then a few months later she doesn't want to be with you and says she hasn't loved you for 3 years!
2007-05-21 08:49:04 · 60 answers · asked by blownover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she had done it before but didn't like it
it's good to know that there are a lot of depraved sad b@stards on here that don't know what good advice is all about.
i'm well out of that relationship but some things stick on your mind on a monday night after a bottle of wine.
cheers all
2007-05-21 09:04:44 · update #1
could it be that she wanted me to know she was a real party girl and what i was going to miss before she left me just to really mess my head up?
2007-05-21 09:08:34 · update #2
Sounds like she experimented without you, which is sad. People rarely take vows seriously anymore.
2007-05-21 08:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by Michael L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this Babe, but your wife has been having an affair......she's been experimenting with this new lover & one of the things he's introduced her to is anal sex........the fact that she's asked you to perform this act on her is neither here nor there.....there is a chance she was trying one last ditch attempt of spicing up your love life in the hope that things could maybe be resolved rather than running off with her new b/f, but then realised that she could no longer ignore her feelings.......or the lack of them.....either way, we're all second guessing really....
The fact is, she's come clean about her feelings.
I know it seems a hard thing to accept, but I don't think she was out to deliberately try & scramble your head. If it's any conselation, her head has been messed up for quite some time now, being confused & wondering how the hell to sort this out...........
This may seem a strange thing to say to you, but it's best she told you now, because you can both at least try to pick up your lives & go forward with this.
There was a guy on here the other month who's wife had told him after 30 yrs of married life that she hadn't loved him for 28 years......he was in a terrible state at the thought of "starting" his life all over again. In my mind she was a coward & did a really spiteful thing by not having the courage years earlier to tell him.......because it does take courage.
I wouldn't be too concerned about why your wife did this or that.........what you need to concern yourself with is getting your life back on track & making sure you don't allow this to totally muck up your chances of future happiness.
You can't change the past, but you can dictate your future.
Good luck......
2007-05-21 10:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, i'm wondering if there is anything worse than an unhappy pooper trooper who can't get some pucker fun from his lovey dovey. Who knows the mysteries of a stretched back door but the weary soul who carries it with them. Maybe you would be better off accepting the fact she is still with you .Perhaps she wants more intimate expression from you so it doesn't seem that having sex is like cutting the grass; something that has become tedious and , for the most part, unimaginative and boring.i hope you find a solution to your dilemna. As a widower for the last 5 yrs i would be thrilled to just have someone that i know will be coming home tonight or that will be waiting for me to come home.i have discoverd that sex is so much better when it is shared and explored rather than demanded or expected, but what do i know.
2016-05-19 00:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eeeeck... I really didn't want to touch this one, but figured I'd give you my opinion, which might not be true... Um... sounds to me that she has had it and liked it...
You need to have a serious talk with your wife and ask her what is going on... If she told you that she hasn't loved you in the past 3 years and now asking for anal sex, then something is not right...
Good Luck to you
2007-05-21 08:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Oula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sorry but i think she was just board. I mean 10 years is a long time to keep the sex life alive. She probably just wanted to try something new. As for leaving you strait after it... well maybe they have nothing to do with each other. Remember just because your unhappy doesn't make you less... human. She needed sex just like anyone else
2007-05-21 09:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The media and her female friends may have influenced her change of mind.
The other strong possibility is she has indulged in this practice with someone else, which seems to support your statement "then a few months later she doesn't want to be with you and says she hasn't loved you for 3 years!"
It sounds like you need to consider contacting a lawyer or prepare for the possibility you will need one soon.
2007-05-21 09:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is not sure what she wants right now. Maybe you should ask her if she wants to go to counseling. The anal sex thing could just be she is wanting to try something different? Good luck.
2007-05-21 08:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by HelloPeeps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude..........someone else gave it to her and she loved it soo much, before giving you up for sure decided to try it with you but maybe you didn't do a good job so now you are out of the door and watch a new guy in her life in no time.......(the one who gave it to her)!!!!
Move on and find another girl.............get divorced, it is a pain but better than be cheat at and to make it worse he did it better than you did, and will continue while the divorce is in progress.........remember you have been married for 10 years so she will get alimoney.....(all the money) until she re-marries hope she is dumb and remarries as soon as the papers are final for your own sake!!!!!
good luck!!
2007-05-21 08:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could have been a "last-ditch" effort by the wife when she started to feel like there might not be any love left in the marriage. It sounds like she was trying to "spice things up" to hopefully freshen up the relationship in some way and avoid what seemed like it was inevitable in her mind (her feeling of not loving you/the husband).
2007-05-21 08:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has been experimenting while playing with her favorite toy, and realized that it was all in her head, like it usually is with most women when it comes to anal sex. I'd say be happy, and enjoy the forbidden fruit!
2007-05-21 10:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 10 years the same old sex acts begin to lose their excitement. The same goes for the person that you have been engaging in all of those sex acts with.
2007-05-21 08:52:23 · answer #11 · answered by wite_box 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋