I had a friend who needed a place to stay. An IV drug using whore who had left her husband and needed a place to stay. When I went to spend a few days with my mom and grandma she slept with my husband. It wasnt the first time. The first time was four years ago when he also slept with her husband. How many times do you have to forgive? I didn't know about the first time until I caught a text between them when I got back from my moms.
2007-05-21 16:36:40 · 32 answers · asked by chaoskid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. I'm sure the heartache is overwhelming.
Forgiveness is a choice. God has told us repeatedly that we are to forgive those who hurt us. He also tells us that a part of love includes accountability and without that, there can be no love. I am speaking about love for yourself. You have been violated in one of the worst ways possible. Any forgiveness you may render out to your husband, will be for you and you only. Forgiveness is for those who choose to forgive, but forgiving someone doesn't just come in a second. I know that's what we have all been taught growing up, but that's not reality. When people have been hurt to their inner core, the pain and emotions that go along with it, take a long time sometimes to work through. I personally don't believe that someone can instantly choose to forgive someone else without first exploring and working through their "real" feelings deep inside.
You have been deeply hurt...you need to allow yourself to feel whatever it is you have to inside. This is the only way you can begin to heal from this. Only then can you possibly, genuinely forgive someone else. I feel that anyone who makes an instantaneous choice to forgive something of this nature, is only lying to themselves.
I agree with the others that you are being used and that it is time for you to begin a new part in your life without someone who is going to obviously hurt you over and over.
Take care of yourself and I wish you the best.
2007-05-22 00:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is easily heart breaking tale.. earlier i will propose you something, i might basically opt to ask you one question.. What are you worth?? existence is merely too short to forgive somebody greater suitable than thrice for an identical blunders. a guy like this does not deserve a honest woman such as you and you do no longer deserve a guy like him.. you're basically 29, and thank god you haven't any longer have been given any teenagers earlier.. So this must be lots much less annoying than something of the ladies people who is going via this after having teenagers. I sense which you're a lots stable female who has been very harshly emotionally abused. do no longer pay attention to those who're suggesting you to take revenge. existence is to short for all that nonsense. Your heart has made an particularly clever decision. you have all rights to take 0.5 his sources. merely be ambitious and make the pass.. have faith me you will no longer remorseful approximately. you may sense lonely and harm for a while yet it is barely momentary. combat for your self appreciate expensive. God is there with you. merely close your eyes and ears to all his and his relatives's consoling words and make the pass. There could be not greater advantageous decision than this. Divorce him and in no way turn returned.. perfect needs
2016-11-04 23:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by boddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If at all, then once only. After the first time your partner would have confronted what he had done and made a decision how he wished his relationship would be with you from that point on. If he decided to be faithful and you were able to forgive his actions then there would be hope. If he has decided to disrespect you as a wife and friend then his actions give you all the answers you need to find someone who deserves you and leave him with whatever scum he wishes to be with.
2007-05-21 16:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by two-bob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good man wouldn't cheat in the first place. If you have showed him loyalty then you deserve better than him. Kick him out and move on. There are so many more men out there don't waste a good man by staying with a repeating cheater. That is strictly an illness of his that you cannot cure.
2007-05-21 16:44:17 · answer #4 · answered by lavendergoddess1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend? A drug addict whore can never be anyone's friend. They are sick and need treatment and even then there are no guarantees. You need to kick him out and maybe she'll take him in this time, they deserve eachother. Get out of the relationship before you end up with AIDS or some form of STD . Leave or kick him out whatever is the fastest. He did it twice...he'll do it again.
2007-05-21 16:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by lilianainthedesert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-22 09:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a good hard look at yourself.
You don't choose very good people to be with do you?
A friend that's an IV drug user, and a husband that has cheated more than once? And you're asking this question?
Use your head this time, not you heart. . . get out now!!
2007-05-21 17:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and move on you have know reason to give this guy anymore of your time, and really I would go get checked out for HIV if he was messing around with a IV drug user.
Come on love is love but he has already shown you twice that he don't care about you or hurting your feelings.
Time for a divorce take him to the cleaners.
2007-05-21 16:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about that. Try to remember your marriage vows. Pray for your husband to remain faithful thru out your marriage life. God does not condone adultery, but He is big on Forgiveness so i am giving you some bible verses. I hope it helps. Good luck, God bless. p.s- Try to Never put your marriage or Husband in temptations way ever again. Not fair to him or you and Not a good idea.
2007-05-21 17:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to forgive one time. The sanctity of marriage should mean the same to both people. It sounds as if your husband only cares about himself and not you & I bet wants to make it all good by saying he's sorry. That is called greed and hate.
2007-05-21 16:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋