Marriage & Divorce - 21 May 2007

my partner is very much attached to his mother and judges me via her words. from the beg. i was nt able to fit the tag of a perfect homemaker , which irrits them, especially my mil. all small issues would be blowed up and told to him as a result, never was there as intimacy bet us. due to better job he went out of stat, but i was prevented frm joining him. still i managed to go and stay with him for a mth, which irritated my inlaws and when he came to chennai during weekends, told things against me to him .he is a type of personality who tells his mother even intimate things bet a hus&wife. one such thing what he told made my mil anger and she in turn told things against me to my husband and he in turn asked me to stay in my parents place only. for the past 11 mths we are seperate. he is not calling me nor replying to my emails/sms. now suddenly, with his co sister help , he is approaching for mutual seperation saying "mind is ntmatching"-pls advise me..i am still eager to continue .

2007-05-21 23:46:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I knew my husband since we were kids & we had an on off relationship,then i moved anyway & didnt see him for years,i was involved in a accident & received money,the next time i met him after about 4 years we clicked,he then moved away with me,he had no work & i started dipping into my money we spent about £25000 as the rest was in a fixed account that i couldnt get thank god!now we are married with 2 kids & building a house with the help of my dad,my husband seems to think that i should take money out of bank again,the house is gonna cost us about £20000 to build & my dad wants us to just pay him bit by bit when we have it but my husband refuses to save,he earns £580 a week gives me money for grocery shopping & he keeps the rest,i dont work as have 2 kids 8 months & 2.he has even told me on a few occasions that he has no money & i went through his pockets & found money,is he just using me

2007-05-21 23:37:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

We had lived together for almost 9 years that wasn't planned but was obliged to stay together
because of the kids.

We frequently fight for different reasons and even more my wife has attempted to leaved from the
house a few times but returned home because the kids wants us together.

There are some instances that my wife becomes so violent that she would grab anything she could throw
to me even punch me several times in front of the kids. She didn't even care that the kids was watching and
shaking in fear because of what she did. Now that I wasn't sleeping with her (I chose to sleep downstairs
at the sofa to avoid her), she even accused me of having an affair with another girl. But what will I do? I don't
want to sleep with someone I don't want to be with.

2007-05-21 23:19:24 · 8 answers · asked by makataong_allan 1

When you are kind, supportive, respectful, understanding, . Don't you expect the same from your spouse?

Life is full of up and downs. Some unexpected events might prevent you from doing what you promised like illness or death of a relative which you are to attend the funeral.

I was so supportive to my wife when one of her close relatives died. And I literally nurse her and do all the house work when she is ill.

When my cousin died two weeks ago she was far some supportive. I was really shocked and angry when my cousin died at a car accident that wasn't his fault. She was crying about my voice tone when I talk and she was calling me names because of that, and it was after the funeral.

The other day I was ill. Her sister wanted a piece of equipment to fix her A/C which was with me. She wanted me to drive 70 miles in a highway while my temperature read 104. I told her it is dangerous and she says that I am irresponsible and undependable.

So what do you think?

2007-05-21 23:03:01 · 8 answers · asked by Heavy B 1

Ok here's whats up..I recently met this guy on a website & originally wasn't too keen about wanting to get to know him because i normally prefer dating people around my own age..This guy is 9 years older than me..Guys around my age aren't all that great though..so we (the separated guy and I) ended up chatting and found out we have very many things in common, similar likes, thoughts,opinions about various things regardless of age difference. He's 36 separated 2 years but not yet divorced , has a 7 year old son part time, and im 27 year old college senior. We've known each other for about a a week + now online & have talked on the phone for several hours. He and his now X wife hardly talk..but he sees his son every day. We've been talking about wanting to meet for coffee perhaps or dinner. I asked him if his son is ok about him possibly dating again after 2 years of not seeing anyone...he said his son said "dad I would like u to be happy". what to do ?

2007-05-21 22:58:08 · 15 answers · asked by cnn360coffeebubbles 5

2007-05-21 20:13:49 · 10 answers · asked by chiss200 1

my bf of 1 and 1/2 yrs, he is really upset and hurt bc there have been? several times where my 6 yr old daughter has walked past him and didn't speak.and even though I've gotten on to her about it, a few weeks later she'll do it again,she says she likes him, but my bf says I force her to adknowlege him. & hes a outsider. & I make excuses for her. he's made out to b the bad guy. he feels he goes 2 up 1 back as far as our future, he put a lot of time in us, and is not getting the same back. He feel he confronts her most of the time alone, I said I'd talk with him to her and 1 on1 with her . I told him I care about is feelings and will be unbais with my child, I apologized, I said I would do anything I can for him to feel better. What else can I do for him?

2007-05-21 19:26:37 · 9 answers · asked by single mami 2

I am a catholic girl (Roman Catholic) .I am in love with a catholic guy,and we want to get married .Our family members know that we are in love and we want to get married .

My guy 's parents have already agreed for our marriage .But starting my guy 's mom was against me and his relationship .But for his happiness his mom agreed for our marriage.

But my mom is against me and my guy getting married .When ever I talk about him , she makes a big issue our of it.
I love my guy more than my life and I want to get married to him .I have convenced him to get married to me in court thats a register marriage. And I dont want my parents to know about our court marriage .I want to stay in my house for 3 years because he wants to stand on his own feet .I can't wait for a long time .I want to get married to him as soon as possible . I know that legally that the man can get married at the age of 21 and the girl can get married at 18 years .I can also get 2 witness from my side (My friends)

2007-05-21 19:24:29 · 8 answers · asked by Hope Summer 6

Been married 6years, last week sex life maybe 1 or 2 x's a month. will he cheat? also I meet someone what should I do? Do I stop talking to the other man or do I just wait and see what happens?

2007-05-21 19:21:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been married 6years, last week sex life maybe 1 or 2 x's a month. will he cheat? also I meet someone what should I do? Do I stop talking to the other man or do I just wait and see what happens?

2007-05-21 19:19:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

When you lose the communication in a relationship and don't seem to have much in common with your partner,spend your nights both doing ur own thing is that just the comfort of being long term? It may all be in my head but i only seem to get attention from him when he wants abit of you know what. He said its not true but he doesnt really interact with me much apart from that. I cant have a kiss or hug from him without it having to lead to something and that doesnt make me feel very special or loved ...well its nice to know he finds me attractive but thats not everything is it. What do you think?

2007-05-21 19:12:52 · 14 answers · asked by scrappydoo 1

No intimacy of course.

2007-05-21 19:11:45 · 9 answers · asked by goaftergod 1

telling non veg jokes?, pressing hand while shaking hand?,

pressing thighs while sitting nereby?

put hand on her shoulder?

touch her buttocks while walking behind her?

and what if she tells that you should not do this?

2007-05-21 19:09:32 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Lately i have noticed that everything my wife does or doesnt do annoys me, she lets little notes around the house for me, and it doesnt mean a thing to me, i dont want to touch her, kiss her or spend any time with her, are these signs that i drifted away from her?

2007-05-21 18:54:47 · 10 answers · asked by badd_eclipse 1

she said he pressured her to do this by telling her she owed him for her position at work. she said she hates him for what its done to her mentaly and our relationship. i love her very much. she was laided off when she told she could not do this anymore. she then told me what happened. later on we found out he was fired. we started legal proceddings ,but stopped them. i want to make this work so please help.

2007-05-21 18:24:41 · 12 answers · asked by HURTIN IN BAMA 1

2007-05-21 17:58:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-21 17:30:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

we have the oppurtunity to foster our two month old niece, her mother is a drug addict and the baby was born addicted, her mother has not been heard from since April 27th and the baby needs to be placed in foster care, we would like to adopt her, but since the mother is no where we really don't know how she feels about it, we do know the mother is still using and living on the streets....my question is: WOULD YOU FOSTER THE BABY...WAIT AND SEE IF SHE CAN BE ADOPTED FIRST OR DO IT NOW FOR THE BABIES BENEFIT, we are just worried of making complete lifestyle changes just for the mother to come and rip her out of our arms, would you foster her either way, why or why not...we meet with the social worker tommorow

2007-05-21 17:18:19 · 8 answers · asked by KrIs 4

It is really hard and awkward to talk to her because shes not lively and doesnt wanna talk about anything, why is this?? has this happened to anyone else? is this normal??

2007-05-21 17:02:26 · 21 answers · asked by basketball 1

Why is it that most people give the advice to leave the spouse. Is there no commitment anymore? Why not encourage counseling and communication?

2007-05-21 16:59:30 · 22 answers · asked by jhardinmom 3

how long takes for a man to move on from his ex wife who he was in love for two and loved or compromising for 8 and ended in divorce...?

i am with him for half year, and we fought over this ex issue on regular basis, he is angry that i dont believe him ---he told me that he doesnt love her anymore, he never wanna get back with her, his care for her because of memory,it is not love...but everytime, while there is a situation he feels he does the right thing toward her and i dont think that's proper, he would gets all angry with me again, he always has this romantic ending melody in his head from my point of view, but NO one wants his boyfriend on hand with her, another hand to romantically end with another woman. when i am very frustrating, he would prefer us to have a break but just cant simply dont care about his ex...is it a sign that he is using me for moving on...feels like his past love story is more important than our present one..

please help..a sad silly girl

2007-05-21 16:53:06 · 10 answers · asked by sabella 1

I Know im going to get alot of negitive remarks, but I would like some honest input. I was out with some friends drinking and got past the drunk stage to the stumble around and passout stage. Somehow I ended up flirting with woman and it progress to touching and feeling. I dont remeber every detail, but I know that we did not have sex. I left the bar and felt horrible about it and was going to call my wife and tell her. One of my friends wifes talked me out of it for the simple reason I was drunk. Her theory was I wake her up at 3 am stupidly drunk and tell her on the phone, she would more upset than sobber and In person. I turned myself in the next day. She left , with our daughter(16 months), for 2 days and is coming home tomarrow. The last thing I ever wanted to do was cheat. I love my wife and she is a wonderful mother. I have already found some marrige councilers in our area, sent her flowers, and said Im sorry a million times. What else can I do to show her I REALLY am sorry?

2007-05-21 16:51:43 · 28 answers · asked by happiedaaddyy 1

My husband of nearly 15 years left me for another woman. We were separated since 2/2004 and the divorce was final 1/2005. Now I am planning to marry the sweetest man in the world... I adore him, but he lives in another state. My family, friends and the kid's family and friends are all here. The boys seem fine with us moving, but am I really doing the right thing? Is it fair for me to relocate? Their Dad is not happy about me taking the boys and there will be a court date to settle this, but chances are the judge will allow us to move. Do you all think this is ok or am I being selfish? We are only talking about a 4 to 5 hour drive really.

2007-05-21 16:50:55 · 19 answers · asked by divie 2

its kinda unfair for me coz i never do nothin wrong i loved her so much but i think she the other too... the prob is im here in hawaii shes in the phil.. dats y its so hard its killin me right now...???? wat should i do?????????

2007-05-21 16:42:30 · 15 answers · asked by apk_milo 1

2007-05-21 16:40:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here is my question: My husband and I have been together for 8 years (married for 5). I worked FT for all 8 years and he worked odd jobs but quit/fired from all. We have a 4 y.o. son. I recently changed careers from a stressful job to a job in Early Childhood. It is less pay but very rewarding and I feel good about it not like a number as in my old job. My husband FINALLY got off his duff and got a job. Now all of a sudden he is acting smart saying I have a half a$$ job now and don't have anything to offer because my folks are dead and I have no family and just on and on. He goes out to bars until end of work to 3am the next day 6 out of 7 nights a week. I am tired and he comes in turning on lights, tv and yelling. I explain my feelings to him that I am lonely and need help with son/house. He says he'll do what he wants and I can get out because I have "nothing to offer anyways." He forgets the 8 years I supported his duff right? My question here is what do I do to make him stop this?

2007-05-21 16:39:35 · 22 answers · asked by Samantha 3

I had a friend who needed a place to stay. An IV drug using whore who had left her husband and needed a place to stay. When I went to spend a few days with my mom and grandma she slept with my husband. It wasnt the first time. The first time was four years ago when he also slept with her husband. How many times do you have to forgive? I didn't know about the first time until I caught a text between them when I got back from my moms.

2007-05-21 16:36:40 · 32 answers · asked by chaoskid 2

I you ask you f%#k buddy to be friends and nothing more have you basically ruined the arrangement?

Also should you tell her you take it back if you really want to keep the arrangement?

If you leave it alone all together if she did not answer is it possible for you guys to still continue if you act as if you never put it out there?

2007-05-21 16:32:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-21 16:28:19 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a 57 yrs. old woman who's been married for 36 years now mother of 4 children.
3 girls and a boy. I must say I'm very proud of my son who seems to know how to treat a woman, because his wife is the happiest person you'll ever meet I ask whats her secret
she says( I Love her for this) " A WONDERFUL HUSBAND"! These 2 are into each other in a way I've never seen before!

My son 18 at time got married to a woman who I thought to old for him 5 1/2 years older, divorced twice, one OPEN, other marriage SWUNG! She admits freely and tell everyone NOT TO EVEN ENTERTAIN the thought because it will come back to haunt you!

12 yrs. later son and his wife are still married and happier then ever, She's an MD, in physical rehabilitation medicine(3 specialtys) witch also includes Psychiatry.
He's Has 2 PH.D One in applied physics mathematics, other applied engineering concepts. Both NAVY Reserves, both gone to IRAQ 3 times, SON gone to Afghanistan.
Both supports each others dreams!

2007-05-21 16:26:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous