I have been married 10 years and I honestly can say that I don't know what love is.
I like my parents and siblings but there is also an equal amount of hate. I never liked anybody enough to say that I truly love them. I mostly hate people.
I like hanging out with they wifey. I would even go as far as to say were are good friends...but the deep love that so many of you women describe....I don't have any of that.
What exactly is love?
2007-05-16 15:37:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love is when you take the time to create a friend for someone, just to keep them entertained and clear from a hectic day.
Love is when you bring a smile to a stranger by a silly avatar
Love is when you hear a poem or phrases and warm your heart
Love is when say your wife is your friend and you been together for ten years regardless of your feeling to breed.
That's deep love.
2007-05-16 16:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by none 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW....I'm so sorry that you feel this way. It truly saddens me.
Love is when you wake up in the morning and thank the Lord that your sweetheart is lying in bed next to you. It is that you think about him/her often during the day, and wish that you could be with them.
It is being sick to your stomach if you have a disagreement and trying to figure out how to make up.
Love is 'making up'.....and out!
Love is looking over at your partner and knowing that you are a better person for having them in your life.
I'm married 37 years, have 4 kids and I'm more in love now than when we got married.
No doubt you have to work at having a good marriage and to keep the 'fire' going. But like all good things, it is worth the effort.
Find out why you feel the way you do, and either go to counseling with your honey, or try to change your heart. Good luck. If you want to write me, feel free.
2007-05-16 22:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason this question appears so much is because we have been told through all the wrong sources what love really is. This is the true definition: Love is the ultimate CHOICE to do what is best for a person. Love is NOT a feeling. This is the most common misconception and no matter how many people want to argue it, love is not a feeling..feelings are feelings.
2007-05-16 22:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self these questions. Would you lay down your life for her? Would you take care of her and be by her side if she were ill or dying? If you knew something was very important to her and you thought it was silly would you go along with it just to spare her feelings. Is there any limit to how far you'd go for her.? Do you respect her? Do you trust her? Do you show her you feel wonderful when your with her? Is there anywhere else you'd rather be than with her? Do you help her with daily chores,ect.? Is she the woman of your dreams? Do you feel bless to have her in your life? Do you thank God for this woman? These are just some of the things I think about where my hubby is concerned. There is no limmit I wouldn't go for him nor is there anything (lawfully) I wouldn't do for him just to see him smile. Love is a beautiful thing and if its truely there is can't be denied.
2007-05-16 22:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joe, I am sorry that you feel more hate than love.I do understand you, though.In today's world we have a shortage of love.I believe it stems from so many people being superficial.Everyone cares about themselves,and themselves only.We all go with out love which eventually, makes all of us cold.I have been in the same situation.I hated myself for being unloving and cold,but it stemed from me being unloved.Everyone wants to feel loved in order to return love.I would suggest you get some counseling.I would also suggest that you pray once a day for God to open your heart.I wish you the best.
2007-05-16 22:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Gin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody really knows how to describe the word "love." To my understanding, love is when one person treasures another person's health, well-being, and happiness to a greater extent then their own. They'd do just about anything bring a smile to the other person's face. It's like unconditional love. You can get as mad as you can at them, but you can never stay mad at them for long cause you know that you love them.
2007-05-16 22:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to Robert Sternberg's research, "Love" is an emotion consisting of three components: intimacy, passion & committment.
Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time). Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.
-Intimacy alone is Liking (true friendship without passion or long-term commitment)
Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone. Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.
-Passion alone is Infatuation (passionate, obsessive love at first sight without intimacy or commitment)
Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship. Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.
-Commitment alone is Empty Love (decision to love another without intimacy or passion)
Romantic Love: Intimacy & Passion, no Commitment
-Lovers physically and emotionally attracted to each other but without commitment
-“As in a summer romance”
Companionate Love: Intimacy & Commitment, but no Passion
-Long-term committed friendships or a marriage in which the passion has faded
-I love you but I’m not IN love with you
Fatuous Love: Passion & Commitment, but no Intimacy
-Commitment based on passion with without time for intimacy to develop
-Shallow relationship such as a whirlwind courtship
Consummate Love: A complete love consisting of all three components
2007-05-17 19:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Chuck W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No such thing - Love is nothing but a big, ol' fairy tale created by women who latch on to men for attention and money.
2007-05-17 16:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God forbid your wife winds up in a hospital, maybe during something of this caliber, you'll realize what love is.
2007-05-16 23:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should meet my husband you two would get along just fine...
If you never tasted cavier how could you ever be told how it tastes? Same with love.
2007-05-16 22:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by marymouse26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋