what would you do?

Question

we have the oppurtunity to foster our two month old niece, her mother is a drug addict and the baby was born addicted, her mother has not been heard from since April 27th and the baby needs to be placed in foster care, we would like to adopt her, but since the mother is no where we really don't know how she feels about it, we do know the mother is still using and living on the streets....my question is: WOULD YOU FOSTER THE BABY...WAIT AND SEE IF SHE CAN BE ADOPTED FIRST OR DO IT NOW FOR THE BABIES BENEFIT, we are just worried of making complete lifestyle changes just for the mother to come and rip her out of our arms, would you foster her either way, why or why not...we meet with the social worker tommorow

it is almost fate, we have been trying to conceive for over a year, my husband does have a 13 year old that we have in the summer.....I am ready to make the changes neccesary, but unlike when you are pregnant and have 7-10months to plan for a baby we have like 2 weeks, so that is what makes it a bit scary...if that's the right word I don't know we are excited and ready to give her all of the love we can no matter what the out come is, her mom has been on the streets for 4+ years, using and prostituting, so our chances of getting her are high, her mother has tried to get clean and she is 9 weeks old....but maybe god willing she will get clean and then we will have a niece, if not then a daughter.....

Answer 1

I would absolutely foster the baby if your life can accomodate the changes this will require. You don't say if you are already parents so I don't know what changes you are looking at. You will love her, make sacrifices for her and change how you look at the world in general- and yes, she may be taken from you. But the loving foundation you could give her and the immense love and life-changing quality of the love you will receive will never be lost.
It is a risk you must be willing to take. You must look in your hearts and at the life you most want to live to make this decision. And realize that no one should place blame for what ever decision you make. I wish you the best of luck in this difficult situation.

Answer 2

I would take the child and go through the process of adoption. There's a child who would benefit with stability, love and the care of family instead of strangers. If it's in your heart to permanently take care of this child, then by all means adopt the child legally and raise her to know the truth.

Also, caring for a child that mother is crack addicted will be stressful but well worth it in the long run. All the extra love and attention that will be focused on this child, will be a major factor in this child's life forever.

Good for you and good luck.

Answer 3

I REALLLLY think that you should adopt her because your family and this is what family is for and you never know who will be taking care of this child
im 15
and if i had a choice i would totally stay with you instead of somebody i dont know
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pleaaaaaaaaaase dont foster off this baby!!!!

Answer 4

You should only do it if you genuinely care about this child.

If so, then this is the risk you have to take.

Remember to do what is right for the child, not what is right for you. If you feel it would disrupt your life more than you care for it to, then don't take the child. There are plenty of others out there who will.

Answer 5

GOOD FOR YOU!! I'm a huge advocate of fostering and adoption.

Talk to a lawyer about what your best options are. Perhaps you can get an iron-clad judgment where she can never get her hands on her again.

My best wishes of luck and strength will be with you. : )

Answer 6

i would talk to the social worker and let her know that this
child should be with family members not strangers. as for
the mother if and when she come back she will have to
deal withthe courts so i would do what is right for your
niece right now.

Answer 7

well i would say start taking care of the kid now and start giveing it love and a good and happy life.
the mother dosnt dersive a kid,and if can adopt later that would be great

Answer 8

well i think you have to do what your heart tells you is right. you may get hurt or you may get your heart desire.sometimes we just need to take a chance.

good luck