Marriage & Divorce - 16 May 2007

Need help! Signed a PSA that gives EVERYTHING to the ex. Child Support and Spousal Support leave me with 41.67/month to live on, after taxes. Per state guidelines, I am paying 700 more a month in child support and she is not even eligible for spousal. Yet, I cannot find any info on cases that have had this reversed, without proving duress, unconsciable or the such. I signed it, because I believed her when she said it was only for 6 months and would be re-worked when we had new jobs - shame on me. My lawyer basically told me to suck it up and pay it and hopefully get a better paying job at some point, as the court would not overturn a signed PSA...

2007-05-16 08:14:40 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

A woman in a committed relationship may sometimes french kiss, feel up, and do even more with another woman (usually one of her girl friends). She will see this behavior as acceptable, but refuses to consider allowing her partner to do the same thing with other girls.

I have often heard women admit that it is a double standard but it makes sense to them, and that's just the way it is.

I would really like to know a logical answer to this question.

I would also like to know if there is a way to level things where both parties feel like it is fair.

Any ideas?

2007-05-16 08:14:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

we're newly wed's and his attitudes/mood swings are sickening to me. He gets mad at the smallest things, blames his anger on me but rarely communicates to me about the problem..so I have no idea why he's mad, then he ignores me. He won't talk to me for days. He gets in bed at night and literally tries to make a barrier with the covers so that we can't touch. He's even wrestled me off of the bed before because I was touching him! We're always fighting over the smallest stuff that i never think is a big deal, but he'll be furious and hold a grudge for days. I'm tired of fighting for our relationship. I'm sick of ALWAYS being the bigger person. I'm sick of him NEVER being at fault..which makes me the one who's always wrong (in his eyes). I'm tired of crying ALL the time. He has serious issues but won't admit it. He just always tells me I have issues. My family notices his anger. There are times they don't want us around cus they know he'll eventually be mad at something. I wanna be happy.

2007-05-16 08:05:29 · 22 answers · asked by ~fullofluv~ 2

I have been with my bf for 13 yrs and we have 3 wonderful kids together. After a "girls weekend" to Las Vegas, he started accusing me of messing around on him (which i have not done) and also being accused for over 13 yrs. Ran into old bf, spoke on the cell phone occasionally (nothing happened) and current bf found out. Now accused even more of messing around. Bf wanted to kick me out of the house,he says he is over that and now wants to get married. Should I say yes because I do love him? any suggestions

2007-05-16 08:02:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

He said "You need to paint yourself up, you are an embarrasment. He left and I started crying. I dont have time to fix myself up anymore. My life evolves around him and my kids. I noticed the other day that as soon as I sit down for more than 2 minutes to watch a movie at home, my kids or husband call me to do something. I sometimes dont even have time to shower. I sleep at midnight and wake up at 6:30am still exhausted. I dont know to be mad at him for hurting my feelings or should I be grateful that he can be honest with me. I dont want him to cheat on me later on. I need to breathe. I feel like disappearing sometimes. I even got cancer cells a few years ago in my cervix and doctors told me to take it easy so it wont reaccur. I dont know what to do. I need to better myself before I can better my family.

2007-05-16 07:47:09 · 28 answers · asked by cocoa 4

I was just served papers for Child Custody from my son's father who has not been in his life consistently since my son was born, I am going to represent myself, but i want someone to write up my response with out hiring a lawyer, who would i go to? (i.e. Attorny, Paralegal, etc.)??? please help me!! I need to know ASAP as i only have 2 weeks left to respond!!

2007-05-16 07:43:38 · 13 answers · asked by bootyliciouslatina692 2

Am I suppose to file with California or Georgia.....He lives in Tennessee......

2007-05-16 07:38:16 · 16 answers · asked by quantynni 1

Okay- here's the run down.
My husband and I haven't been living together for over a month now. We have been married a year and a half. I moved out because I just was not happy. I was neglected and mistreated. (He never cheated though)
Now, he wants me back and is saying he will change his ways. He cries to me all the time and we have been spending time together for the past week or so. I am afraid he won't ever change... but I still feel so attatched...
However, I dont think I'm still in love with him...
What should I do?? Has anyone tried counseling? is it advisable? or should I throw in the towel and just try to move on?

2007-05-16 07:20:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I trust him & them & they deserve this - so all is good. So good in fact that I told him the only phone call I expected was that he got there ok & when he was leaving.

I want to leave a sexy pic (not naked but ya know kind of wink wink type deal) or note in his over night bag just for fun, but my friends says that I should expect that it would get passed around the campfire. I think that my 48 yr old byf is too mature for that and that he'd just keep it to himself and have something fun to look at while he's away.

Would it be okay to do this or should I just let him go and see me when he gets back?

I am excited that he's going & just want him to have a great time. Our relationship is 7 months young but very serious and we have any extremely healthy sex life.

What do you think?

Also,

2007-05-16 07:18:14 · 16 answers · asked by martiek7 3

You know the question i will give you a million dollars to sleep with you wife
or
A million dollars to sleep with your husband

2007-05-16 07:15:00 · 45 answers · asked by suederay 1

I filed for divorce in October, and my husband will NOT sign the papers because he does not agree with the custody agreement, etc... And mainly because he doesn't want the divorce.-- I DO!!! That's why I filed!!
He is stationed overseas in the military and is protected by law that he doesn't have to do anything regarding any legal proceedings until he returns to the States.
The divorce cannot proceed unless he contacts his attorney and lets her know what he wants to do.. But he refuses to call her.
He is a push over, and I think if his attorney calls him and ASKS what he wants to do, we could actually get something accomplished..
Would it be inappropriate for me to call/email his attorney to ask her to PLEASE call him to encourage him to get this over with?

2007-05-16 07:12:16 · 24 answers · asked by IWantToKnow 2

I have been married 8 years to a drug addict, we have two children. My husband has tried everything to sober up, he is a periodic user and can't yet seem to quite for good. We have separated and dated other people. No one I've dated can measure up to my husband in bed, he is great at that. Plus he is very big and I like that. SIZE does matter after you've become accustomed to it and have had it big. Its hard to have anything else. But I'm tired of his lifestyle for my kids and myself. Will I ever find another man that measures up? I know this is not a good enough reason to stay married, right?

2007-05-16 07:11:53 · 32 answers · asked by Shanny 2

The wife also said I wont tell you until you tell me what you'lldo

2007-05-16 07:09:01 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-16 07:05:22 · 1 answers · asked by red 1

He has been late on payments so we keep, getting letters from the bank, I just want him out of my life. He still owes about 3,000 on the truck, is it too late to get our names taken off the truck paper work.

2007-05-16 07:01:22 · 16 answers · asked by Celi 2

He didn't see anything wrong with being huggy/kissy, attentive to her every need, giving her money/tickets when we are both broke, in front of me!
Things were suspicious for a while-vague/ lying, prob. cheating, did hurtful things to me at the end. I broke up.

I am still attracted to him for some weird reason! I guess when he puts on that stupid charm. I've NEVER been a needy girl, very independant! But I experienced true 'passion' for the first time with him. Maybe want to use him!
I am friends with his good friend. I really don't want to see the ex, but why should I quit going to the nice weekly outdoor spring music concerts because they're there?

Today is the first time I go and his/my friend said to just sit with him and ignore them. He can't stand the girl.
How to handle it? Totally ignore them, though ex will come say Hi. Take the high road? He is NOT the jealous type at all. Flirting with ex, he prob. won't care.
Indulge and tell her off if she comes over she's nervy

2007-05-16 06:44:57 · 11 answers · asked by Marie123 3

2007-05-16 06:43:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-16 06:43:22 · 24 answers · asked by darowdomo 6

rough and it hurts down there, slow sex is like the worst, Im 27 and he is the first I guy I actually like having sex with all the time (i have 2, 3 year past realtionships behind me, and those guys I could have cared less havig sex with) but my new bf, I just want him all the time, he is 11 years older than me. Its driving me nuts cause I can only enjoy it when its rough, I am trying to get him on my side in that department as he said I am the only gf he has had who wanted it this much and like this...I dont know what to do!

2007-05-16 06:40:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

The father of my 8 year old daughter got remarried and his new wife takes every alone opportunity with my daughter to tell her what a b**** I am and that she should ask to move in with them. His new wife also tells my daughter things like she and my ex are going to take me to court so they can take her away from me. This is beginning to cause many problems between my child and I. My daughter is so conflicted with all this that she has developed terrible stomach aches and is now on medication for them. I don't want to restrict her from seeing her father but I don't want her alone with the new wife if she is going to fill my daughter's head with horrible things about me. What approach should I take?

2007-05-16 06:37:49 · 26 answers · asked by Beana 2

Would somebody really stand there with a gun forcing someone to marry?

2007-05-16 06:35:30 · 14 answers · asked by MissLady 1

can someone do something about it? what is thier reasons for increasing the cost of stamps?

2007-05-16 06:33:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been seeing this guy since December,after 3 weeks he went and cheated. I think I was dumb to give him a 2nd chance.
Since I have given him a 2nd chance we have split up twice - he initiated it once andme once. I swear he is an idiot,but the problem is he wants the relationship back that he had in the beginning,and he wants it now and since I cant trust him - hes always in my face and always wanting to be coddled like a 2 year old..He is going no wheres in life because he has no ambitions - me on the other hand - I have a lot of ambitions,but I feel like he is bogging me down. We cant have a normal discussion - he always repeats himself - and when he doesnt get his way - he sulks and will sulk in a corner and talk to himself. he wants to go to counceling and I refuse because my theory is if we need counceling this early in the relationship,then there are serious issues and shouldnt be a relationship.His family sees the same thing I do..I am 4 1/2 months pregnant,but not by him

2007-05-16 06:25:19 · 38 answers · asked by country_girl 5

Me and my husband are divorcing and I am from California and plan on returning there. He is from Canada and he plans on staying in Canada. How can we share our daughter (3 years old) through the year? I don't think it's possible. He said he will fight for full custody and now I am afraid of losing her. I don't think you can have a child in 2 different school systems thoughout a school year. I am afraid that it is also too hard on the child. Someone will probably have to have full custody. I want her for the school year but he won't budge. Any advice?

2007-05-16 06:19:03 · 6 answers · asked by Rose R 1

I want to know this...please tell!

2007-05-16 06:18:41 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

the grandparents have legal custody of the child.

2007-05-16 06:09:22 · 3 answers · asked by PB 1

well educated woman, with a great personality, and she has a good job. She is caucasian. You discover she has one child, a 3 year old girl. If you haven't already started moving down the road, how much would it affect your decision to continue a relationship if her daughter was black? Be honest

2007-05-16 06:08:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

my sister inlaw has sex for hrs with her man and I am ask you guys think it is guss or good.

2007-05-16 06:03:16 · 19 answers · asked by Michelle L Law 1

I was served a paper to answer for a Notice of Appearance to her attorny then what???

2007-05-16 05:57:57 · 8 answers · asked by Bob N 1

Ever since me and my husband got married, he's been extremely busy with a new job (crazy hours) in addition to his own lawn service. Lately, it seems like i'm feeling really neglected like he's losing love for me, because he seems to not want to alter his personal schedule at all to spend time. To me it seems like he's enjoying being away from home. We have been arguing alot lately also because I'm suspecting him doing some cheating (maybe it just my hormone/emotions). We haven't even had the chance to go on a honeymoon. It seems like he doesn't understand that I'm missing him that's all. When I express this to him, the only thing he says, Do you want to switch roles so you can start paying the rent.. What's going on with him. I'm getting really frustrated. does he want out of the responsibility of marriage. I'm beginning to nag him alot. I don't want to start cheating on him either. How can I pull myself together with this situation? Should I leave or stay?

2007-05-16 05:46:13 · 5 answers · asked by stella 2