Marriage & Divorce - 21 May 2007

I have been dating a guy for 3 months and he is currently separated from his wife. He is filing for divorce this month and they have been separated for over 1 year. We are planning to get married later this year. I want to meet his kids but am trying to hold off until he has resolved his custody/visitation issues with his ex. I dont want to further complicate things by meeting his kids (ages 5 and 2) and then have his ex get upset. Should I meet them now or wait? Thanks!

2007-05-21 09:58:56 · 15 answers · asked by Carolyn G 1

What is the point of doing this in front of other people on their spouse.
Why might it persist if things are ok?

2007-05-21 09:57:23 · 1 answers · asked by littleblanket 4

hello, ive been with my b/f for 3 years and please dont say break up with him he's a loozer becuase thats not want i want to do right now. im not ready to let go of this relationship we both love eachother..but im getting pretty close to giving up. this past couple of months have not been easy we both lost a friend and his mother is a acholohlic. well latly more and more he accusses me of cheating its gotten so bad to the point were i dont want to go out with my friends anymore becuase all i will hear is who did you hook up with. i have never cheated havent even came close! well today he started his rant on how i probibly cheated on him yesterday (this was the first time i hung out with friends in months) i lost it and said i might as well since you already think i do and he said i know you do and hung up...i just want to convice him i will never cheat. i want to save what we have but i just dont know what to do..and i know for a fact he is not cheating so thats not a issure. any advic

2007-05-21 09:43:55 · 32 answers · asked by lovely 3

I dont know what to do or how I let this happen. I know what is right for our family but how do I get over the other man. My hubby is always working I'm always alone with my two kids I feel like he doesnt love me but he says he does I'm young and dont want to be unhappy for the rest of my life. I cant imagine my husband with another woman, my kids around another woman, but I also cant imagine not being able to talk to the other man or let him go. It started out just an infatiuation but now I feel completely in love like I used to be with my husband I feel like we are meant to be together.. He is not pressuring me to divorce we remain friends until I decide what to do and no we have not been intimate just an emotional relationship. I cant imagine putting my kids through a divorce. I just dont know what to do.......

2007-05-21 09:41:46 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

You don't need an attroney if you can get the other person to sign then ,just file them. I hate this as**hole. Yes I knew he drink beer when I met him but he consumes enough now for all of us and still work, walk, and drive better then anyone, I'M GOING TO SCREAM

2007-05-21 09:39:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am not opposed to letting my kids take things over to their dad's house on his weekends. I've never had a problem before until just recently. I don't so much mind clothes getting mixed up or left over there, but my daughter had her NintendoDS stolen at their house. A month later the little girl down the street finally confessed. Now, my son let his step sister "borrow" his IPOD, she took it to school & guess what.....someone stole it. I swore i would never let them take another expensive gadget or toy over there EVER again. They act like that's not fair. These are things I pay for! Should i not be mad at that?? Is there anyone else who doesn't allow their kids to take things over to their ex's?? Am I being unreasonable?

2007-05-21 09:34:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

He and i used to do drugs Recreationally. Him more than me. Way more. Well, we started going to church, and he told me he was done, and a changed man. I think by the way he was talking to me on the phone he has done some today. It's been probably 3 months for him. how can i get him to tell me the truth, and what do i do to tell if he's done any? cocaine???

2007-05-21 09:21:42 · 17 answers · asked by Big B 1

My husband is a jerk. He is not physically abusive, but mentally abusive. He yells at me daily about how "messy" the house is. I work 2 jobs/have 3 kids, so I don't give a crap if the house is messy. It's not even that bad! If I don't "cook" dinner and bring home take out, he gets mad. I have 3 dogs and he constantly complains that our house "stinks" which I, and everyone else doesn't smell! He tells me I am lazy and calls me things like ***** and moron a lot! He is really hard on my son who is 8 (he is not his biological dad) and makes him cry on about a daily basis.

On the other hand....I am scared to leave. I am older (34), out of shape, and have a lovely little disease called HPV (for those of you who don't know, is the virus that causes genital warts - even though I've never had the warts) which will make any future dating totally awful! Also, our house is in his parent's name.

He just tells me I'm too sensative, and at least I'm not getting hit like his mom did!

2007-05-21 09:20:22 · 35 answers · asked by love2dance 4

2007-05-21 09:19:24 · 6 answers · asked by minnetta c 6

you had sex?"...i was shocked.....I could not even answer...for atleast a minute...."I just said..."I cannot answer that"...he just moved on like it was a regular question....No wonder, i hate to date....Personal questions are a no, no...DO GUYS JUST NOT REALIZE PERSONAL QUESTIONS ARE OFF LIMITS ON THE FIRST FEW DATES OR WHAT???...i was horrified....

2007-05-21 09:17:00 · 18 answers · asked by sweet 4

i dnt understand the point in watching porn, wether online, video, magazines, w/e it may be. however alot of people for some reason enjoy it. more then anything, i dnt understand why married men or womam watch porn or have any intrest insomething like that when they should be happily married and satisfied with their spouse. maybe im wierd, but i find it offensive.i have caught my husband a couple times downloding some sort of retarded porn.and more then anything it hurt my feelings. most woman i know are not satisfied with their bodies, and dnt have the best self estem, me being one of them. i also recently had a baby, 3 weeks ago and really dnt feel that great about myself then i find him doing something like that. is it cause hes not happy with me sexualy so he looks fo it else were? i know there is better looking out there but it makes me feel like he is not satisfied with me. idk. im sry it sounds like im probably juz complaining. really i am. but has anyone ever gone through this

2007-05-21 09:16:01 · 24 answers · asked by Angelina C 2

Our marriage was on the worst time it was always arguements & fights call things to each other around that time she cheated on me, b4 i found out about it i started to do everything to fix our marriage to get her love back, my marriage was getting better & better we started going to church, & counseling, & just when i though our marriage was going to work i found out that she cheated months before. i really love her but i dont think i can forgive her. we have a 3yr old son together & i would like to give it a chance but i always think of it when i see her i'm not sure if i should give her a chance or not she said she was drunk & mad at me & our relationship was bad, that she is sorry that she promise me she will never do anything again that she would be the best wife if i give her a chance. and i would like to because i still love her & because our son, but than again i dont want to be close to her cuz i get mad when i remember. if you a man and been thru this give me you opinion.

2007-05-21 09:08:01 · 16 answers · asked by Never change 1

when you are married for whatever reasons????..i do not see where it is anyone's business except the people involved???..NO OFFENSE, BUT THE PEOPLE THAT WILL JUDGE ARE USUALLY THE religious ones....from what i have encountered....and they are not suppose to judge...it is amazing???

2007-05-21 09:03:01 · 4 answers · asked by sweet 4

i cheated on my husband...i know if i tell him he would kill me or himself,i want to confess but i cant...wot should i do??

2007-05-21 09:02:55 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for about a year. My husband and I had dated for 3 years prior getting married. Just the other day, I found out how many sex partners he had perviously before me. At first he gave me a number when we were dating, and now that we are married, that number has doubled from what he told me. Should I be a ticked off at this lie?

2007-05-21 08:54:24 · 27 answers · asked by 0000 3

I want to get away from this drunk idiot I am married to. I have 20 dollars to my name. He causes me to lose jobs due to arguring and his drinking I am a nurse and make good money and have put all my money into our home, I have made up to 3000 dollars in two weeks time and it all has went to support anything we needed like food personal itiems and gas car notes I'm very free giving when I am working. But, I can only hold a job 3 months with this man. I throw my hands up and say forget it, and I quit. I want out so bad but don't have a job or money. When he just works he want give me but 20 dollars for a month after I have sent hunderds and thousands on bills and what not I WANT OUT NOW OR I AM GOING TO DIE

2007-05-21 08:53:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been separated for almost 9 years and now he has asked for a divorce. (I have never done it before because I couldn't afford it and didn't "need" to). The children have always lived with me and have visited him on alternate weekends. Will he be able to change this?

2007-05-21 08:53:05 · 17 answers · asked by Dirty Blonde 3

then a few months later she doesn't want to be with you and says she hasn't loved you for 3 years!

2007-05-21 08:49:04 · 60 answers · asked by blownover 1

okay there is this guy i like and he asked me out then i said ill have to think about it. then we went to a party and he asked my friend out! what should i do????? i really like him

2007-05-21 08:43:42 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

just wondering....?

2007-05-21 08:43:23 · 7 answers · asked by Franky 1

If you get married to your fiance ,and find out that his divorce was not final from his previous marriage, Does that mean your marriage is consider void till the divorce is final?. Do you have to marry him again, because the first marriage to him was consider void!?

2007-05-21 08:40:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello, I am looking for some solid advice. I have been married for eight years, and I have two children. Recently I have had contact with my old boyfriend whom I dated through the late 80's and 90's. He cheated on me and I had to leave. Time went on and I met a very nice man. We also dated in the 90's. Needless to say I love my husband but the excitement has gone away. My old boyfriend is full of life and fun. He hurt me in the past but he is my one true love. My husband has never hurt me on purpose. At the same time I have a battle with my heart and mind. I know it is wrong but I can't stop thinking about the fun we had about twenty years ago. His mother passed and we have reconnected through the telephone. I went to the funeral and those old feelings came out of know where. My intentions weren't to catch feelings for him. Now we talk and he wants me to come see him. I am scared to go see him because I know what will and can happen. I just don't want to hurt anyone.

2007-05-21 08:38:38 · 26 answers · asked by K-LO 1

if married and gets a divorce, who gets to keep the engagement ring???

what if you are not married, then who gets to keep the engagement ring?

2007-05-21 08:37:39 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

are you truly satisfied (in bed) by your partner?

2007-05-21 08:10:23 · 13 answers · asked by Big B 1

2007-05-21 08:08:57 · 8 answers · asked by Ron 1

2007-05-21 08:03:40 · 14 answers · asked by ashwin bhargav 1

I applied for a broadband DSL connection. My husband and I had problems before of him using the internet. When he is in front of the computer, he can stay there for as long as he likes and not doing some chores at home. He's had history of access porn sites before.
We had a huge fight last week and I reached the point of leaving home due to his negligence of his duties at home bec. of internet browsing. (I am the one who is working and earning to feed my family)
However, I need the internet services too so I can stay connected with my friends and family in the Philippines.

I need a sound advice. For the past week that we lost internet services my life has been really quiet and the house is more manageable and peaceful.

2007-05-21 08:00:36 · 4 answers · asked by LIA 2

For the last 6 years shes been on and off with other men. lying and dening through marriage counseling and me with no proof. when just recently she has admitted to one affair 6 yrs ago. she refuses to leave and uses our children and religeous belief as a tool of manipulation, down playing the destruction of our relationship, never willing to admit full responsibily for her actions. My fear is that the courts will see things in their libral turnstyle heartless way leaving my children without the only house theyve ever known and in dire financial straits. but I shouldnt have to be forced to live with a cheating lying self righteous manipulating coward. Financially I'm unable to move out nor do I believe I should. However she has a place to go thats close by yet refuses. I've even conceeded to allowing her the option of seeing the children anytime. How can I fight against a system that rewards a woman like this? How do I protect my childrens' emotional and finacial well being?

2007-05-21 07:42:15 · 33 answers · asked by toutsjoursfidele 1

I have only joined today and in only one section of this forum (Marriage and Divorce) I have come upon 16 totally incorrect postings of legal and medical fact.

First, you cannot diagonsis a medical condition from words on a forum. it is a disservice to the poster and to the community at large.

Second, unless you are an attorney, you cannot and should not be giving out legal advice.

For example, one repsponse told the poster that Yes, an IRA is split 50/50 during divorce and another said positively NO. The correct answer is, there is no way of knowning until we know the state in which the divorce decree was issued (whether it is Equitable Distribution or Community Property state.)

Another respondent claimed the poster's husband was bi-polar from smoking weed. That post needs to be deleted for obvious reasons.

So, back to my question. How many people on here who give advice are actually qualified to do so in the subject areas where they post?

2007-05-21 07:38:42 · 22 answers · asked by hexeliebe 6

2007-05-21 07:33:36 · 7 answers · asked by robinetta 1