what do you do when your husband says:?

Question

"I cant cut the grass, because I have allergies."
well I said "take some medication and wear a mask, I work too and I do all the house chores" which my husband says he doesnt know how to do - except he will put dishes in the dishwasher sometimes if I ask, and he has done the laundry a few times when i asked otherwise.......
But I am thinking about just hiring someone to do our lawn, we have only been here a few months and our grass has started to grow in and its starting to look terrible, what do you guys think?

oh I must add my husband always says: "you shouldve picked up that I was lazy before you married me."

Answer 1

Hire someone to cut your grass. I did and it has worked out great because the guy (and his crew) are very reliable. They shovel/plow my snow in the winter also. As far as your husband, goes, he puts new meaning to the word L-A-Z-Y. He better wake up and smell the coffee and do more around the house to help because you will eventually resent him for it and move on.

Answer 2

Some persons are allergic to work around the house doing manual work. There are guys that don't know how to change a tire or a light bulb. Some others , like me , have not hired anyone in 40 years to do any work on the house because they can do anything from electricity, carpentry, plumming ,gardening , painting , mechanics etc. I also cook , do the dishes ,sweep and mop the floor ,wash the clothes , put them in the clothline to dry and fold them . My house looks like a hardware store. I have all types of tools and my son is the same . I'm sure I have saved enough in those year to pay for a nice vacation in Europe. The alternative is to buy books in Home Depot on how to do things by yourself in the house. If he is too tired from work don't press him too much as long as there is money to hire somebody. Also dont make the situation look like a big problem. Good luck

Answer 3

Ask one of the teenage kids in the neighborhood to cut it, its almost summer and Im sure they would love to have some extra cash. Ask the neighbors if they know of anyone that wants to earn a few buck a week to come cut the grass. As somone with allergies it really sucks when they are in full bloom and sure we can take the meds but if you have ever taken allergy meds they make you feel cloudy and spaced out...its not very motivating when you feel like you have had a couple drinks in you and want nothing more then to take a nap. Good luck

Answer 4

That's a normal man thing, Hun. I don't use the allergy excuse though. Luckily I have a daughter that I can pay to cut grass. :)
What you do is hire some kid from the neighborhood, preferably a boy. Then tell your husband you got a real man to do the yard. That sounds like something my wife would do to me. Don't forget who pays the kid for doing the work?

Answer 5

hire someone. neighborhood boys might take the job for cheap. My husband works 4 weeks at a time away and a man comes to tend to the yard every so often. he cuts the front and back for 25$. works for me. when my hubby is here he does help clean and does most the cooking though. he likes to cook, and I like being spoiled so it works. Try giving him a taste of his own medicine, and see how that does. Mine used to not pick up after himself at all, I just let the house get trashed until he couldn't stand it. It was his mess, so he couldn't really say anything. Now he cleans up after himself...for the most part.

Answer 6

If you have to hire it out then your husband needs to take another job off your hands. I tried that before thinking it might embarass my husband for the neighbors to see someone else cut the lawn while hes kicked back in his recliner, but no, didnt phase him a bit! gosh why are some men so lazy?!

Answer 7

I think its very probable that your husband is just lazy.

Mine goes out and in the week, he does work from early in the morning to late at night lorry driving. However at weekends I can't get him to do anything. If he goes out to mow the lawn (he bought a new mower at Easter) he ends up using the strimmer and not clearing up after himself. He just leaves the grass in piles to go rotten and wait for me to do it! I've been waiting for him to empty the guttering, dig out the drive (his choice, for four years he's told me he's going to do it) the chances of him ever making new doors for the storage areas and taking the shed to pieces before it blows down are looking minimal. I'm past nagging - I think the next stage is to put the house up for sale without him agreeing, just to see his reaction and see if he will then get the basic maintenance jobs done.

Answer 8

Tell him you have allergies too and the only thing you're going to pick up is his wallet so you can pay the person you hired to cut the grass.

Answer 9

I have the exact same problem your husband does in regards to allergies when cuttin the grass... so I hired somebody to do it for me and now I'm that much healthier feeling... as for the rest, no explanation for it. If he can't do something or doesn't want to do something, then at least have the consideration of hiring somebody to do it, save you a few bucks and pay somebody... what's so hard about that?

Answer 10

I think that marriage is a give and take....It's also about compromising....Household chores and work shouldn't be one person's job in the marriage but, a partnership....You and your husband need to sit down and come to an agreement that works for the both of you....Life is too stressful alone without all the petty things to help fight about......
Good Luck***