My son has been married to my daughter inlaw who's 5 1/2 years older, almost 12 years now,he still looks at her with total love. I will admit it up front I'M JEALOUS, and my 3 daughters have either separated or divorced their husband because the think their little bother is the type of man they deserve!
My son does everything for his wife. He learned how to prepare a wonderful meal has become a light master chef just for her I think even though he says he enjoys preparing meals for loved ones, it's really for her enjoyment!
He learn how to give 6 different kinds of messages just for his wife and gives her them at least once a week! He messages her feet every night!
He leaves little "I LOVE YOU NOTES" for her. writes her a letters and mails it to her telling her those things that he feels makes her part of his week, she openly looks forward to mail every week! She says it's like finding a piece or her husband because he takes time to writes them just for her!
2007-05-24 20:27:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She says that they sit down on once a month and talk about what they want in marriage also air out any grips that either may need to.
During this time both agree that they can say anything they need to & allow other to say peace without fear of anger or retaliation form spouse!
Last week 4 hour early D,I.L was moving tv, Son disapproved stated it to her, but instead of offering a negative ultimatum he instead told her if she did not move it back he would go over their and "LICK HER FROM HEAD TO TOE TWICE"! 3 or 4 time in certain areas! whole family laughed he was made aware we were their!
His wife simply said "Were married it's legal" then told son she would hold him to that!
They seem so happy they volunteer she helping out at woman shelter, he as a instructor at a special needs school!
They just find ways around problems instead of confronting them like rest of family . They seem happy laugh all the time with each other.
2007-05-24 20:27:15 · update #1
Also my son draw his wife a bubble bath and carrys her to it, and most of time has sented candles in their and pours her a glass of wine ans makes sure she has everything she needs so to enjoy her evening what you think about that?
My daughters think their little bother is the best husband alive and want one just like him, and told their sepeated husbands to either give them what son give his wife!
My Grandchildren love going over their home because my son & wife makes them feel wanted and not something that get under foot, as one of them said there the coolest!
GOD I WISHED I HAD THAT IN MY LIFE WITH MY HUSBAND! DID I GET ROBBED, because I feel like I did!
2007-05-24 20:27:34 · update #2
Good grief! They sound perfect! Heck, I'M JEALOUS!
Reading this made me feel jipped too! Lol.
Well, I tell you what, mom, YOU did an EXCELLENT job of raising him. You deserve the mother of the year award!
Take heart in this. Millions of women want what your daughter in law has but the sad truth is, the odds of finding someone like your son is about slim to none. He's one of a kind.
Just be proud of him and yourself for the years of work you put in, molding him into the man and gentleman he is today.
Hold on to that. Maybe it might help take the sting out of the fact that you, like your daughters and the reast of us spend most of our lives trying to find someone like him.
You and your daughters are not alone.
The only real drawback from this, is your daughters trying to find someone who will measure up to their brother. They may have to come to grips with the fact that they will probably never find a guy as perfect as he is but atleast they'll come close. They have set high standards. I say, good for them!
2007-05-24 20:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men, women, couples seem to have found the right formula for a successful relationship. And if all the right things fall into place as the years flow by... this could go on for the rest of their lives. Life is not a set course for any of us. What happens in the next minute, tomorrow, next week or some other later point in time might just see a totally different situation occurring to him, to her, to them.... heaven forbid that the relationship turns sour and the man everyone yearns to have right now might turn into the man everyone despises tomorrow. But again... that is life. Again.. that is... life! There are some men that do not have to work at surprising, romancing and impressing the lady in their life. Others will never, ever have a clue.... neanderthals that they are! Others are a blend of very masculine and a bit of the softer emotional side to be able to blend a bit better with the "feminine" half in their lives. Those men that can relate better with their ladies will go far and be envied and admired by other women. Kinda like the movie "What Women Want." Not saying that your son is at all gay.... what he knows and expresses may come mostly from wanting to learn about on his own, his studying, and.... listening and quizzing Mom, his sisters and other females in the family about their thoughts and hints on how to treat a lady. We are all the sum total of all of the experiences we have lived through.
2007-05-25 03:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by BrChDa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men are not created equal. Cliche, but your story proves my point. You shouldn't be envious of your sons marriage. After all YOU chose to marry the man you married. Had you held out long enough maybe you would have found a man more like your son. If your daughters keep comparing your son to their man they are only going to make the husbands resent your son. They need to either be happy with what they've got or divorce! And if they keep holding each man up to your sons talents, they will waiting for Mr. Right for a long time. You should be happy for your son that his marriage is very blessed and that he and his wife are so in love and happy.
2007-05-24 20:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you start by making the first move to change your relationship with your husband. you don't have to him you're jealous of how your son treats his wife and stuff. Just pretend that you are entering a new phase in life where you're more fond of your man Nada start with intimacy.
Start by saying i love you more often, and progress from there. Look at you son's relationship as an encouragement for you to do better in your life and relationship - not just towards your husband but your grown up kids as well...
Good luck and hope things take a turn for the better
2007-05-24 20:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by bEiNg DiScIpLiNeD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is be glad that you raised a son that acts that way. I don't care who it is, you should never compare your relationship to another relationship. Nothing comes from that but jealousy, resentment and problems. You married your husband for a reason. After time things can get mundane and you need to work harder to get out of ruts. The last thing a man wants to hear is "why can't you..like..does?"
2007-05-25 02:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by sportsfanstl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly, everything seems great when we are outside looking into anothers life. Sometimes we look at anothers life and compare to ours but everyone is different. There may be those who would look at your life and say that you had things great. You do have four great kids right?
Maybe the biggest thing you could learn from your son is: appreciate what you have AND do your part to make things the way you want them to be. Sometimes people don't initiate but they do follow.
Further... your son learned this from someone and a part of you is in him.
2007-05-24 20:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unlike my jealous MIL, you deserve a pat on back for honesty about your jealousy. So, maybe you have a chance of moving past it? I've no idea what my husband's mom thinks, she is not in our lives because of it, but she is jealous of similar things my husband has done for me for years. His sisters have married and divorced so many times that I've lost count. Why? They say it is because they want a husband that lives up to their brother. Sometimes, IMO, you RECEIVE back what you give? What do you do for/ give your husband?
2007-05-24 20:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by 8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Is this romantic and why can't I have this type of relation ship with my husband?" Because you CHOSE to marry the man you married, your husband is NOT your son. They are two different people. You CHOSE to marry the man and obviously STAY married to him so don't balme your husband entirely, when you're passing out the blame you might want to look into the mirror.
2007-05-24 20:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son and daughter-in-law sound like a wonderful couple. They chose each other, and make it work. You chose his father, and your daughters chose their husbands...life is what you make it. Instead of being jealous of the loving relationship between your son and his wife, be happy for them! Now focus on YOUR marrigage MORE and focus LESS on theirs!
2007-05-24 20:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What i can say is that your daughter in law must possess something not ordinary women can do in bed, that's why they are so much in love.As we all know, good sex makes two couples happy and satisfied, and being better in bed, the woman had more chances of talking out her problems without ending in shouting,so why not find out how good she is in bed? And do the same to your husband.
2007-05-24 20:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by emma l 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋