He and i used to do drugs Recreationally. Him more than me. Way more. Well, we started going to church, and he told me he was done, and a changed man. I think by the way he was talking to me on the phone he has done some today. It's been probably 3 months for him. how can i get him to tell me the truth, and what do i do to tell if he's done any? cocaine???
2007-05-21 09:21:42 · 17 answers · asked by Big B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TRUST ME MY SISTER WAS ON CRACK AND YOU CAN TELL THEIR ACTION TELL ON THEM THEY HAVE A SHOT FUSE ABOUT EVERTING BUT IF I WERE U I WOULD JUST TELL HIM BABY I LOVE U BUT WE CAN'T GROW IF ONE OF US ARE DOING DRUG SO IF U NEED HELP TO STOP LET ME GET YOU WHAT U NEED AND GET HIM BACK INTO CHURCH I HAVE SEEN ALL KINDS OF RECOVERY CENTER BUT THE ONLY WAY TO STAY OFF IS WITH GOD IN YOUR LIFE MY SIS HAS BEEN SOBER FOR OVER 2YRS BUT SHE WILL TELL U THAT CRACK CALLS HER NAME AT NIGHT AND SHE HAS TO ASK GOD EVERY DAY TO HELP PUT THE PAST IN THE PAST AND UNDER GOD BLOOD DONT LET THE DEVIL WIN HELP YOUR HUSBAND GOET HELP! GOD BLESS
2007-05-21 09:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your between a rock and a hard place.. you could always ask him to take a drug test, but if he passes then he will question your trust and it may push him to do drugs for sure... but then if you really love him and he loves you then he should be able to tell you the truth and you help him thru what ever he might need to get off drugs if thats the case. What makes you think he has done drugs today?
2007-05-21 09:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by HelloPeeps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do about it ,only he is in control of himself.He will never tell you the full truth or just how bad his drug use is.Drug users can't be honest with their own self let alone with someone else.The more you get on him about it the more he will hide it from you and the more he will use.If you used drugs yourself then you no all this.
2007-05-21 09:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can try talking to him calmly about it. But, be prepared because he may not tell you the truth due to many reasons. If you honestly feel that he is using again, you have some desicions to make. You can encourage him to get treatment, rehab, etc. Or, if you don't want to go down that path again yourself, distance yourself until you know he is clean and will remain clean.
2007-05-21 10:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by blondie7795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard for him to tell you the truth because he probaly feel if he tell you the truth about using again you might flip out on him.
Its very hard to love someone that has these issues, the best you can do is stay by his side and help him... by getting him alot of help.
UNLESS he is stealing from you and bringing you to much stress!!
2007-05-21 09:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by mztymetris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still hanging around this guy? He is not being honest with you about his drugs. I wonder if that is all he is not being honest about. You don't need this kind of pressure in your life. Give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't stop within this week, tell him he will be out of your life for good.
2007-05-21 09:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by maestra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's an active addict, your marriage takes a back-seat and don't expect him to be honest about it. If he's still active, sooner or later you'll learn the truth. Church alone probably isn't enough, what he needs is a recovery program.
2007-05-21 09:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ian S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't be honest and tell you if he is using. Buy a home drug test from the drug store (about $20) and ask him to take it. If he takes it you know he's clean. If he refuses you know it's time to get him some help.
2007-05-21 09:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and done that. You wont know until catch him you can see it by the look in their eyes but they will still deny it. If he is it wont be long til things come up missing. Tough love its the best when it comes to a situation like this
2007-05-21 09:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had him in church, he must have heard a little about the Lord, and His Works and wonders. So If you suspicion Him On Drugs , Give it to God. He Can RATTLE HIS CAGE GOOD. He won't stay on them long, if you are sincere with your relationship with God.
2007-05-21 09:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by minnetta c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋