2007-05-21 17:58:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know about what happens to the guys, but any woman that has to put up with a man everyday of her life deserves to be able to yell and scream once in awhile.
I have loved both my boyfriends, and my husband when I was with them. They all drove me crazy at times. The insensitivity, the weird rationalization, the male chauvinist attitude when around their friends, and even just leaving the toilet seat up, every now and then, drove me nuts.
I am happy to say that I now live alone, and just allow a man to visit when I feel I want to put up with him. I am not sure that I ever want a man living in my house again. It stays so neat and clean. No filthy messes in the bathroom to clean up. I cook when I feel like it. I make a phone call when I want sex. He actually treats me special when we go out! i actually enjoy his company when I see him. Why did I ever want to live with a man before? Your guess is as good as mine!
2007-05-21 18:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some marriages work and others don't. Please don't place everyone who is married into the raving lunatic category, and don't assume every married person is a fragment of their former self. When one gets married, one should continue to change and grow over the years. You sound like perhaps you had an unhappy marriage, or perhaps your parents did.
2007-05-21 18:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm I never thought of marriage as a fragmentation. Aspects of your personality won't necessarily be the same nor can you do the same types of things you did pre-marriage which can annoy your single friends or more loosey goosey married friends. Since I met my boyfriend people have seen all of my personality flesh out instead of the career focused goofy me. I'm a greater whole in my opinion not a fragment. And we're getting married as soon as he is able to get home from his tour in Iraq.
2007-05-21 18:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about the raving lunatics part but you cant combine two lives into one and continue to be the person you were before. If that was so then you wouldnt be with the other person.
2007-05-21 18:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does, doesn't it? I think much of it is that the political marketers create images of what you think you are and those that you must hate. The whole rich guy rant is one of those hate campaigns that makes no real sense, it just gets people worked up hating the "rich guy" though they have no clue who that is. Its some fat old white guy isn't it? No, its Oprah, and Julia Roberts and football players and rock stars and lots of brand new millionaires who make money on the internet. But there is the image to hate and people buy right into it. Conservatives do the same thing, the image of a Dem is some wimpy guy who is a coward and hates America. Politics, and religion, drives people crazy because politicians appear to our hate glands and not our intellect. Oh yeah don't forget that conservatives are all super patriots and liberals are all super intelligent, oh so much more than others. Its ugly but many people buy into that stuff and rant and rant and is meant to divert your attention from reality. Obama is nearly the exact opposite of the image that he projects to a voter base. He gave a trillion dollars to the richest people in America in his failed stimulus program, and he now has combat troops in five countries. His image? Man of the people, sleeves rolled up with you brother and anti war guy with a Nobel Peace prize who actually bombed Libya to smithereens to install an Islamic regime. Its all odd.
2016-05-19 07:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm... sounds like you have just met weirdos. That isn't the case at all. If you are in a good relationship it should make you somewhat of a better person, instead of drag you down and make you lose yourself... and your mind?? Sorry if you've had a bad experienc with someone... Kinda sucks. Don't be closeminded about it. You will find that a lot of married couples are a lot of fun!
2007-05-21 18:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by K.A. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can only happen if YOU allow it to happen. No one drives you to madness, it is a trip you take all by yourself, no matter who you choose to blame. You are/were party to the trip. It is up to each of us to maintain our identity in a relationship. When we give in, little by little, to another, there will come a time when you will not recognize the person starring back at you in the mirror. AND, when you surrender your personality, you give up that part of you the partner fell in love with...that is the real problem that happens in a controlling relationship. Good luck
2007-05-21 18:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT DIDNT TURN US INTO RAVING LUNATIC HOW EVER I THINK THE RESON U THINK THAT PPL LOOSE THEIR FORMER SELFS IS BECAUSE WHEN YOU UNITED YOU BECOME ONE AND YOU AREN'T THE SELFISH PERSON U WERE B/F I DONT THINK ITS A BAD THING I THINK ME AND MINE IMPOVED EACH OTHER I WAS A SELFISH BART AND HE WAS A SHY LIL GUY NOW HES THE MAN OF OUR HOUSE AND I LOVE HIM SO MUCH THAT IT DOENS BOTHER ME TO SUMITT TO HIM BECAUSE I LOVE HIM AND HE LOVES ME AND WOULD DO WHAT EVER HE HAD TO TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF ME AND I THINK THAT MAKES US BOTH BETTTER PPL AND AFTER 29+YRS WERE STILL VERY MUCH IN LOVE
2007-05-21 18:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a fragment...I have just added a different piece
2007-05-21 18:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, I thought only old maids do that.
2007-05-21 18:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋