to only men over 40??????

Question

I am 34 years old and I definantly am in my prime. As for my husband he is 42 and I always have to go to him to give it up. It is very frustrating!! We have been married for 6 years and we have 2 children so there are few windows of opertunity. But he seems like he is never interested. And I know it isn't me, what is his problem??? Is it his age or is there something else wrong. Do men over 40 have issues?? I have needs too and if I can't get them fofilled than I guess it has to take greater measures. Oh yeah and even when I do approch him with this he just fluffs it off like there is nothing wrong. Maybe I should disolove viagra into his coffee.. I am losing my mind!!!!

Answer 1

Some men over 40 DO have difficulty with performance. Worrying about it only makes it worse. Try not to pressure him. Give him affection WITHOUT the expectation of sex. It may allow him to relax enough to "get on with it" over time.

In the meantime, invest in a great vibrator. When things are relaxed use it when you need or want to...and do that while he's there with you. He may just jump right in.

Answer 2

You’re at that age where your sex drive starts heading up. You’re going in to your Sexual peek. It completely sucks that men hit their peek in their early twenties, and women hit it in the mid to late 30's, the reason is the woman’s body now knows that there is not a lot of time left to have kids so it is working over time to get pregnant. You hubby on the other hand is starting to down shift the production of testosterone, which is why give the male his sex drive. Viagra may be a good solution for the situation. He may also have another issue that he fill uncomfortable about, you could also be coming on to strongly. I know when my wife hit her peek I was having a difficult time keeping up with here. She was wanting me to perform the way I used to when we where first married. She sometimes wanted it 4 and 5 times a night. At 38 I just couldn't pull all niters like I used to. I would sit down and have a honest talk with you husband and find out what you two can do to work this out, If your going in to your peak there needs to be something done. Rather you take care of it with toys, or rather you use him. There needs to be some negotiations. If your husband does have some performance issues, tell him it's normal at that age. The loss of testosterone is very disturbing. He should see a doctor to help balance out his chemical needs, and yours. Maybe the best time to get him is in the morning when the testosterone is at it's highest in the male. That’s one reason why men have morning wood. We are loaded with testosterone.

Answer 3

I think that men have a dropping level of hormones starting in the 40s. I did at least.. There could be a ED problem. Most men probobly deny the problem for a while. Lack of sex can be a symptom of emotional distancing for whatever reason. You two definately have to get on the same page to work this out though. Seek some professional advice if you have too. It wouldn't hurt. Good luck!!

Answer 4

As men get over 40, they lose testosterone, and the drive they had in their 20's and 30's diminishes to a degree. There are two suppliments that you can buy at your local vitamin or heath store.......... one is called "L-Arginine", and the other is called "Yohimbe Bark". The Yohimbe Bark aids in bringing up the sex drive, and the L-Arginine is a natural form, basically, of Viagra ( minus the price ) which will put some "lead in his pencil."

Unless you have family problems, marital problems, too much stress, or whatever, I think it just might be the lack of motivation because of lower testosterone.

PS... the L-Arginine also works for women, believe it or not, it enhances them too ! Two for the price of one.

Answer 5

Men over 40 have different issues than men under 40 but the only reason I can think of that he is less than satisfying in his attentions towards you is that he is tired. He may have a very stressful job. He may be using up all of his energy and goes to bed tired. 42 is not old. 6 years is a young marriage. Can you identify when he started to cool off? Was it all of a sudden or over time? Has he recently changed jobs? Does he have financial problems? Have his personal habits changed (spending time away / longer at work?) all of these may have some bearing on it but you deserve to be happy. It even says so in the Bible -
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1 Corinthians 7

3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement for a season, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, lest Satan tempt you through lack of self-control. 6 I say this by way of concession, not of command. 7

Answer 6

I am 49 and yes sometimes we have issues, if he's ever had a failure, it can lead to undue stress and fear of another failure. Sometimes we get nervous if we feel we must perform and that leads to e.d. problems, I went to doctor got Cialis and now I am like an 18 year old again, full of confidence and vigor. I personally love it when wife initiates the action. Another thing is sometimes we are just too tired to get things goig, but are always happy once they are going. Hope this helps. of all the E.D. meds I find Cialis the best.

Answer 7

Depends on the man, so many variables. I'm 52 and about 3 to 4 times a week is all I want now. Down from daily say 15 years ago, so it also depends where he started.

Try seducing him, not just here i am, but the whole bit

Answer 8

It may be a lot of things. If it is physical the doctor can help identify it if he will get checked he should be getting regular physicals and if it is mental then there are many things you can do.

First thing is make sure your marriage is on the right footing and be able to communicate about it.

Check site www.themarriagebed.com.

I think that no pressure but lots of love is always a good thing. I am 51 and I have had my share of problems and guys dont like to talk about their failures to please their wives.

Good luck to you.

Answer 9

He is suffering from male andropause. His testosterone levels are decreased, thus the lack of adequate sex drive.

I guarantee you...if you get him on testosterone replacment, you'll get all you need and then some. Plus, he'll feel 100% better about himself and life in general.

Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. Also, there are no long term health risks associated with male hormone replacement therapy. Absolutely none.

Answer 10

You' all need to get a knk going and give him something to think about. Don't assume he will be instantly ready, get him thinking about it a little ahead of time. Of course the coffee idea sounds good too..