You left your job to look after your frequent sick child. You spent all your savings to pay for food, medical, phone bills,etc. Also the housing loan. Hubby doesn't give you a single cents yet kept criticizing on your cooking, cleanliness of the house and even have strict rules on how things are to be run in the household.
Your bubbly girl enjoy staying with the aunties rather than at home cause daddy and grandpa will shout at her when she a bit loud (laughing).
You have so many talks with your hubby, but nothing changed. You felt like pack and go with your little girl. Will you if you are in her shoes?
2007-05-16 22:07:49 · 12 answers · asked by search4souls 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would like to say not to take marriage lightly, as it's not easy for two persons in love to live together. It's fine if a man is chauvinist, but if he totally doesn't give you a single cents and yet keep criticizing on whatever you do, this man don't deserve to have a family.
I personally can't stand irresponsible man.
2007-05-16 22:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have tried to talk to him so i suggest 2 things: one , refuse to do anything, if he complains about the cleanness of the house then show how it can be if you did nothing, don't cook give him tinned food in the tins as there would be no clean plates, ask someone to look after you child for a while and refuse to pay the bills (elect might be cut then) he will then realize what you are doing and he should stop his nonsense (PS i love doing that when they start to complain as they always want clean sock and clothes) secondly get someone you can trust to look after you child and go and work to that you can move out and start you own life. Hope it works out for you
2007-05-17 05:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound a touch racist - but husbands DO treat their wives quite differently depending on what part of the world you live in. Your husband might be from a culture that tends to see the role of women in this light...
Having said that - there is no reason that you have to be treated like a slave, unless that is what you want. Both you and your daughter are not being treated properly (as far as I'm concerned) - and leaving may be your only option (since hubby doesn't want to change at all).
2007-05-17 05:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God....what a poor girl you are. I can feel how hard life for you right now. He is really horiblle to you. He needs to respect woman more. But I tell you, you deserve a good and a fair life, darling. You've done your turn but he just useless! That's not a balance relationship. Talk to him again but tell him what you want. It's must another way for you. You worth the best, you are a good wife and a wonderful mom.
2007-05-17 05:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by jegeg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything drastic at first. Is their a family member that you could go visit for a week or two to let things cool off? Sometime absence makes the heart grow fonder. Maybe he would realize how wonderful you are if you are not there for a few days.
2007-05-17 05:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by mel s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if after communicating for several times and nothing is changed, I think there is no hope for the relationship to work out. I will just give up the relationship and apply for divorce.
2007-05-17 09:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way sometimes, my man can be a complete chauvinist!
But then I see the good.
Marriage isn't to be taken lightly, but on the other hand he needs to add to it too.
Find another way to communicate. Stop doing everything. Act like him.. that's what I do when my man starts his !@#$.
I won't cook, clean, do his washing or anything.. He quickly changes!
2007-05-17 05:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by Pebbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that this is a deal breaker. However, I do think that family counseling will help with this.
Good luck.
2007-05-17 05:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by jnnfchar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I most definitley would leave.
2007-05-17 06:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I already did--years ago. Now, I am much more at peace!
2007-05-17 05:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋