Ever since me and my husband got married, he's been extremely busy with a new job (crazy hours) in addition to his own lawn service. Lately, it seems like i'm feeling really neglected like he's losing love for me, because he seems to not want to alter his personal schedule at all to spend time. To me it seems like he's enjoying being away from home. We have been arguing alot lately also because I'm suspecting him doing some cheating (maybe it just my hormone/emotions). We haven't even had the chance to go on a honeymoon. It seems like he doesn't understand that I'm missing him that's all. When I express this to him, the only thing he says, Do you want to switch roles so you can start paying the rent.. What's going on with him. I'm getting really frustrated. does he want out of the responsibility of marriage. I'm beginning to nag him alot. I don't want to start cheating on him either. How can I pull myself together with this situation? Should I leave or stay?
2007-05-16 05:46:13 · 5 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your relationship would probably improve if you make him want to come home. Instead of nagging him tell him you are glad he's home for dinner this evening. What does he like to do? Do it with him. If he has a favorite tv show, sit and watch it with him and don't talk or nag while it's on. It's hard to be home all day while your husband is working. I've done it and I know. The thing is when he gets home from work he's tired and wants to relax. Make a special dinner sometime. His favorite foods and candles on the table. Do little things to make him feel special and then he should feel more loving toward you.
2007-05-16 06:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by angela 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better still why dont you help him with his lawn service? He probably needs the help and if you dont have any thing at home that will keep you there, then work with him. Itll give you something to do and youre spending time with him. Its not hard work. Its a win-win situation for all. Go for it
2007-05-16 12:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband married for the right reasons I think that you both need to sit down and discuss your feelings and how you can work together to fix it. If that doesn't work possibly try going to a therapist who can help you with this kind of problem. Make sure you always tell him you love him no matter what!
2007-05-16 12:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel. But just know, the more you nag the more he will want to be away from you. Is it possible for you to take on a part time job? This way you will be busy and this can also unburden his heavy load.
2007-05-16 12:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's the only one working then join in and help him with his lawn service. If he refuses to let you help, then I would question what he's doing on the side.
If you're not happy and don't want to work it out, then leave, but don't start adultry.
2007-05-16 12:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Luv2RIDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋