I filed for divorce in October, and my husband will NOT sign the papers because he does not agree with the custody agreement, etc... And mainly because he doesn't want the divorce.-- I DO!!! That's why I filed!!
He is stationed overseas in the military and is protected by law that he doesn't have to do anything regarding any legal proceedings until he returns to the States.
The divorce cannot proceed unless he contacts his attorney and lets her know what he wants to do.. But he refuses to call her.
He is a push over, and I think if his attorney calls him and ASKS what he wants to do, we could actually get something accomplished..
Would it be inappropriate for me to call/email his attorney to ask her to PLEASE call him to encourage him to get this over with?
2007-05-16 07:12:16 · 24 answers · asked by IWantToKnow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay.. Let me explain.. I think I am pissing people off...
Contrary to what you may think of him being a "soldier" and "risking his life" blah blah blah... I don't owe him any favors. He is living in Japan (where I lived WITH him for nearly a year)... He has/is cheating on me, he gets drunk buys cheap skanky *** Japanese prostitutes, and wants to give me less than half the child support that the court is ordering.
He spent more on a blow-up doll than he did his daughter's birthday present.
I am 100% willing to compromise on the custody agreement.. I have a few problems with it as well..
I am not doing anything to him that he doesn't deserve.
2007-05-16 07:32:02 · update #1
I think you should. thats no point in dragging this thing. time to move on. good luck
2007-05-16 07:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by juvenilja13 3 · 2⤊ 6⤋
The flaw with your plan is "He is a push over, and I think if his attorney calls him and ASKS what he wants to do, we could actually get something accomplished".
Your husband's attorney is hired to work for his interests, not yours. So unless you find some way to convince his attorney that its in his best interests to settle, you are probably going nowhere.
You might want to contact YOUR attorney and find out what your options are. I'm not suggesting this, but maybe if you offered a decrease in alimony or some other financial incentive, it may work.
2007-05-16 07:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not inappropriate to call his attorney to ask her to talk to your husband about when he will be ready to sign the papers. It is inappropriate to call her to ask for her to do you a favor, like encouraging her client to do something that he doesn't want to do. Frankly, she would probably tell you that she is going to do what is best for her client, no matter how long it takes. The custody agreement is a pretty big thing and you can't expect him to take his children's interests lightly.
Talk to your attorney and have him/her contact your husband's attorney and straighten things out. You might want to consider that if your husband really doesn't want to end it and you two have children, staying together and getting counseling might be a better option for both of you and for your kids.
2007-05-16 07:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Manda B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. it would be entirely inappropriate for YOU to call his attorney. You will only muddy the waters and cause all kinds of other havoc - not to mention weaken your case.
Have your attorney do this.
OK so you want this over with. Well, that's not going to happen just because you want it that way. That's unrealistic.
That's why you hired an attorney.
My attorney gave me this good advice:
In a divorce, anyone can behave like a jerk if they want to. When one person behaves like a jerk, it forces the other person to behave like a jerk, too.
2007-05-16 07:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have an attorney it is your attorney's obligation to communicate with his attorney. If you are represented by an attorney you are NOT allowed to call his attorney. If you are not represented by an attorney than you may call his attorney and at least request that they make an attempt to contact him and talk to him about this situation. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-05-16 07:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. Call the attorney and speak to her, if she refuses to call him, then just accept that. In no way be aggressive toward her, your custody is at risk if you do! be kind and just explain the situation
2007-05-16 07:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be inappropriate. I went through this with my custody battle over my son. His father was shipped to Kuwait a year after it was started. I couldn't do anything when he was gone but when he got back my attorney and I attacked him with all kinds of paperwork and he signed over custody two weeks later.
2007-05-16 07:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Please help 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is inappropriate and not allowed to talk directly to the other attorney without your spouse present. However, you can have your attorney talk to his but you are not allowed contact of your own.......Going through divorce and that's the rules here anyway....
2007-05-16 07:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can call but it's is inappropriate. However it will likely be a waste of time as it's unethical for your husbands attorney to do anything you want, or even really talk to you.
2007-05-16 07:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is your husband the daddy of your new child? if so, then he has finished authority to look after your daughter with or without your written consent. the only situation that demands the two determine's consent is once you prefer to take a new child in another united states of america.
2016-12-11 11:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by cosner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Call her. That's no breach of decency whatsoever and the attorney will have no problem in telling you that she works for him not for you. What WAS a breach of decency was filing for divorce and starting a custody fight while he is overseas and fighting for his life and his country. That really should have waited until he got back.
2007-05-16 07:16:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋