How can i talk to him without being negative and nasty?

Question

i have really bad temper problems and as he says "i don't know what to say things at the rite time" or you know i say wrong things at the wrong times...i m so depressed rite now

Answer 1

First never talk about major issues or concerns when your angry. Walk away and cool down. Take some deep breaths, a warm bath, etc.to relax yourself. This is harder than it seems for someone with a short temper but you have to make yourself do it. Bringing anger into any situation only leads to more problems. After you have time to cool down think about what your going to say. Stick to what the real problem is and don't stray from it. This too can be difficult but you'll get better with practice. Never accuse use "I" statements. (ie. "I feel......when this happens) Ask for ideas on how to resolve the issue then be willing to listen and even compromise when necessary. Not everyone is able to communicate affectively it takes practice and work so be patient with yourself.

Answer 2

I woudl suggest that before you talk to him you walk away and either write your thoughts out and read them to make sure you understand them. Also make sure no curse words or mean thoughts are there. Another tactic yo ucan use is, just think about what you say before you say it. Just stop and think. If you start to shout, then stop yourself and tell him youre andgry and wanna shout but you're not going to. One more thing you can do is scream to get all your aggression out so you wont wanna yell and be nasty towards him. gl hun

Answer 3

k best is 2 stay silent wen ur really angry
coz things said in haste can sabbotage a relationship

Answer 4

when in doubt don't say anything at all... go for a walk and clear your head come back when you are rational and can logically think about the situation

Answer 5

go to a doctor