2007-05-16 06:43:22 · 24 answers · asked by darowdomo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex-husband had me believe that for long awhile. I was good at many things, as I worked hard, and paid bills, was a great housekeeper, cook, mom, etc. but he felt that I was lacking in some sexual favors he wanted. I did give him plenty but was not experienced. He was my first and only lover at the time. He said if I had showed more initiative, and had done wilder and crazier things he would not have seeked out another girl. He said he loved me, but lacked the wild crazy whore in bed, that some girls were so good at. I was crushed and felt very inadequate with myself for a long time. I knew I was lacking in that area, and it did not come easy for me, as I needed to feel emotional to be able to be a good lover, as time went by I realized it was his way of making himself feel ok with his dirty deeds of cheating. I did meet nice men, and with the right man I was different, as I need to trust and have a stronger bond with a man to escalate to a higher level. He never understood, but with time it all made sense to me. I think the cheater uses that excuse more than anybody else.
2007-05-16 07:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes! If both people are completely happy and satisfied in the relationship why would one cheat? There's a constant need to satisfy each others emotional and physical needs if that's not being done on both sides, the one that's not receiving what they need will stray. When people confess to cheating the most common thing said is the other person (they cheated with) made them feel good...If their spouse/partner was meeting that same need the out side relationship wouldn't have been sought out to begin with.
2007-05-16 13:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by KDW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doing your best at what? There are so many reasons people cheat books have been written so it's not always as much to do with the partner as it does the cheater. I suppose anyone could come up with what they believe is a viable reason to make cheating okay.
2007-05-16 13:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that that might be a reason some people cheat. I think my first husband cheated because I was always too busy for him....so he found someone who wasn't.
For the lady who said "that's what cheaters say".....I bet you're no picnic to live with....with that "it's not my fault" attitude.
2007-05-16 13:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just this day and age that cheaters have put the blame on their partners. This has been happening forever.
For whatever reasons this person decides to cheat, they will blame the partner for their reasons to cheat. And only an insecure person would believe the lies...
2007-05-16 13:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I do not agree with that at all. I think the person who cheats is weak and don't realize what damage they are causing by doing this. Sometimes that may be the case. If someone cheats on you or has don't feel you are not doing your best. That's not fair to you. Don't blame yourself just find the right person to love you.
2007-05-16 14:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way. Cheating is all about the cheater. I've always said, if you're unhappy, get out. Cheating is never an option.
2007-05-16 14:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no dont listen to that crap. sometimes it may be the case but most of the time its just selfishness and thoughtlessness on the cheating spouses part. My husband cheated on me before we got married. I know i wasn't doing anything wrong. I damn near worshipped him as he did the same. Many people who cheat, cheat because they want to because half the time they are not even thinking about you or what you are doing when they do it.
2007-05-16 13:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by Shana T 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i don't think it's the latter's fault. usually, if a person cheats it's because he is weak! or he's just not so into you... but never ever blame it on yourself if your partner cheats on you. each and one of us is special and if your partner fails to see that, then it would be his lost....
2007-05-16 13:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by pia c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, theres too much temtation out there.. you could be the best in bed and if some hot chick/or guy, come strolling around the cornor wispering sweet nothings into your ear,your going to get a little courious..and possible hook up just to see if its any better. for some poeple its a power trip or some people just need the multiple partners to make them feel good about themselfs.. i really dont think its because your not doing your best.. but i guess i could have some play in it.. but its not really the reason..
2007-05-16 13:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by misshotcakes2u 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋