Before marriage, my husband&I have agreed on going back to USA after we get married. I've been married for more than a yr now and living in Egypt. He had completely changed his mind about living in USA& wants to stay in Egypt cuz he's taking care of the family business although his elder brother didn't care about their business& migrated to USA. Now I wanna go back to USA cuz I'm having difficulty adapting to the lifestyle in Egypt, but mainly cuz I wanna go further with my education & pursue a masters degree. I also need to be next to my parents. He isn't sacrificing his career for anything&1 other reason he doesn't wanna go to USA is cuz he wanna be next to his parents. What abt my parents?my ambitions?my dreams? I considered many options but he is not accepting any. He doesn't accept me living there alone n him staying in Egypt,n he's not agreeing on living their with me. I love my husband&don't wanna a divorce, so plz do not advice me on getting a divorce.
2007-05-18 05:41:16 · 5 answers · asked by Ruby 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is also saying I'm selfish and greedy and want to have everything. Is it really shortcoming from my side? Do I not have the right to achieve my goals! How should I convince him. I do not wanna sacrifice my marriage
2007-05-18 05:42:59 · update #1
he has been a very good husband and has done a lot of things to me
2007-05-18 05:43:27 · update #2
You might decide if your dreams and ambitions are worth the cost of your marriage or at least your husband. If you want something youre willing to take a risk but if you want something bad enough then youll risk everything. Your marriage may very well be the price you pay to achieve your dreams and desires. And from what youre saying, you husband is standing in the way of that ever happening so now time for some tough love, your career or your marriage and family. The choice is yours alone and none ofus out here have any magical answer that will help you decide or to live happily ever after. Sometimeswe jsut have to give up what we love the most to acheive our dreams. Good luck
2007-05-18 05:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to review your wedding vows. You said "mainly cuz I wanna go further with my education & pursue a masters degree." Which is more important your career and education or your husband? You also said "I also need to be next to my parents." You and your husbands parents both live in different countries so one of you must be away from their parents. He is taking care of, I assume, a sucessful business and is providing for the family even though his brother didn't accept the responsibility. Why do you state "He isn't sacrificing his career for anything." It does seem like the two of you are more in competition with each other then being a team. When you got married you both should of realised that there had to be some tough choices ahead in a situation like this. There are fine educational institutions in Egypt where you can pursue higher learning, and you can adjust to the culture and lifestyle. The only real point of substance is in regards to the parents. The question really should be: is it more important to be with your parents or with your husband. If you take your marriage vows seriously then it is too late to be thinking that the grass is greener in the USA. You could still perhaps visit your parents often. If you have talked it over with him and he has firmly stated that he will not move then it's either time to make a life with your husband in Egypt, or consider that the marriage was a mistake. You will likely not like my answer, but I sincerely hope you will stay with your husband, adjust to the different culture and society in which you now live, continue your education, and visit your parents as often as you can in the USA. The two of you will likely have many more difficult decisions to make in your married lives where you both do not agree. Hopefully you both can understand the sacrifices each other has made, in the present and in the future to come, and be happy knowing that you have made the other person happy.
2016-05-22 07:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess that, you're going to have to "settle" with life in Egypt, or just go back to the USA to further your education despite what your husband wants.
there is no good solution to this, far as i can see.
2007-05-18 05:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is hard choices but I would talk to him and tell him it means a lot to you to seek your career and see what he says
2007-05-18 05:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by Leyla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think being married to an Egyptian man completely reduces your options, anyway......I think you are going to have to suck it up...your stuck with him for better or for worse...as unfair as it may seem to be.
2007-05-18 05:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋