I have been married for about a year. My husband and I had dated for 3 years prior getting married. Just the other day, I found out how many sex partners he had perviously before me. At first he gave me a number when we were dating, and now that we are married, that number has doubled from what he told me. Should I be a ticked off at this lie?
2007-05-21 08:54:24 · 27 answers · asked by 0000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure you have a reason to be pissed off at him cause he lied to you. But ask yourself this question, if he had told you the exact number before you got married, would that have stopped you from marrying him? If no then let it go if he has been faithful to you from the time you have been to gether. If your answer is yes, then you have a very rocky marriage ahead of you. If you forgive him then don't ever bring this conversation up in an argument....
If he has been faithfull with you and not cheated around, then there is no point in holding a grudge. Good luck
2007-05-21 09:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends...where you a virgin on your wedding night? To initially lie about the number of past partners in order to gain the females favor is a common male trait, but in the end, whether he's been with 5, 10 or 20 other women, does it really change anything? I don't think so. Plus, we probably will never know the real number anyway...lol. The number that really matters is how many partners he has since the wedding night, right? As long as that number remains 1, then you're good. Don't live in the past. Relax and enjoy the moment and build a future based on wanting to share your lives together now.
2007-05-21 09:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right to be upset about him lying- not the number. What happened in the past should remain in the past- unless he's had sex with other people since you've been married, which hopefully isn't the case. If he's had a lot of partners before, he probably was afraid he would have scared you with the number back then, but feels comfortable enough now to be honest. At this point in time, it really shouldn't matter how many people he's been with because after all, he chose you!
2007-05-21 09:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by StarSilent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if all the sex partners were before you got married. You either love hi for who he is or you don't. You didn't fall in love with him because of the amount of partners you thought he had.
And by the way, take it from a guy, as the years go buy the number of partners increases each time we tell a story.
2007-05-21 09:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by elb366 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not worry about it. Your husband is with you now and married you. So the past is in the past. Besides, it is just a number. Who cares if it was 10, 30 or 55. The fact is your his number 1 now.
2007-05-21 09:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by Va princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, what he did PRIOR to meeting you has NOTHING to do with your relationship. Unless he was doing gay or other dangerous stuff (sex with no rubbers, shotting up, etc...) then you need to keep the past in the past and live for today!
Just think, he had all that other a ss but choose you. That means you must have some skills between the sheets so you have nothing to worry about!
2007-05-21 08:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he was just ashamed at the number and now that you two are married he feels comfortable telling you the truth ... without judging him ... or making him feel any less of a person ... the past is the past now live for tomorrow ... !
2007-05-21 09:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real number is how many since he met you?
If it is just you, you are doing fine! Cut him some slack he probably was not proud and that is why he gave you a lower number. As long as it was more than one for you and more than one for him the number doesn't matter neither of you were virgins!
2007-05-21 09:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't be mad. It really doesn't change anything now.
I'm sure most people are embarrassed at the number of people they've slept with. I'd consider this a small lie....kind of like if you ask if you look fat in a dress and he says no. LOL, not that you're fat, that isn't what I'm implying!
2007-05-21 09:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 00:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by hocking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋