ok we were with each other for 11 years, married for 5, seperated for 1 year. we have 2 kids so we still talk and we see each other. we've become good friends. we had our problems finally before we split he tells me he wasnt in love anymore. so its one year later. we still have sex about once a week. i'm still in love with him but finally after all this time it clicked with me that he's just a selfish jerk. we were planning on going on this trip to see our favorite sports team later on this summer, it was always our dream to go and somehow something always came up but this year seemed like a good time to go as friends. but while planning other entertainment for our trip i mentioned a show i wanted to see and he said, he had no plans to see any show with me. makes me feel he still has no desire to make me happy even a bit, even as friends. we are very friendly with eachother. so the trips planned, tix bought, airfaire purchased, room reserved. should i just end all contact with him?
2007-05-16 09:06:38 · 18 answers · asked by nodramafor2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh yeah, after pleading he said fine he'll go see the show so am i over reacting?
i dont think he'll ever change and i've expected it so since we're seperated should i start the divorce and end it all. we stay friends cuz of the kids, thats his stand, i remain friends hoping to get back together. i think i'm living in a fantasy world.
2007-05-16 09:09:53 · update #1
i mean accepted it. haha
2007-05-16 09:10:50 · update #2
thanks everybody...i think i will stop sleeping with him (but the sex's sooo good) still remain friends/friendly becuase of the kids...start the divorce...and start dating. i will still go on the trip with him but will stop letting him "have it all" i'm tired of hurting and want to better myself. i wonder if he'll still want to go himself. lol
2007-05-16 09:27:03 · update #3
You should definitely NOT go.
2007-05-16 09:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by feenixsunshine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't want to go on the trip with him. He'll make things miserable while you're there, you know, and who wants that? I would end all contacts with him and no more "rendevous" with him. He's pretty much getting what he wants and leaving you in the dust. That's not healthy for you and you would be the one to put his foot down. Personally, I can live without great sex from someone who's a jerk =)
2007-05-16 17:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... why are you having sexual relations with him still? you said it yourself he doesn't care about you so why? Second... his plans are to go see the team you both like.... guys don't like going to shows that they won't enjoy it's just retarded. Do you think we care when you say you don't wanna go to a football game with us... no we just find another person to go or whatever. Third... yes you should go on this trip. Why wouldn't you? I mean either way you can either use a trip as vacation or to get at him for using you. I would suggest dating someone and seeing how he reacts.
2007-05-16 16:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by sdotcoonery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may seem, the first thing you are going to have to do is stop having sex with him. Then I think it is best to cancel the the trip, it seems it will just bring on more pain and suffering on your end. You have to get your head straight for your children. If he is treating you like this, then the best thing is to have no contact and if he gets pissed off that you are cancelling explain as best as you can, you need to do this for yourself and your children.
2007-05-16 16:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by ***ME*** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should not keep on sleeping with your "ex". Your only damaging yourself and not allowing yourself to get over him and actually grow. And for the trips that's a no no.... Cut all relationship ties with him! Strictly business with the kids that's all!
2007-05-16 16:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never say you want to lose all contact with him. You have kids that will be really emotionally and mentally hurt if you completely leave him. Try to still be nice to him...at least around the kids.
2007-05-16 16:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by colleenicole! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! Can't you tell that already?? You need to be treated nicely, and you can kind of tell what the only thing he's sticking around for is. he doesn't love you, so drop the trip, concert and him and move on.
2007-05-16 16:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by jegsracing7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should... you giving him the cake and letting him eat it to. he doesnt want to be with you or make you happy but loves reaping your benefits ( sex, the contact,) basically he has the control. He knows when he wants to deal with you he can on his time and when he wants it he gets it. but you on the other hand have to deal with it all on his time or according to how he feels... I think end all contact a person will onlydo to you what u let them and soon u will begin to start to feel used... Let it go
2007-05-16 16:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u guys have w very weird relationship...anyways go on the trip enjoy yourself...have a lot of sex and when u get back cut him off...cold turkey
2007-05-16 16:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by laalaa115 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should go. It is important for the two of you to maintain a good relationship for the sake of your children. If you aren't thinking of them, you're just as selfish as you claim he is.
2007-05-16 16:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by firstythirsty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
End all contact after you go on the trip.
And if you want to see the show; go see the show.
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2007-05-16 16:12:21 · answer #11 · answered by jetski 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋