she said he pressured her to do this by telling her she owed him for her position at work. she said she hates him for what its done to her mentaly and our relationship. i love her very much. she was laided off when she told she could not do this anymore. she then told me what happened. later on we found out he was fired. we started legal proceddings ,but stopped them. i want to make this work so please help.
2007-05-21 18:24:41 · 12 answers · asked by HURTIN IN BAMA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Crazy situation. I don't know your wife. You do. If you believe her and you are both committed to make the marriage work then try.
To me it doesn't sound like you got the full story. If she is so weak spined how do you know it won't happen again in a different situation. Only you two can decide what to do.
It is a shame to break up only after a few months. I would suggest that you both go for marital counseling even tough I think your throwing out your money.
Just make sure you don't have any kids till your marriage is ROCK SOLID.
Good luck to you both.
2007-05-21 18:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you choose to stay with your wife, you should let it go. Yes, anyone can sue anybody for any reason these days. But, the down side of sueing in a situation like this is it is a long hard road. The stress from it all can ruin your marriage because the details of her affair will be gone over with a fine tooth comb. My advice is to drop it and move on with your life.
2007-05-21 18:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your wife should be seen as a victim. She didn't do this willingly but did what she had to to get the job and then was blackmailed. Why did you stop proceedings???? You should follow through with them so your wife knows that you believed her and you supported her and your relationship will flourish from this.
2007-05-21 18:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sexual harassment such as this is not cool in any circumstance! She was basically told that she owed him and she felt threatened it sounds like.
You need counseling to deal with this. You love her, sounds like you're willing to work thru this, not just throw in the towel. If she's committed to your marriage----get into counseling.
2007-05-21 18:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you both agree she was pressured into this behavior, the best thing to do is just try to forget it happened. You have to make yourself forgive her for not standing up for herself, and she has to forgive herself for what she did.
Your love for each other is still alive. Focus on your love, not the mistakes, and give yourselves time to heal from this.
2007-05-21 18:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well she sounds pretty easy..... if she is hot, I will let her work for me.... at least for a quickie.....lol lol
No, I am just kidding... you should probably leave her, I don't believe her about the pressure for sex. She could have come to you and let you know about the boss. No kids yet? If no kids are involved, go.
2007-05-21 18:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im sorry for what you are going through, but you need to
get some counseling to help deal with what happen and
also why did you stop legal actions aganist him. if he
really force hmself on her to keep her job that ground for
a lawsuit. so what really going on.
2007-05-21 18:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she didnt want to have this with him pal she wouldnt. it. takes .2. to have a affair not one . the reason she dropped it was because the truth would come out on both him as well as her in there affair in my opion?
2007-05-21 19:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you putting it behind you for the better of your relationship.. Best of luck
2007-05-21 18:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by marleen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just forgive her and forget it ever happened. Life is too short.
2007-05-21 20:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋