I am 25 going on my sixth year of marriage and have a 3 year old child. I go out once a month for ladies night with my girlfriends. I usually do drink. One of my friends and I ( who also has a child) got into a huge fight because she told me that I was irresponsible and I go out too much. I never really thought once a month was all that much but she thinks it is innappropriate. She also disproves that I go out without my husband to the bars. I feel like yes I am a mother but at the same time I am 25 and sometimes I just need the release. What do you guys think?
2007-05-24 18:37:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's your life, as long as hubby approves and you get to let loose once in a while, then wtf does she care?
2007-05-24 18:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Bitterly Sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are wrong, and good for your friend for calling you on this. You are a mom and a wife, and it's past time for you to accept your responsibilities, to not be selfish, and spend all your time with your child and husband. There's nothing wrong with getting together with friends for a coffee and a movie once every few months, but especially not out drinking. You must have a VERY understanding husband, and maybe it's time you just grew up.
2007-05-25 10:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fine. As long as you and your husband approve, who cares what anyone else in the world thinks. It sounds like your friend was just angry and trying to get to you by attacking your parenting skills. Ignore that. You have every right to kick back and enjoy yourself and once a month is not a lot at all. Some people are jealous of the good life you have and try to find fault in what you are doing to make themselves feel better. If she is a good friend, give her a pass, because you were both in an argument. If she is an acquaintance, I'd shake her off. She doesn't know you well enought to judge you and even if she thought she did, it's still not her business to get in yours and your husband's.
2007-05-25 01:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its acceptable what you are doing. Yes, your life has changed and yes you are now a mother, but you are still a person. You still need to have a life outside of the domestic sphere and have interests and hobbies of your own. If you make your everything about your child, what happens when that child grows up and away from you as is the process of growing older? you still need to retain part of yourself, its not like you going buck wild like Britney spears or anything. Add your husband into the mix too, have date nights, time alone together, your relationship has to foster as well.
2007-05-25 02:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is right for herself just as you are right for yourself. Frankly I don't think going out once a month is a major issue, even if you have children, mom's need a break too. What does it matter to you that she disapproves that you go out without your husband? If she doesn't pay your bills consider it simply that you and her don't agree on what is appropriate and leave it at that.
2007-05-25 03:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is healthy to get out and away for a while. A girls night out once a month is no big deal. If it were every weekend friday and saturday I could see where it is a problem. Once a month is awsome.
2007-05-25 01:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by broncogirl1498 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once or twice a month. Don't listen to your friend. If you have a reliable babysitter go have fun. She'll be the one burnt out in NO TIME. Get new friends lol
2007-05-25 01:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go out sometimes just for the sake of your sanity, helps to relieve stress.
As long as you are careful there is no reason why you should not continue your monthly night out. Go easy on the alcohol and enjoy yourself.
2007-05-25 01:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by Willy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see anything wrong with going out with girls once a month you are more than just a wife and a mother and you deserve to go out with your girls and have fun
2007-05-25 01:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by T. Brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to butt out and get her own life. It is really important that you keep in touch with your friends and maintain your own persona. Too often wives and mothers get so wrapped up in taking care of the hubby and kids that they forget to take care of themselves. There is NOTHING wrong with what you are doing. Drink one for me.
2007-05-25 01:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by svcouple7677 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is jealous. If its ok with your husband and it works for you two, then its no one else's business. This is no friend.
2007-05-25 01:50:39 · answer #11 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋