my partner is very much attached to his mother and judges me via her words. from the beg. i was nt able to fit the tag of a perfect homemaker , which irrits them, especially my mil. all small issues would be blowed up and told to him as a result, never was there as intimacy bet us. due to better job he went out of stat, but i was prevented frm joining him. still i managed to go and stay with him for a mth, which irritated my inlaws and when he came to chennai during weekends, told things against me to him .he is a type of personality who tells his mother even intimate things bet a hus&wife. one such thing what he told made my mil anger and she in turn told things against me to my husband and he in turn asked me to stay in my parents place only. for the past 11 mths we are seperate. he is not calling me nor replying to my emails/sms. now suddenly, with his co sister help , he is approaching for mutual seperation saying "mind is ntmatching"-pls advise me..i am still eager to continue .
2007-05-21 23:46:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear Child I'm the last person to break a happy home of any one, but if the home is already broken & chances of repairing it is very remote then best is to remove the garbage & start with a new home where at least you get self respect, love of husband & all matrimonial rights as a wife. You have being staying away from him for 11 months now & he never bothered to get you back, this only show his disinterest in you as a wife, so being a self respecting lady you should not mind kicking him out of your life & find another suitable person. His proposal of divorce by mutual consent is the easiest & shortest way to get divorce within 6 to 12 months, otherwise the divorce suits take years to decide & waist all you precious years of life running around in the court premises. So go ahead agree for divorce on mutual consent & end this bad episode of your life once for ever.
2007-05-22 00:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the chances for reconcilation seems to be very difficult as u had plunged into a relation without knowing the other person. every mom sees dil as a potential adversary coming to take her child away. u should understand that. either reconcile to being a mat on which ur husband wipes his feet or look after urself and find urself a new life.
DO NOT accept mutual seperation. u get nothing from him because ur also agreeing to being mind mismatching. let him start divorce proceedings. sue him. ask for conjugal rights. consult a a lawyer.
2007-05-22 08:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by ravi c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away from this man as fast as you can. He will NEVER ever change and this is clearly an unhealthy relationship. Men like this can't help themselves, they were raised to be that way and you will never win. He's doing you a favor. This woman is controlling him and telling him how to get rid of you, and you can bet she's going to control the divorce. (I went through it). The first thing you should do is get a GOOD lawyer immediately and be prepared for the worst. That's what people like that do......they turn on you and go for the throat. Why on earth would you want to "continue" this relationship. Surely you can do better.
2007-05-22 07:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really wish to be with him talk to him without any interference take ur own time if still id doesn't work and even if u wish to to end the relationship then do as it is .
In the beginning of a relationship u both should have discussed about ur interest like whether u wish to lead a nuclear or joint family and moreover in ur case ur in-laws are troublesome so it will be better if u talk with ur husband ..... let it be a free open discussion and never ever involve ur family nor his........
Good luck to u
2007-05-22 07:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by jasmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have a child........the answer depends on him/her.better not to part wid him.he is not really bad.he's still a mom's kid.u need to express urself(directly..not thru emails etc.) openly to ur hubby.if possible go for a holiday. tell him all ur woes...whole heartedly.....im sure he will listen...
2007-05-22 06:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by themostwantedprince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish my wife was like you - if you really intend to continue and not break the marriage - write to me @ buzz.blore@yahoo.com
2007-05-22 09:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love him soo much such that you get the priority
2007-05-22 08:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋