Marriage & Divorce - 24 May 2007

I have being married for 12 years and 8 years ago my husband had an affair that brought his daughter in to our lives, her mother was negletful in such manner that the little girl had being molested three times.. Courts decided she was in better care with us.. I steped in her life feeling that for some reason God only gave me sons, and I totally forgot she is not by birth my child, but sometimes she says things to me to hurt me.. things like she wants to hit me in the head with a hammer and get a pencil and poke my eyes out.. I took her to a therapist she is getting help for the things she went trough, by being the only girl we treat her like a princess, but the way she talks to me sometimes makes me afraid to continue to allowed my self to thinks she is mine, afraid of one day she might come out and say i hate you your not my mother.. my husband had another affair sense we had her and I was going to leave him.. she asked me to stay and because of her i did.
My heart is broken, need ad

2007-05-24 23:44:09 · 17 answers · asked by boricua_2290 5

2007-05-24 22:48:59 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was been in the dating site for quite months already,though responds from there is ok but as the days passed by im having a lot of doubts already to all the guys i have met from there....im not closing my door for another relationship but seemed i havent really find the right one whom i can feel comfortable talking with where i can feel also his sincerity in knowing me so well and my family as well.....

2007-05-24 20:59:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

We will have been married for 12 years. I found out about his affair last year but it had been going on for a little more than a year. He broke up with her and he came back home. I thought it was to work things out but he says that its only for his son and he does not love me. He is keeping his options open to be looking. Sometimes I wonder if he sufferes from depression because he can be very hurtful. I love him and I want to make our marriage work but its just been only on my side. To make things worse, my dad past away a month ago. Right now the thought of kicking him out is more than I can deal with -- not to mention how bad I would look in my son's eyes (he's only 10). Part of me feels that he acts the way he does so that I will throw him out and he can blame me for the way things are. Also while my dad was sick, no one in my family knew or knows what I was going through. I don't believe in divorce and I feel that we could work it out. What should I do?

2007-05-24 20:38:05 · 14 answers · asked by susan p 2

My son has been married to my daughter inlaw who's 5 1/2 years older, almost 12 years now,he still looks at her with total love. I will admit it up front I'M JEALOUS, and my 3 daughters have either separated or divorced their husband because the think their little bother is the type of man they deserve!

My son does everything for his wife. He learned how to prepare a wonderful meal has become a light master chef just for her I think even though he says he enjoys preparing meals for loved ones, it's really for her enjoyment!

He learn how to give 6 different kinds of messages just for his wife and gives her them at least once a week! He messages her feet every night!

He leaves little "I LOVE YOU NOTES" for her. writes her a letters and mails it to her telling her those things that he feels makes her part of his week, she openly looks forward to mail every week! She says it's like finding a piece or her husband because he takes time to writes them just for her!

2007-05-24 20:27:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife joined the Army a month ago and left me and our daugther. The other day I was paying bills online I had to get into her email. In her email account I saw that her ex-boyfriend had been writing her so took a peep because I had felt really wierd about how much she talked to him on the phone when she was home. In the emails to him I found out that she thought that our daugter might be his and he thinks she might be his too. He asked her to get a paturnity test but she refused. She is also planing to get back with him when he gets back from Iraq. Though in the last email she said she was mad at him for not taking steps to leave his girl-friend. I've already taken the paturnity test but haven't gotten the resolets yet. I'm not sure I know what i'm going to do if I find out she is not mine. I've been a good father to her ever sense I got back from Iraq. Though I guess I wasn't the best husband. I feel like a fool. How do I tell my wife and still save my marriage?

2007-05-24 19:52:43 · 22 answers · asked by morty70495 1

Like people who went out of their relationship and still staying under the same roof with wives forgiving them because they have not seen the action with their own eyes.

2007-05-24 19:47:44 · 15 answers · asked by titty 1

We have been in love since last 7 years, we had a major issue between us a few years back and did not talk for 2 years,,, meanwhile she was married to another guy due to family pressures. She never really got along with the guy, and has no emotional or physical bonding with the guy..

She is in another country at this moment and wants to come back to india and marry me...

We really dont know how to go ahead with this.. The guy has never tortured her, neither has he harmed her in any way, but its simply the love between both of us that she does not want to live with him... she has never matched with him as a wife and never ever given into him in anyways...

We are really wanting to get back together, but the guy is not willing to give a divorce...

what do we do in such a case.. who can help us..?? On what basis can she apply for a divorce..?? can some one please explain the legal aspect..??

Please help....

2007-05-24 19:34:56 · 12 answers · asked by Confusedlover 1

wow im surprised by how many of my same title popped up, but everyone has a different case and story, so here's mine

my wedding was planned by my future mother-in-law, all but 4 of 10 of the wedding party i didnt pick or ask to be in my wedding. she gave one girl title of a candle lighter (but we're not having candles in the wedding), and when we said we need to switch her to guestbook, his mother threw a fit and went into "poor pitiful me" mode. we went to talk about this tonight, i was going to let her get her way on everything except the candlelighter deal as long as my fiance stuck up for us to tell her what she did was wrong and we wont stand for this act in the future.. but of course that didnt happen.. now my fiance's happy b/c his mother's happy, but he doesnt care that im not okay with this. our wedding shower is saturday, but i want dont want to go through with this. he knows im unhappy, but should i just get married and shut up and hope no more problems arise later?

2007-05-24 19:33:53 · 32 answers · asked by lilu 2

2007-05-24 19:07:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

There are a few changes that I need to make (monroe county, MI) in my divorce decree. If the ex-spouse is agreeable to the changes, what forms do I fill out to send to Probate so that my decree can be amended? If he is not agreeable, then what steps do I take? I am trying to do this without a lawyer, as it is a pretty simple case, I just need to know what forms to fill out, and in what order. Thank you so much!

2007-05-24 18:52:47 · 8 answers · asked by fixer of all aka mom 3

,when we discussed the issue to a point where she agreed that things will be okey , but all in all she never ceased, im boured and to apoint of avoiding her, please advise, keeping in mind that i have my own problems to take care of.

2007-05-24 18:48:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-24 18:42:54 · 17 answers · asked by toomuchcoffee 1

I am 25 going on my sixth year of marriage and have a 3 year old child. I go out once a month for ladies night with my girlfriends. I usually do drink. One of my friends and I ( who also has a child) got into a huge fight because she told me that I was irresponsible and I go out too much. I never really thought once a month was all that much but she thinks it is innappropriate. She also disproves that I go out without my husband to the bars. I feel like yes I am a mother but at the same time I am 25 and sometimes I just need the release. What do you guys think?

2007-05-24 18:37:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

and they don't know the other one is doing her. That's their business but why do these people act as though everyone does it and its ok? That is what bothers me. I am sick of them trying to justify their behavior. Has anyone been through this-knowing someone who cheats or screws around with a married person but acts as though it is justified instead of just a little bit resentful? I am sure the only way they would be sorry if they got caught. It just makes me feel awkward.

2007-05-24 18:36:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year now. I've told my parents about him and he's met most of my family. I met his family too recently. When i asked him, about marriage, and the fact that i want to be engaged when i am 28-29, he said to me, that he loves me and wants to be with me forever and is happy the way things are right now. But in terms of marriage, when he thinks about it, he's fine. But the minute he thinks about it seriously, he gets freaked out. He told me that at this point in life, he feels that he doesn't want to get married...but he may or may not change in the future, only time will tell.
He promised me that if he was to marry, then it would be me.
He also told me a few days earlier, that maybe he is like this, coz his work/financial situation isn't great. I'm 25 and he is 26, should i wait or should i leave?

2007-05-24 18:08:15 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK, I am supposed to get married on the 23rd of August! I am still in love with him but he is acting like a child! I simply asked him to tell me before he leaves and tell me where and how long he will be! He then says I PROMISE I will tell you! The next day he does the SAME THING! I get upset then blow it off! The day after that he does it AGAIN! I REALLY get upset and tell him how I feel and he goes on a guilt trip and makes ME feel bad for telling him! The day after, TODAY he gets up in the morning bout 8:00 after leaving and stayin out all night about the same thing and comes back at 5:44 PM and then tells me to come with him! So I come and sit for about an hour, now he is STILL out! It is 12:30 AM Everyday I get bitched at from his whole family so I practically live in my room! He is ALWAYS uptight with me going out, even WITH him, I havent hung out with any of my friends since we first started going out! Now, I am SO depressed everyday I cry myself to sleep b/c I Luv him so Much!

2007-05-24 17:32:51 · 22 answers · asked by Tasha 1

however this time around my wife seems so distant from me.....i know its common i see this sort of thing all the time with other families...but i can't even get her to talk to me nothing...we have been together since junior high...although im trying to think positive my heart can't help but feel that this time around deployment was too hard for her to deal with.....is there anything any of you would suggest in trying to make this work before its too late to save?

2007-05-24 17:26:49 · 9 answers · asked by adrik c 3

2007-05-24 17:10:08 · 18 answers · asked by jaroo23 2

im 25 and my wife is 25 I and met my wife in late april 2005 on the train, she was real nice and she lived in upstate New York and I lived in New Jersey, we both use to drive back forth and some times take the train or bus, also I work for the railroad so I ride free, Aug 2005 she got pregnant it was planned and we both was so happy. and her gradmother took il so she had to take care of her, three month later we told every body and her mom was mad started hinting and pressuring me to marry her. like an idiot i did in Feb05 and the baby came the next month, her grandmother passed away in Nov 6 then she move to NJ Jan 07 now my son in one andi hate being married to her, i dont know if i even love her. im selfish with some things and keep things to my self, I want out but every day i look at my son she so cute. We argue alot and we go at it hard. I hate this marriage!! I work nite and weekend night to getaway from her. I want ma own neat bed. What to do????

2007-05-24 16:52:25 · 40 answers · asked by Me me 1

My wife and I have been seperated for 9 months. The first 7 we were very cordial, hanging out, doing the married people things. We have 2 kids that have never understood (3&7). She always wanted to come home and I wanted her home but we could never talk about it. It always had to be a yes or no answer right on the spot. Finally 2 months ago I agreed to go to counseling and try and make it work. She asked me on a date but I had to work early and couldnt go out. That night she went home with another man and ever since that she has been very angry and verbally insulting towards me. 2 weeks after they met she had him hanging around the kids who still dont understand exactly what is going on. She has been lying to me about the kids and her "relationship." She has filed for divorce and I decided to go along with her proposal. Now that I have that is not good enough either. She tells me she has feelings for me and still cares a great deal for me but just cant be married.

2007-05-24 16:42:20 · 15 answers · asked by dstork40 1

I make $40,000 annually and give my ex $100 a week.She makes $55,000.There is one child and he stays with me about 10 days a month.

2007-05-24 16:37:29 · 13 answers · asked by ArmstrongZ 1

I have been with my wife since she 16 (she now 20 me 22)and I was 17. She got pregnant after 3mos of being together and things were rocky like her cheating on me with her ex (the day after homecoming). Anyways recently we had hit some rocky times (I got a BJ from a coworker very close to christmas time 12/23 and told her on 12/24) A big mistake happened once felt horrible told her the next day. Sunday 5/20 I found out that my wife went out and recognized a visitor of a patient at the Hosp. she worked at and they kissed and he squeezed her a ss the night before 5/19 Sat. After checking her cell call records I found that she had been talking to this guy since the Friday before. Come to find out she posted an ad seeking a male friend the wednesday before 5/16 they spoke for the first time on 5/18 met that night kissed he grabbed a ss, and then she met him again on 5/19 made out with him and he grabbed a $$ again. My wife didn't divulge everything to me I had to look for everything.

2007-05-24 16:23:53 · 27 answers · asked by pbell85 2

My boyfriend and I had a baby 9 months ago. Everything has been great up until 2 months ago.

He started going out, (once a week) and doing blow. He wont return my calls when he does, and sometimes ignores my texts or waits a really long time to get back to me.
He had a problem with blow before, but he quit it and seems to have fallen off the wagon.

He lies to my face about it, thinking I dont know and finally came clean. When I was in his face accusing him.

I also just feel like something else is off,...
he has a shower when he comes home, erases all his txt messages, I have seen a txt from a girl asking what he is doing and he said that she is a friend of his buddys and she just asks him what he is doing sometimes.
He works as a bartender and one of his shifts is during the day and he never comes straight home.

2007-05-24 16:15:31 · 31 answers · asked by Pro_Dog_Trainer 3

2007-05-24 15:59:47 · 4 answers · asked by Nya 1

I have been married for a year. I love my husband or I wouldn't have married him. I have a guy friend from before I was married...he's sweet and I would never want to be with him long term, but I love him as a friend and he's flirty, makes me feel young and cute I guess. I'll be going to see him (and some other friends) in a few weeks and we were making plans...and he keeps talking about how I should prepare myself because married or not, he'll still flirt. I feel like if my husband were there, he'd be furious, but its harmless so is it wrong? And what if i want it to be more? I feel like I'm already being disloyal...but that i'm also trapped. I hate that I feel this way because I want to be attracted to my husband and flirt with him...but he doesn't flirt, he doesn't get it. I don't even know what my question here is...ugh!

2007-05-24 15:57:34 · 25 answers · asked by its about time 5

I'm complain about her spending pretty often. But the more I make, the more I seem to stress about money. I want to keep my marriage together. Everytime I get to where we can pay off some bills, she seems to buy something that puts us right back behind. We've argued so much in the past, that we can't even talk about money anymore. So I keep it in an end up in tears and much anxiety. What advice can you give me? Thanks.

2007-05-24 15:45:39 · 11 answers · asked by allaturca63 4

My parents use to argue and fight all the time and i feel like its because of me. (They divorced three years ago)! And it just pisses me off! I feel guilty, its cuz i act like a spoil brat sometimes and i dont reliaze it. I wasnt raised to be spoiled, its just how i started growing up as, like who i became as a person!

i dotn know how i became this way and my parents use to fight about me all the time, im not an oly child. i have three brothers and two sisters.we live in a large household, yes, my oldest brother moved in with us with his two kids and i guess it became to crazy in the house, i just changed!!!

what should i do? i want to become the same person i was before i became this hasty old b*tch!

2007-05-24 15:28:00 · 25 answers · asked by Hawaiian MKG Surf Girl 1

2007-05-24 15:24:43 · 28 answers · asked by Big Dog 1

2007-05-24 15:23:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous