boat implying in a some what polite manner that he needs to get his own, with out causing a fight or anything of that sort)
2007-05-17 03:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by blondiegurl4388 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You tell your current husband that was a mean thing to say and that he should apologize. It put you in the middle and you don't appreciate that. All you want to do is spend time with your family. If he has a problem with that. Tell him to jump ship and drive the one you have to get your son.
2007-05-17 06:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you meet up with your son and your ex, spend a little while with your son, then tell him that you think it's a good idea he spend this time with his father. Since he did originally have plans with his father, just say that you don't want to intrude on that time with him, and you'll plan to go out on the boat with him another time.
2007-05-17 04:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by mmcmahonoakley 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are making it harder than it needs to be. I didn't notice that you invited the ex so just because the kid is gonna meet you doesn't mean everyone with him is allowed to join him and the ex should be adult enough to understand he is not invited and it would not be too rude to say that to him because it isn't really your boat to decide whether to invite the ex or not anyway ... i am guessing the new husband bought the boat so just because you married him i don't think that means the boat is half yours
2007-05-17 03:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
you dont ,you tell your husband to talk to the dad and explain that he[your ]husband doesn't wish to spend time w/x that this event is /open invite for child not the /x,you could explain to your son that u dint extend the invite to dad but son is welcome ,but you do understand that he has other plans that weekend/,question ? how will you people react when you run into them at that lake ,grow up people the child is trying to have a life with all his favorite people.would your hubby deni him that ?
2007-05-17 03:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by Hana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont. Tell your husband to grow up and go pick you son up he has nothing to do with it. If you husband cares about him he ll suck it up and not say anything to the ex while the son is around.
2007-05-17 03:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
actually u r right this is really difficult to convince 12 year child but if u are having talking terms with ur ex one then u can talk with him & tell him to change his programme for camping in the same lake .i think this is the only remedy which can save u.
2007-05-17 03:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋