,when we discussed the issue to a point where she agreed that things will be okey , but all in all she never ceased, im boured and to apoint of avoiding her, please advise, keeping in mind that i have my own problems to take care of.
2007-05-24 18:48:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let her know calmly that you have your own things to deal with and you can't get involved in her problems at this time.
2007-05-24 18:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, she sounds like she is being a bit of a pain in the backside.
Just tell her, I have so much going on right now that I'm no good to any one. Then say, I'm afraid that my situation is going to be this way for a while, so I won't be able to help you. Suggest that a therapist or some one more qualified would be better for her to talk with, it will keep her information more private. You can also say, how can I help you when I've got so much to deal with my self.
If she wants you to say what is going on with your situation then you can say, you know I'm just such a private person I can't talk about it with you. But thank you so much for your concern.
Make sure that you practice this a lot, stand in front of a mirror so that you can watch your facial expressions to make sure that nothing gives you away. Practice it a lot so that the words will come out like water flowing out of a fountain. It should shut her right down. Good luck, I really do hope that this helps you. Some people just don't know when to quit.
2007-05-25 02:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's looking for a distraction - in you. Married women don't talk about their problems with other men, unless they want to flirt or take their mind off their homelife.
Just tell her that you don't feel comfortable talking about her personal life with her anymore, but that you hope everything works out for her in the way that she wants. If she doesn't take this direct and honest approach seriously, I'd tell her "I'm busy right now", everytime I see her.
Of course you have your own problems and that is exactly why you don't have time to pretend to be her clergy.
2007-05-25 02:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid her like the plague. If you are having problems at home already she will only make it worse. Tell her to talk to her husband go to counseling or something you are not qualified to give any opinion
2007-05-25 01:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by cooljeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she starts, say something like this--"There is no use going over this again. You and your husband need marriage counseling, and I am not qualified to give it to you." Then change the subject. She will get the hint!
2007-05-25 01:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can just tell her that you are sorry she is having problems but you are not interested in hearing about them..... Maybe you can just be straight forward with it and tell her the truth : that you like her but are not interested in her domestic issues...... Good Luck.
2007-05-25 01:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by kaseysalari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, that talking things out with you is not helping her marriage. If she really wants to talk so bad, maybe she should talk to her husband and confess the things that have been on her mind.
2007-05-25 01:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by beygrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you feel bad for her, but it depresses you when she keeps telling you about her problems....Tell her that you'd like to still be friends but you don't want to hear about the sad stuff any longer......It's not fair when one person makes their problem everyone else's problem....Unfortunately, [ In your friend's defence ] that seems to go with the territory, when you consider yourself to be someones friend...
2007-05-25 02:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that one , don't no what to tell you but to tell her your getting sick of hearing her problems and they are bring you down and she needs to lighten up.
2007-05-25 02:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do what you don't want to do. Avoid her. That's all.
2007-05-25 01:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋