There is this girl that works with my husband, you can see she's into him, He is friendly in general..that doesn't bother me, the thing is she is not respecting the fact that we are married, she keeps doing stuff like taking pics of him infront of me and I don't know if I should confront her or behave like a ***** and maybe she will get the message or I'm just going to make everything worse...What is best ? To be indiferent or to mark your territory ?
2007-05-16 22:31:00 · 31 answers · asked by kari 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I f you trust your hubby , then ignore her,this kind of s**t can't compete with wives that look secure,usually they target married men cos it gives them ego-boost to have wives going jealous.
2007-05-17 01:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by valerie_adele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mark your territory!!! But don't confront her....you'll be the bad person....it suggests that you don't trust your husband to be faithful to you. She's obviously the one who can't be trusted....
So....what you do....since she's into taking pics of your man....let her take a pic of your man...with you....
She's taking the pic.....you step in and say to you hubby....how bout one for out photo album....and then give him the deepest, most intensly passionate kiss...in front of her.....whether or not she takes the pic is not the point....you're marking your territory here....and she gave you the perfect opening to do so....without coming across as bitchy or suspicious...you're just being EXTREMELY affectionate toward your husband....
Let's just hope she doesn't drop the camera and charge you for any damages.... that should keep her quiet for a while at least...
If you have any more problems with her....let me know....I'll help you take out the big guns....without losing your man's respect.
2007-05-16 22:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by missceekay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitley speak up. You husband should do the same. Most affairs happen with someone at work. She needs to keep her distance. How disrespectful of her. Obviously she has no concept of what is acceptable behavior with a married man and she doesn't seem to care. What's to stop her from trying to go further? Speak up now!
2007-05-16 23:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust your husband then don't worry about it. My husband says that jealousy is a big turn off. Just know that you got a good one and take the other woman's interest as a compliment. If she has such blatant disregard for the fact that you're married to each other then she's probably a skank anyway and your hubby knows already and laughs about it.
2007-05-16 22:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom lost her husband in a similar situation cause she wanted to be indifferent.. So, in my and hers opinion, is better if you mark your territory and make it clear to HER! Don't involve him, unless if she doesn't get the message ;o) pull this ***** away!!
2007-05-16 22:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by katerina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband should lay the ground rules with her since he works with her everyday. He should tell her that he is happily married and she should back off. I think if I were you, I'd act normal and happy when you are there and go visit him often and take him little things to make him happy. Just to be visible there.I really do think it should be up to him to speak up to her.
2007-05-16 22:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mark your territory definately! I can't believe what a nerve she has, taking pictures of him, whats she doing with them putting them on her mantlepiece or does she have a secret shrine to him, grrrrr it makes me mad thinking about her.
I would confront her! or maybe get your husband to suggest someone she might like? she might get the message???
2007-05-16 22:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you catch her doing something like that, pull her to the side and tell her that your husband is too nice of a man to tell her she has made him uncomfortable. But, as his wife, you have no problem telling her to back off. It would be a shame for her to lose her job for sexual harrassment.
That should do it doll!
2007-05-16 22:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should take her to the side and let her know that you are hacked off with the way she behaves with your husband!! if she dosent respect you after this disscussion I would suggest you slap her very hard:)
2007-05-16 22:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would get very jealous to, and I do if the same happens with my wife. She is very friendly and I know guys flirt around her. But I trust her because if she really loves me she will be faithful and if she is not faithful then she does not love me and not worth wasting time over.
Trust your husband and if he lets you down then he does not love you and you deserve someone who will
2007-05-16 22:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋