Lets just say that a person that you care for alot and is a parent to you in so many different levels of life just got cheated on by the person that they have adore and have been honest more than 10 years, how do you gain trust and believe in love again after you seen that no matter how long you been with a person they still dont understand the meaning of love?
2007-05-16 08:18:52 · 12 answers · asked by jaydra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a tough one because these people are adults you're talking about and sometimes adults don't always set the perfect example or even worse they leave the situation too vague and don't tell you enough to feel better. I have been cheated on and beat up and raped and honey let me tell you there wasn't once when I really stopped believing in love; I wanted it too bad. There really are wonderful guys out there still, you just have to look a bit harder for them. The BEST advice I can give you is to not be so quick to jump with those chemical attractions; the romances that start like that often lose that spark just as quickly as it ignited. When you hit a certain point in your life, you'll suddenly look at the most unobvious person with complete realization...... Or at least that's what happened to me... Love does exist..but only when the hope for love is mutual... Good luck; you'll see........
P.S. I'd just like to add that no matter how close you were to this woman or how much you think you know about her, married people don't generally tell other people (even their best friends) everything that is going on behind closed doors... There could be a lot more to this one....
2007-05-16 08:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Bright Future 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because one cheats on you does not mean that they don't love you. Sometimes people may doubt or get caught up in the situation. That is only a few moments out of years together.
I'm not saying it is right. I'm saying it doesn't mean he doesn't love her. "Kiss Sleeping Beauty Goodbye" Is a good book to read.
It points out the fact that women are raised to be a princess waiting for her night in shining armor, a prince. Think of all the fairy tales you have read. Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, etc...Men don't always see it that way. IT is really a helpful book. It isn't harsh but brings situations like this to light. Shrek is more real than most fairy tales. lol
2007-05-16 08:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by Hanlex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well love can be a fickle thing. It's easy to lose your faith in love if someone betrays you. But just like death there is nothing you can do prevent it. Just live each day like it was your last and enjoy each moment you have with those you love because you will never know when it will end. All you can do is except the situation and move on. Grow stronger from your pain and over come your fear of being hurt. Sometimes we all have to take that leap of faith when we meet someone we are falling for. Define your terms when i comes to love. My last ex cheated on me and I forgave her. But a year later I met someone else. I didn't act on it because I hate cheaters. But what I did do was go home pack my stuff and leave her. I told her I love her but it can only be as a friend now because I want to be with someone else. Did it hurt less? No! Love is love. Remember if you love someone set them free. Because love only works if you're free to be yourself not whats expected.
2007-05-16 08:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by Carlos s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, I cannot cheat on someone I love. Simple as that. But I've found that going through life, people are so complex, and this stuff does happen. There are a lot of loose guys out there with loose morals.
2016-05-19 22:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to someone else has nothing to do with your believing in love and fidelity. You have no idea about someone else's relationship and what goes on between them. You, like everyone else, have to grow up and take the leap of faith and hope you gathered enough information in order to make the right choices. It's not always as easy as it looks.
2007-05-16 08:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in some cases its not there fault they were cheated on, that person as dont nothing to you so it shouldnt effect you that way, the person who cheated took the fools way out insted of trying to work it out, its s#ity what happen and for the most part its not there fault, at this time they need support from there loved ones and not doubt there already beating themselves over what happen.
2007-05-16 08:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that persons fault that their significant other cheated on them, therefore you can still believe that love exist and continue to look up to this person.
2007-05-16 08:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still believe in love. After all, with the high rate of divorce, people still go on to remarry - shouldn't that prove something?
2007-05-16 08:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This didn't happen to you, it happened to someone else. You can't judge your future on what someone else's experience has been. That's immature thinking. You have to live your own life, make your own mistakes, and find your own way to happiness. You can't base your opinion of love on what happened to somebody else. Their circumstances may be different from yours. Live your own life, rather than living through other people's eyes.
2007-05-16 08:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the trust is gone and the forgivness may not ever come....the relationship will not be the same....it is hard and it sucks....love usually does not have anything to do with it...it is that person and not being perfect..people make mistakes not hopefully they learn from them.
2007-05-16 08:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by nashvillekat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋