Marriage & Divorce - 16 May 2007

How did you meet your wife, how old were you when you found her and where, how long did you date her before you proposed, how did you propose, and how many times did it take before she said yes?

2007-05-16 11:34:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

that men play games and how many of u men think that women play games?

My dear friend thinks that noone plays games and that ppl actually know what they want and its up to them how they chose to handle things anyway after he explained it to me I thought hmmm "that makes sense". So u tell me is there anyone out that shares his thinking.

2007-05-16 11:28:07 · 19 answers · asked by memyslf&I 3

I have a cuckold fantasy only, I could never watch my with with a mandingo in real life.

After surfing the net and finding many Cuckold groups and websites, I am amazed at how many men have this fantasy and how many really do it with their wives. What struck me is that it is almost all white men and almost always they want to watch their wives with hung black studs. Can anyone shed any light on this subject?

2007-05-16 11:04:31 · 12 answers · asked by Harry 1

Ok..I have this guy friend that when me and him first met..he had a gf...then they got married after i blew him off...I blew him off and then about a little less than a yr later they got MARRIED..but b4 the he would tell me he didnt want to marry her an all that stuff Then i saw him and talked to him recently..and he bitched about her. and he said he was fixing to move out..and he has cheated on her..DOES this mean he is UNHAPPY? Keep in mind that he doesnt say this to get into my pants bcuz he knows better..we are JUST FRIENDS..I am just wondering how could he possibly feel about his wife if he is doing so much to hurt her?

2007-05-16 10:58:13 · 19 answers · asked by Shannon 1

we are going to be 5 years married on June 30th but he always forgets our anniversary.... What can I do to let him know that I want to me surprised?

2007-05-16 10:48:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know it's probably just a slip of the tongue- they were married for over 15 years, divorced for over 3 years - and he still has to talk to her about the kids.
I've told him it hurts my feelings and he doesn't do it very often - but why does he do it all all?
I never call him by my ex-husbands name.

2007-05-16 10:45:36 · 18 answers · asked by Kaybee 4

My husband told me if my weight ever exceeded 140 pounds he would divorce me. I am now 5' 4" and 132 pounds. I try to eat healthy and work out. Why would he say this?

2007-05-16 10:44:48 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has admitted he cheated and has tried everything within his power to gain my trust again. He has now begun a "freindship" with another woman. How do I get past all of the hurt and resentment.

2007-05-16 10:26:38 · 46 answers · asked by First L 1

My sis-in-law hates me. No one knows why. She is spiteful, rude, obnoxious, & a royal B!T#$, for lack of better words. I’ve never had a prob with anyone. Until now. She has been a B#$%@ to me ever since day one. I don’t know if it is a racist thing as I am white & my hubby & his family are Hispanic. There have been SEVERAL arguments all where I have been the bigger person & apologized just to smooth things over (see my other question). She even showed her @.$.$ @ our wedding. I was pissed, why on they day of our wedding?? BTW - She is 31 yrs old & I am 22. So the good person in me sends her a Mother’s Day Card just to get all of this passed us. But what does she do?? She makes childish comments on her myspace about the dresses I picked for the wedding. WHAT IS HER DEAL?!?!?! My hubby is FED up. He got pissed @ her like always, but when he takes up for me & yells @ her, he takes it out on me. He makes me feel guilty about getting upset by the things she does!! He told me that he is loosing his whole family & makes me feel like it is all my fault – AND I DON’T KNOW WHAT I HAVE DONE TO HER!!! I have tried probably more than 4 time to make amends with her, but she ALWAYS comes up with SOMETHING to cause a scene.

2007-05-16 10:24:19 · 30 answers · asked by *Fickle Pickle* 4

I love MY husband BUT everytime we argue... I think of all hes done to me even BEFORE we were married. And that builds sooooo much anger and hostility, so much that I cannot even look at him. I dont know if this is normal to have that and worse sometimes I throw it back in his face..all that he's done to hurt me. I sometimes ponder and think and get mad all over again..I love him BUT i hate feeling anger and hatred towards him. I get up, go to work, think of whatever and get distant w/him. When we argue we both say things we dont mean but I ponder on EVERYTHING HE SD!! Any suggestions?

2007-05-16 10:22:10 · 12 answers · asked by heART happY 2

"I cant cut the grass, because I have allergies."
well I said "take some medication and wear a mask, I work too and I do all the house chores" which my husband says he doesnt know how to do - except he will put dishes in the dishwasher sometimes if I ask, and he has done the laundry a few times when i asked otherwise.......
But I am thinking about just hiring someone to do our lawn, we have only been here a few months and our grass has started to grow in and its starting to look terrible, what do you guys think?

2007-05-16 10:17:02 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

You know definetely this woman is his friend because she is almost 20 years older than your husband . The thing is, of course I don't mind if she call my husband but once this lady calling, she will talk between 1-2 hours. She is a single parent so I know maybe she needs somebody to talk to. My husband is a very good listener, so that's why. She doesn't really call that much, like once in a month. but still, I'm not really happy when she call my husband. Could I tell her not to talk to my husband on the phone for a long time? Because my husband also has things to do not only to listen to her complaints/story.

2007-05-16 09:46:10 · 25 answers · asked by Tesco 3

My husband told me about 6 months ago that when we first started dating, but after he told me he loved me, that he almost cheated on me. He was there with the girl, both naked, but for whatever reason he couldn't go through with the act. I am releaved that he didn't go through it but it makes me think differently about everthing the has happened with us. We have 4 beautiful children and other than this the best marriage. I think if we were just dating and he hadn't told me he loved me at the time then I could better get over it but it's not the case. I just wish he wouldn't have told me at all so my memories could be happy one's.

2007-05-16 09:41:07 · 26 answers · asked by milla212004 1

i love my husband and i know hes having a affair...im a good wife, always faithful, we are happy...so why is he doing this? oh and yes, we have plenty of sex...and we dont fight. help

2007-05-16 09:21:31 · 44 answers · asked by leisa k 3

About 8 months ago my husband was conducting himself improperly and I found out. When he was confronted he lied through his teeth until he realized I knew everything, then he came clean. He said he didn't physically cheat on me with this other person. I thought we had this great relationship and now I feel betrayed. This was a huge wakeup call for me and how I pictured our relationship. Anytime I ask him questions about it he either answers what he wants or avoids the questions. I thought I would be able to get over this but I can't seem to trust or forgive him. He says it will never happen again, it was "out of character" for him but I don't believe it. I would have never expected this from him. Everyone keeps telling us to go to counseling but that is not an option at this time. How do I deal with this?

2007-05-16 09:20:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend of three years and I are in the process of overcoming a long-term online affair that he had. It ended over six months ago. I'm probably much more jealous now than I should be, so I tend to get upset too easily over anything that involves another woman. Here's the situation: my boyfriend has just begun one-on-one scuba diving lessons with a woman instructor. I'm jealous of the time they spend together, but he tries to be understanding of that fact. However, yesterday, he went to the dive shop (which is in another town) to get equipment. I made a playful comment about him "going to see her" and he insisted he was just going to the shop and she would not be there. However, last night, I saw on his phone that he had called her. When I asked if he had seen or talked to her, he said no. I finally confessed that I saw his phone and he then told me that he had seen her and had called her to meet him there, but that he can't tell me those things because I'm too jealous.

2007-05-16 09:13:05 · 26 answers · asked by Mel 6

Ladies, I'll try to make a long story short. My dh & I have been married 5 years, together 7. We were close friends before dating and knew almost everything about each other. We got together at a friends wedding reception when he was with a really slutty chick and I pulled him aside and told him he could do so much better than that and expressed my feelings for him. Until now this has been our romantic "story" of how our relationship began. Last week though we were joking around and he admitted to sleeping with her that same night.

It seems ridiculus to be jealous about this since he married me and we now have a 3 year old son. However, I am litterly physically ill about the fact that had I known about this I would not have dated him 7 years ago. I feel betrayed that this lie (and he lied about it all these years--I asked a long time ago) almost like it happened a month ago, as he claimed to have "feelings" for me at that time.

How would others feel and what would you do

2007-05-16 09:10:55 · 41 answers · asked by monkey mom 2

i already have a lawyer and she is lying about the situation I am devastated because i LOVE my 3 sons and i can not see them and can not call either the children she went to the movies with me and the 3 kids 5 days after she file for protective order. and she is lying that i told her i am going to shoot her and attempt to hit her. I will never do that because i know in texas HOUSTon you go automatically to jail. need help i still love my wife and i want to go back home w/ her and the 3 kids CAN SHE DROPPED IT or what can happen. I hope she will feel mercy and think about how much i love her and the 3 sons we have. ASAP HELP.

2007-05-16 09:10:03 · 11 answers · asked by nanuk 1

I have 4 kids and 1 of then does not live with me he lives with my mother I have custody of him. Now I have 3 other children and they all have the same Dad and they all live with me! I want their dad out of the house he has no job and he watches the kids. I am tired of him living off of me! He thinks that i am a bad mom cause my oldest does not live with me! What am i suppose to do! I want out so bad!! I have a good job, my own car and I rent the house we live in. Is there any chance that he would get the kids? He has not worked in 9 years what can i do? He is very intimidating. And i am afraid to leave he has said somethings to me that are not so nice. I just want out of this crappy relationship that has been suffocating me for 5 years now!!

2007-05-16 09:06:40 · 13 answers · asked by jj&jslt 2

ok we were with each other for 11 years, married for 5, seperated for 1 year. we have 2 kids so we still talk and we see each other. we've become good friends. we had our problems finally before we split he tells me he wasnt in love anymore. so its one year later. we still have sex about once a week. i'm still in love with him but finally after all this time it clicked with me that he's just a selfish jerk. we were planning on going on this trip to see our favorite sports team later on this summer, it was always our dream to go and somehow something always came up but this year seemed like a good time to go as friends. but while planning other entertainment for our trip i mentioned a show i wanted to see and he said, he had no plans to see any show with me. makes me feel he still has no desire to make me happy even a bit, even as friends. we are very friendly with eachother. so the trips planned, tix bought, airfaire purchased, room reserved. should i just end all contact with him?

2007-05-16 09:06:38 · 18 answers · asked by nodramafor2007 2

My sis-in-law hates me. No one knows why. She is spiteful, rude, obnoxious, & a royal B!T#$, for lack of better words. I’ve never had a prob with anyone. Until now. She has been a B#$%@ to me ever since day one. I don’t know if it is a racist thing as I am white & my hubby & his family are Hispanic. There have been SEVERAL arguments all where I have been the bigger person & apologized just to smooth things over (see my other question). She even showed her @.$.$ @ our wedding. I was pissed, why on they day of our wedding?? BTW - She is 31 yrs old & I am 22. So the good person in me sends her a Mother’s Day Card just to get all of this passed us. But what does she do?? She makes childish comments on her myspace about the dresses I picked for the wedding. WHAT IS HER DEAL?!?!?! My hubby is FED up. He got pissed @ her like always, but when he takes up for me & yells @ her, he takes it out on me. He makes me feel guilty about getting upset by the things she does!! He told me that he is loosing his whole family & makes me feel like it is all my fault – AND I DON’T KNOW WHAT I HAVE DONE TO HER!!! I have tried probably more than 4 time to make amends with her, but she ALWAYS comes up with SOMETHING to cause a scene.

2007-05-16 08:59:40 · 14 answers · asked by *Fickle Pickle* 4

Some lad`s question inspired me to ask....and well, i am in a kinda similar situation...
he wanted to know whether it is better to wait until u graduate from college and marry a woman or have a gf while ur studying.
This guy who likes me thinks the same, well, he told my friend he liked me but as he works a lot he wouldn`t have time for a gf and that he would marry me in 3 years....
honestly, i was shocked, i like him, but hey he already wants to marry me...
why do some guys think like this?
I think it is not bad at all, but i want to hear ur opinions...

2007-05-16 08:54:57 · 14 answers · asked by terracotta 2

My husbands family are very critizing and have the better than you snobby *** attuides.They are always looking down on our home,the way we raise our child,even the way that we shop,(more or less where we shop),and our friends.Anyway,I could not tell you how many times I have cried over her comments.My family whom are not so well off love my husband and would never critize anything(unless we were doing something horriable bad)I grew up in a very loving none judgement home.I can't tell with the way his family is.What would you do?

2007-05-16 08:37:43 · 15 answers · asked by what did you say 4

I heard It's supposed to be paper what can I get my Wife?

2007-05-16 08:36:52 · 13 answers · asked by RCMII 2

A inmate and I would like to get marry. We've been talking about it before he got locked up. How do I get A marry license. And were do I go.

2007-05-16 08:32:23 · 11 answers · asked by tttv 1

My husband and I are going through a seperation. He is living in the home we bought and I have moved out. He wants joint custody of our child. But he is having a stranger move in. He placed several ads and does not even know the person moving in. We have not decided on custody arrangements for our child yet. Does anyone not agree that I should go for sole custody? I cannot stand the thought of my child sleeping in a home with a complete stranger. Who knows what their background is! Please help!

2007-05-16 08:27:00 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am ashamed cuz I am going thru my 3rd divorce and feel that no one will ever want me cuz of it. I've got my faults, but tend to pick abusive men & now it's been over a year since I've been with my soon to be ex and feel as if everyone will run the other way. I am seeing a counsellor, trying to make sure the next person is right for me, but I feel like a total failure. I just want a normal relationship. I know some of you will probably think it's better to be alone, but it's not human nature to want that. I have been very lonely and at times have considered trying to stop the divorce, but I know that I can't do that to my children anymore. I started dating someone and he told me last night that his family and friends mentioned how scary, she has been divorced 3 times... I haven't stopped crying about it... I am 44 and feel like such a failure... I just want to be loved and not hit or verbally abused.

2007-05-16 08:26:40 · 14 answers · asked by Oula 3

I have a 3 year realationship with a woman with kids , but she still lives with her husbant ,iven if they don't actually have a life together, meening they not intimate 2 years now or more.
She keeps saying she will divorce, and i believe she wants too.. but she keep delaying it and says she is frigtened for the kids, and she will do it , but can't do it yet caus it's not the right time, and than she always adds : "yet" (it's not the right time yet) I know we're very much in love , but she older than me by 13 years.. what the hell shall i do caus i can't live without her, and living with her but not really with is kinda driying me. Help ?

2007-05-16 08:26:18 · 8 answers · asked by r!7u4l 2

How do you deal with a passive-aggressive husband, who doesn't seem to give a care about anything concerning me or my interests. Is he just not that into me?

2007-05-16 08:24:22 · 5 answers · asked by stella 2

Lets just say that a person that you care for alot and is a parent to you in so many different levels of life just got cheated on by the person that they have adore and have been honest more than 10 years, how do you gain trust and believe in love again after you seen that no matter how long you been with a person they still dont understand the meaning of love?

2007-05-16 08:18:52 · 12 answers · asked by jaydra 1