I have been married 8 years to a drug addict, we have two children. My husband has tried everything to sober up, he is a periodic user and can't yet seem to quite for good. We have separated and dated other people. No one I've dated can measure up to my husband in bed, he is great at that. Plus he is very big and I like that. SIZE does matter after you've become accustomed to it and have had it big. Its hard to have anything else. But I'm tired of his lifestyle for my kids and myself. Will I ever find another man that measures up? I know this is not a good enough reason to stay married, right?
2007-05-16 07:11:53 · 32 answers · asked by Shanny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hope that this question is a joke. A person with a stable mind would have concerns such as, what is best for my children. Do you ever think of them? You are allowing your gifts from God to live with a drug addict. Do you know how dangerous that is? What happens when he doesn't pay his bill? Who will they come after? And your concern is how big he is? You have a lot of growing up to do and you'd better do it fast because there are two lives in your hands. As a parent, you need to put your sexual feelings aside and remember that they need to be your number one priority. If you can't manage to think of them first, give them to someone who will. When I think of how many women who would be wonderful mothers and can't conceive and then read about a mother who pops a couple out no problem and can't make no brainer decisions, it makes me sick.
2007-05-16 07:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by idontloveyoufup 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that if the police should find drugs in the home, they will take the kids away?? If he has drugs on him around the kids, they can be taken away. If he is high and one gets hurt, they can take away the kids. Your kids should come before sex. If your that worried about having a big guy, buy a toy. At least A BOB cannot make you lose your children. It's not fair to put your kids in such a predicament. If you want to live with a drug addict, give your children to someone that can give then the environment they need and can love them enough to not subject them to that kind of abuse. Obviously, sex with a big penis isn't worth staying married!
2007-05-16 07:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right about one thing, it's not a good reason to stay married. Just because you've had a big one doesn't mean that a less endowed man can't do just as well using other parts of himself. Your children need to come first, not your libido.
I would suggest some personal counseling on how to deal with this situation and some more on how to get out of the toxic marriage.
Good luck sweetheart! All the best!
2007-05-16 07:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though you are thinking of your own needs rather than your childrens needs. They should be the most important thing in your life not penis size. A drug addiction is a serious thing and if after trying he can't get it right you need to get out ASAP don't you think your kids deserve better?
2007-05-16 07:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by Meticulous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since ur husband is not on the lease u can physically remove him from the premises by law enforcement and when they arrive show them the separation papers and if ur h/b is on drugs at the moment let the officers be aware to restrain him and put him in jail. He obviously needs a wake up call, to bad he has to learn the hard way.
2016-05-19 21:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by shella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, let me get this straight...
He is a drug addict.
You have two children together.
You have dated other people (being seperated)
and then.....
You want to stay with him because he's "good in bed"...
Sounds like You and He are both "addictied" in different ways.
The children are the losers in this WHOLE situation because they aren't priority at all and they were born into a home where Dad is a Doper and Mom is a Moron.
2007-05-16 08:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. The sex isn't a good enough reason to stay married. However, the two kids you had with your husband are a good enough reason to stay married. Unless he is abusing those children and/or you, you should stay together for their sake.
2007-05-16 16:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Zeltar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you really are a Blond, I thought that was just a nickname. Come on now I think your pleasure should be the last consideration you need to consider your children and your family and what is best for your entire family you need to check your booty at the door and bring the mind on into this situation..
2007-05-16 07:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by Hey Moe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the guy. You are being a slave to physical WANTS which is never good. That destroys relationships and if the guy can't quit drugs, what makes you think that he won't cheat on you when he's blazed out of his mind or high as a kite.
2007-05-16 07:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give up good sex for life without a drug addict husband.
2007-05-17 00:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋