I have been with my wife since she 16 (she now 20 me 22)and I was 17. She got pregnant after 3mos of being together and things were rocky like her cheating on me with her ex (the day after homecoming). Anyways recently we had hit some rocky times (I got a BJ from a coworker very close to christmas time 12/23 and told her on 12/24) A big mistake happened once felt horrible told her the next day. Sunday 5/20 I found out that my wife went out and recognized a visitor of a patient at the Hosp. she worked at and they kissed and he squeezed her a ss the night before 5/19 Sat. After checking her cell call records I found that she had been talking to this guy since the Friday before. Come to find out she posted an ad seeking a male friend the wednesday before 5/16 they spoke for the first time on 5/18 met that night kissed he grabbed a ss, and then she met him again on 5/19 made out with him and he grabbed a $$ again. My wife didn't divulge everything to me I had to look for everything.
2007-05-24 16:23:53 · 27 answers · asked by pbell85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hun... looks like whes still with her childish games.... yall both need to sit down and talk, and see if yall even want to be with each other.... cuz it looks like yall are lookin for love everywhere but where you should be gettin it.... you cant be mad at her, because of what you did... no matter if she told you or not wrong is wrong.... you need to confront her.... If yall cant meet in tha middle then i would get a divorce..... i know that easier said than done... but why stay in a relationship where yall are hurting each other???
2007-05-24 16:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, do you want to be together? Maybe the two of you should ask eachother that before anything else. You messed around on her, she messed around on you... Is this worth not having eachother in your lives? If it is then I'd probably get out of the marriage now and not waste time you could be happy being miserable. If it isn't maybe you two should sit down and have a chat. Is this something that is going to continue happening? Are you two going to continue secretly seeing other people? Maybe if that's the case you should think about allowing eachother to see other people for a while... see if it suits your marriage. For some marriages this works really well, for some marriages it doesn't. It's not for everyone, but maybe it's worth a shot. If you love eachother and want to be together, but are still feeling as if you are missing out on being with someone else (you got together pretty young) it might work. If you choose to though, you must both get rid of the jealousy. It doesn't work for couples who are jealous of other's receiving affection from their s/o.
I'm not saying this is what you should do, I'm just giving you options to consider. There are ways to compromise and work things out without having to break up, if you love eachother and want to stay together. Good luck to you, I hope whatever happens works out well for you both!
2007-05-24 16:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by serenedreams28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... she cheated on you, you cheated on her, and she's cheating on you again. Sounds like neither of you have any right to take the moral high ground here. Maybe it's time to get some relationship counseling, discover all the reasons why things have gotten this bad, and try to rectify. Or just separate and get out of the bad situation. You were very young when you got together - it's entirely possible that you've both just grown apart and now want different things out of life. :-/
2007-05-24 16:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Butterscotch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg what do you do when you find this out...something like this kinds happen to me with my husband...please feel free to PM at any time OK... But I'm still with my husband if its truly meant to be you guys can work through this.. there are reason why women cheat and seeing as how you've been together since she was so young she hasn't been out in the world and doesn't know what things can go wrong and what not....I'm not going to tell it but if you IM me I've got some suggestions of what you can do...
2007-05-24 16:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by ocliz4lyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got the dates and time down pat... You got a BJ from a co-worker and she's kissing everyone under the sun. Do you guys know what a marriage is??? Time to get a divorce and find someone else and keep you thing in your pants...
2007-05-24 16:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lookin 4 ants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need counseling. You both have some issues to work out. You both have cheated, in one way or another. Besides, if she is looking for other guys to be with, and if she is making out with all these guys, aren't you worried about STDs and other diseases? Just face the music, and get a divorce. Obviously no one is happy in your relationship
2007-05-24 16:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by Manda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really... there is no hope for this relationship. Neither of you is ready for the seriousness, commitment, trust, and true love that makes a great marriage. Both of you still need to be single so you can get BJs and she can get her azz squeezed.
2007-05-24 16:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as a healthy relationship without trust. Just because you have been together since you were kids is no excuse to cheat. You said VOWS. You both need to consider counseling if you want to salvage your marriage, otherwise, it may be time for you to go your seperate cheating ways.
2007-05-24 16:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by randadell 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow you both got married way to young. Now you guys have this lust for other people. Nothing will save it. Not counseling or anything! Just try effective communication! No yelling or screaming. find out what she wants and then you tell her. It should be way easier then telling her that you cheated
2007-05-24 16:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by Hottest Gamer! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a solid marriage to me. You two are just playing games with each other.
Leave. But, either try to get the baby, or pay child support. Not a good situation for baby to be in.
2007-05-24 16:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋