We have been in love since last 7 years, we had a major issue between us a few years back and did not talk for 2 years,,, meanwhile she was married to another guy due to family pressures. She never really got along with the guy, and has no emotional or physical bonding with the guy..
She is in another country at this moment and wants to come back to india and marry me...
We really dont know how to go ahead with this.. The guy has never tortured her, neither has he harmed her in any way, but its simply the love between both of us that she does not want to live with him... she has never matched with him as a wife and never ever given into him in anyways...
We are really wanting to get back together, but the guy is not willing to give a divorce...
what do we do in such a case.. who can help us..?? On what basis can she apply for a divorce..?? can some one please explain the legal aspect..??
Please help....
2007-05-24 19:34:56 · 12 answers · asked by Confusedlover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One more thing to clearify...
I never bothered her or tried to contact her.. it was her who contacted me and told me that she was unpahhy with the marriage and it was a mistake she agreed to marry him...
She has told me that even if i do not accept her back she anyways wants to get rid of this guy as she cannot bond with him in any manner as she has always had me in her mind and heart....
2007-05-24 20:21:21 · update #1
They also do not stay together... they have been living in different cities altogether, she has also told her parents and inlaws that she wants to get seperated...
sorry for giving incomplete info on this..
2007-05-24 20:25:08 · update #2
Your information is still incomplete. Firstly in which country they got married under which form of marriage, their religion etc? Secondly in which country they are now living? Without all these information how can I suggest how easily they can get divorce, whether they should go for it in that country or not where they live now, or they have to come back home to get this divorce. Some marriages solemnized in India & couple living in some other country say e.g. USA can apply for divorce in that country itself either under the provision of the matrimonial Act under which they married here in India or under any other matrimonial Act that is applicable for such marriages of foreigner living there, that if both agree to apply in it for getting divorce & there should not be any fraud or force involved in getting such divorce. Such decree of divorce passed in the foreign country is legal & valid in India too if the conditions I have mentioned have been fulfilled
2007-05-24 20:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U got urself in a vey bad position and she is treating u as a spare tyre... It also seems U are the main cause for the break up in this marriage, u either get out of their life and instead of helping her break the marriage, try to help her bond with her husband, how u do it thats ur look out, but for heaven's sake dont break a home......and remember a house built on broken hearts can never be a home
2007-05-24 20:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you feel she has made a commitment of marriage with some one else whether she is n love or not and now she wants to marry you, well once a mistake twice is a habit!!!!
2007-05-26 09:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if the guy is so good why does she wants to leave him?let the couple decide , marriage is not a child's play, if she wants to leave a guy who has been good to her what is the assurance she will not dump you? she needs to take marriage seriously, it could be a passing phase where her emotions are bit stirred, try to make her understand , why would the guy leave her when he is happy with her?they need to talk & u need lots lots of understanding & maturity to handle the situation , all the best for you!
2007-05-25 00:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by stanley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her. Do not spoil both your lives. Her husband, her family. You are already a 3rd party. don't interfere.
YOU ALREADY DID A FOOLISH THING BY DROPPING HER AFTER REASONABLE PERIOD OF LOVE.
Please do not try to enter and do another foolish decision for both.
REMEMBER!
All men make mistakes. Fools Repeat them.
In that case you are no different from a Donkey.
2007-05-27 02:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by auditorsudhakar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the chance was yours you didn't take it. Don't pretend to be overly samaritan now. Her life and divorce are her personal matter. If she is that desperate she will get a divorce anyway. You don't have to bother about her now.
2007-05-25 07:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by Modest 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this......but when she does leave that marriage theres a really good chance you will be left too, you are part of the misery, you are probly the escape...that sounds harsh but its true
2007-05-24 19:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by James 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Scoundrel, take a hint from the pages of Bill Clinton's memoirs and buy her a new dress, but ask that she give you the old one so that you can personally dispose of it. We would hate to see the DNA evidence from her stained dress bring a good man like you down. Also give her the morning after pill, lest you you want some b@stard child to come out of the woodwork someday to blackmail you. Once you are sure that you are in the clear on both fronts, you can give Julie the old heave ho (no pun intended).
2016-04-01 07:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by Gregory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to settle otherwise divorce under the law applicable to her. She may file suit where she resides.
2007-05-24 19:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm hopeless romantic,your day would come.she has got you wrapped around her little finger.
2007-05-24 19:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋