i cheated on my husband...?

Question

i cheated on my husband...i know if i tell him he would kill me or himself,i want to confess but i cant...wot should i do??

Answer 1

You have to tell him. If you think he might become violent or loud, then tell him in a semi-public place with just enough people around to keep from going off.

Answer 2

What kind of cheating have you done?

It assumed you found another guy...well that's the terrible thing to do. I would not blame your husband if he thinking of killing you or himself because he may felt being a looser and a failure, maybe the things that he will kept thinking is "am I being a bad husband", "am I not good in bed?". But the I think you should not tell him, if you truly regret what you've done then try to continue your relationship with your husband and try to be a good wife to him from now on, it takes time to forget the thing you've than, but what you've done is already there you cannot erase it so, just live with it as it is a lesson to your life.

Answer 3

Having been on the opposite end of this predicament, my suggestion would be to keep this information to yourself. The only thing confessing to your affair will do is cause heartache and pain for your husband. I wish I had never known what my husband had done. In fact, I know way too many details about his affair. It just eats at me, things remind me of it all the time and it makes me sick. He didn't do anything wrong so why should he have to suffer any more than the effects of your infidelity already have. My suggestion is to deal with your own guilt and leave him out of it.

Of course, if he asks you straight up. He deserves an honest answer. Don't lie to him any more than you already have.

Good luck to you and I hope you have learned from your mistakes and are willing to do what it takes to make your marriage work.

Answer 4

Before taking a resolved decision you shall born following things in mind.
1) A cheat once is cheat for ever If not repented or pardoned.
2) One is sure to beget fruits of one's doing. If you do not disclose on your husband, you would live with guilt, and if you disclose, you will face the ire of your husband. Second option has unpredictable consequences but leave you with free conscience, which would manifest inyour outwad disposition in long run.
3) This is for your husband. If some thing wrong has been committed by your spouse, and disclosed on him, it surely would creat tension for him. He has two options. He may forgive or lower you in his esteem.
You know your husband well, I do'nt. Make your educated decision. Best luck.

Answer 5

you so screwed up!!!!!!!!!!
anyway, 1st of all are you still seeing this other guy?? if not,
do you really need to break a heart?? 2ndly, why would you want to confess. I went threw the same thing the reason i say you screwed up is because when you are intimate with your hubby you will remember this will hunt you for at least a year but that's okay it goes away with time. why????because it did NOT mean anything so why put him threw all this crap let it go. unless it was a friend of his or someone close to both of you than your on your own. Do what your heart tells you..I know it doesn't tell you to hurt another heart. honey forget it just put it behind you!!!!!!! good luck sweety!!!!

Answer 6

The only thing that would come out of telling him is you hurting him. You must make an honest effort not to continue to cheat as you risk irreversible damage to your marriage that you might regret later. Love your husband and value your marriage. If problems in the marriage caused you to cheat, you must try and resolve these issues so that you will not cheat again. I do wish you the best of luck.

Answer 7

Why did you cheat?

Did you cheat because you no longer feel love in your marriage or did you just get drunk and felt it was okay to jump someone Else bones?

What you doing now is worst be, because your both living your lie!
You for not telling him in fear of consequences, and fir him because your taking his right to know and make his own choice weather to stay or go!

I'm current living something like this and found out on my own.
It would have better if she just came up front and CONFESSED, the pain would have hurt but it would be over by now!
It just keeps coming, and coming and I don't know what to do about it!

TELL HIM HONESTY WHAT YOU DID,BECAUSE IF HE FINDS OUT ON HIS OWN IT WILL BE EVEN WORST FOR EVERYONE!

Answer 8

What kind of marriage can you have with this looming over you. You cant avoid hurting him. The damage is already done. People who cheat arent in the right relationship. I hate to say that, but I think its true. I used to be a cheater... then I found "the one" and the thought of hurting him like that would kill ME. Plus, I enjoy that bond of trust we have formed and would never do anything to break that. Think about that and decide what you really want to do.

Answer 9

If it was a one time deal keep your mouth shut and never do it again because of the guilt you feel. Don't satisfy you need to relieve the guilt by putting him and your marriage in a bad place. You were the cause of the pain keep it.

Now, if this is an affair and you cheat quite regularly. Tell him. Go to counseling if you wan to stay together or leave him if you don't.

Answer 10

U disclosed this to us like a great fool but for the sake of your future policy says keep your mouth shut on this forever. Past is as dead as history. That is the best solution for your problem as u have no better option. I can understand your interconflict between principle & future. But never repeat the same mistake.

Answer 11

How many times have you cheated on him? If it is more than once you are a ****. But if it just happened once and you regret it it's best that you keep it to your self and make sure you will not do it again.If you hubby gets to know about it, then tell him how it happened and you wanted to tell him,but was scared what his reaction would be. Also tell him you regret what happened and it will never happen again.After a little tug he will forgive you.