So far I have received some pretty valid answers to my questions on this site. So my questions keep poring in. I will be visiting my family this summer for my parent’s anniversary. I am extremely happy to go and visit all my long last relatives. I am an independent women and the rebel of the family free spirited traveler. I have always been unconventional and eclectic in my lifestyle. I am happy and fulfilled with my chosen life style. My worry is that when I am faced with the more traditional family members I am going to be hounded with questions such as: Why are you still single? When are you getting married? Where is the man in your life? I will also be the 3rd, 5th or 7th wheel you get the idea. How do I politely handle this issue with out offending any of my family members?
2007-05-18 04:38:08 · 18 answers · asked by Starlite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, I think you just answered your own question. "I am an independent women and the rebel of the family free spirited traveler. I have always been unconventional and eclectic in my lifestyle. I am happy and fulfilled with my chosen life style." Tell them what your posted here and say i'm not in a hurry to get married or be tied up in a relationship right now.
Good luck
2007-05-18 04:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Smile sweetly at anyone who comments on your singleness and say "I'm a waiting for a man as wonderful as my Dad, someone I could see in my life forever." Then just tell them that it is wonderful seeing them again and walk away.
You do not owe anyone any explanations of your life. The only people that should be the least bit concerned are your parents; and they know you well enough that they aren't concerned.
I hope that your parents have a wonderful and joyful anniversary, and many more. You have a great time at the party for them, there will be a lot of envious people there, who are totally jealous of your lifestyle; even though they wouldn't admit it publicly.
These types of questions never end, if you were married, they would question your choice of person that you married. If you had a child, it would be why don't you have more? If you had more than one child, it would be why are you having so many?
Sometimes people think that if they are related to you they get a right to run your life. Years ago before my husband and I were married, one of his relatives questioned my virginity in the middle of a holiday dinner. (This was a distant cousin of one of my in-laws.) Talk about wanting to run for the door. I was a virgin, and remained so until my wedding night, but that was between my husband (then fiance) and myself and certainly wasn't anyone else's business.
Being a shy young woman, I sputtered through an answer, of course if I had been a bit older I am sure I would have said that such a personal decision was none of her business. And so it goes.....
Be proud of the life you are living. Have a great day.
2007-05-18 12:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could say you are still single because you like being single and have not met Mr. Right yet. I would also add that you are very happy just the way you are and do not need a man to make you happy. You go girl!
2007-05-18 11:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to a point, i envy you. keep that free spirit. be the non-conformist. it's good for the soul. as far as the family is concerned, don't let it bother you. tell people this is how you like it. if it continues, excuse yourself and walk away. i'm guessing, the ones who question you the most, are the ones that envy your lifestyle. so many people think that the life they've chosen, should be the life everyone should have only b/c misery loves company.
2007-05-18 11:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't start getting insecure now! Pull out your free-spiritedness full force!!!
Why are you still single? Because I haven't yet met the man who rings my chimes! OR I'm not interested in men.
When are you getting married? Whenever Mr. Right comes along. OR I'm not interested in men.
Where is the man in your life? Probably backpacking through Turkey. OR I'm not interested in men.
Just be honest mixed with cute. Your family knows you ... more than you know!
2007-05-18 11:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with "I havent met him yet" being an easy response to most of the questions. Also as he said take a male friend with you if you are uncomfortable about being the 3rd wheel. And I might add if you are uncomfortable about being the 3rd wheel maybe you arent as happy as you think you are.
2007-05-18 11:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can always use the : I haven't found anyone good enough to satisfy my expectations and I've set high standards. I want a good man and I don't care to settle for someone who's only going to be negative and lazy.
2007-05-18 11:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by Emily M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them what you told us, that you are happy and fulfilled, and don't need someone else to make you feel complete. Explain that if and when there's someone with whom you want to share your life, that they will be the first to know.
Good luck -- family reunions can be treacherous!!
2007-05-18 11:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Miss Manners would probably tell you to smile sweetly and say, "I beg your pardon?"
If you wish to be more warm, still smile sweetly and say,
"Mr. wonderful hasn't come my way yet."
"I believe marriage should be for keeps. So I am choosing to be very picky and not just any old guy will do."
"I'm holding out for someone as wonderful as my Dad. They're hard to come by, you know."
2007-05-18 11:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I haven't met him yet," should cover most of those questions. And being the odd man out shouldn't bother you as you should be used to it by now having been single all these years - so what's the big deal? If it's hard for you to be the odd man out then invite a friend to go with you.
2007-05-18 11:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋