Lately i have noticed that everything my wife does or doesnt do annoys me, she lets little notes around the house for me, and it doesnt mean a thing to me, i dont want to touch her, kiss her or spend any time with her, are these signs that i drifted away from her?
2007-05-21 18:54:47 · 10 answers · asked by badd_eclipse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes.
2007-05-21 18:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by whitexsaucer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself what's making you feel this way? Things like this don't happen over night. Did something happen? Did she do something to you? Are you attracted to other women? It's possible that you have drifted away from her. Why don't you look back several years ago when you first fell in love with her. What made you love her? What was different then that's different now? Divorce is a very serious thing not to be taken lightly. It took me 3 years of separation to finally realize a divorce was what I really wanted and definitely what I needed. I highly recommend counseling. It will give you some insight on both your part and hers. Do you have any idea how she's feeling about you or about the marriage? Do you think she feels it's failing too?
Before divorce seek marriage counseling. I did it and you would be amazed at what you can discover.
p.s. If there are children involved PLEASE PLEASE seek counseling first. I have a son who is 9 and if the marriage was salvageable I would have tried. I never wanted my son to ask "where's my dad?".
2007-05-22 02:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds like you have drifted away from her. These are the key words...you....have drifted away. Not her. You.
Love is a choice, like everything else in this life. At least the kind of love and loving that will last a lifetime, not the flash in the pan hormones that take over for most everyone in the beginning.
The fact that you are asking about this says a lot about you. I'm glad to know that this seems to bother you.
Because love is a choice, what are you going to do about it now?
You can divorce, as many will tell you, which is the easy way out...or you can do what you have to do, to change your perception of her. Go to counseling for yourself, first. then go to marriage counseling. You can fall in love again, and again, and again with the same person, but it takes a lot of work, effort, committment, and you can't have any exit doors in mind. In other words, to fall in love again, you must know in your heart that you are in this marriage with this woman because you did love her, and even though the "in-love" feeling is gone, there can be a much richer, deeper love to come. the kind that lasts.
I wish you the best....
2007-05-22 06:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably just scared. Maybe she is applying too much pressure on you to show your feelings as much as she does and you're not the type to express your feelings so openly. If my husband left little love notes around the house for me I'd feel disgusted.
2007-05-22 02:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by August lmagination 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fell out of love..........hey, it happens. The question now, is how you go about bringing it to her attention.
Obviously she still cares, so you have to tread lightly in this situation. But do yourself a favor, leave before it gets to tough. Don't lead her on and make her think things will work out. Explain to her your feelings, and let it go from there.
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2007-05-23 03:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by niomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, we have our ups ands downs, in our marriages maybe this is just a down time
2007-05-22 02:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by jean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"i dont want to touch her, kiss her or spend any time with her"... yeah, i'd say divorce is pretty damn close
2007-05-22 02:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by caleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the only one that no the answer to that,,, there something that you are unhappy about in your wife/
2007-05-22 02:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very much. in my opion?
2007-05-22 02:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋