why do people watch porn?

Question

i dnt understand the point in watching porn, wether online, video, magazines, w/e it may be. however alot of people for some reason enjoy it. more then anything, i dnt understand why married men or womam watch porn or have any intrest insomething like that when they should be happily married and satisfied with their spouse. maybe im wierd, but i find it offensive.i have caught my husband a couple times downloding some sort of retarded porn.and more then anything it hurt my feelings. most woman i know are not satisfied with their bodies, and dnt have the best self estem, me being one of them. i also recently had a baby, 3 weeks ago and really dnt feel that great about myself then i find him doing something like that. is it cause hes not happy with me sexualy so he looks fo it else were? i know there is better looking out there but it makes me feel like he is not satisfied with me. idk. im sry it sounds like im probably juz complaining. really i am. but has anyone ever gone through this

Answer 1

I watch porn with my husband. Its a way to get new ideas and gets us both worked up, then we go to bed and have fun with eachother. I'm not as pretty or thin (after having 2 kids) as I used to be and I know there are much prettier girls out there. I would rather have him sitting at home on the couch next to me watching it than going out and finding it on his own or finding someone else.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I know exactly where your coming from! The truth is I don't think it's acceptable at all. However, in my past, about 8 yrs ago, my husband and I dabbled in the soft side of it for about a yr off and on. It has it's "turn ons" in some situations. But most of the time it took away any closeness we normally shared and replaced it with meaningless sex. We decided not to do it anymore because we believe it's morally wrong, not to mention very degrading to women AND men. Your husband sounds like many other men out there. You may not like what I'm going to say but here goes...just be sure that your taking care of him in the bedroom. That way you have every right to be upset.(to say the least) He should be extra sensitive that you just had a baby but that doesn't mean he's going to. Be honest with him about how you feel and stand behind your convictions and threats if you make any. I really hope you can work it out soon and wish I had more advise but that's all I've got. Congrats on your new baby and again I really hope y'all can get the bottom of all this without any type of serious fall out. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 4

Hey, don't feel bad, I used to feel the same way as you do. But I learned another way. Here is the thing. It might not be that your hubby doesn't find you attractive, it is just a fantasy and it probably doesn't mean much to him. This might be an unpopular view, but Porn can be good for a relationship sometimes. I mean, like I said I used to share the same insecurities as you do, but then I realized that my husband loves ME and doesn't care a thing about those other girls and now we even watch it together sometimes. There is also porn made that is specifically tailored to a woman's point of view too, maybe you should check some of it out together.
One good use for it is maybe getting some good ideas of new things to try that will probably drive your man crazy to be able to reenact something that he saw with someone who he loves so much. I wouldn't be too worried about it unless he is spending an excessive amount of time doing it or if your belief system (religion etc) prohibits such things. I hope that this helped and that I didn't offend you. Have a good day!

Answer 5

Have you seen a lot of recent Hollywood movies? They're all a form of sublimated porn. If you mean do I watch porn produced by the so-called porn industry, no. But not out of morality or virtue-just because the production values aren't any good.

Answer 6

You just had a baby 3 weeks ago. Of coarse your self esteem is going to be low right now. With a new born baby in the house and your hormones going crazy, I bet you and hubby's sex life has been placed on the back burner. I wouldn't worry about him downloading porn. It doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive or anything he is just a man that is looking for an outlet. A relief of stress. Have you ever watched a porn?? Many women take it is being offensive and discusting but have never watched one. It is kinda of a "male thing to do" as far as society goes. But you may enjoy it. Maybe your hubby and you could even enjoy it together. Wait for about another month b/c of just going through child birth, then watch one by yourself, just staying open minded. If you don't watch one by yourself a time or two you may get too embarrassed to watch one with hubby. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with them and I am another female. They are just fun harmless turn ons, unless one of the partners is watching them too often and pull away from real actual sex with their partner.

Answer 7

Sexual intrest! They like getting turned on by it...
Don't worry ... I dont have the best self esteem either and the guys i like always pick my best friends instead of me ... I know this is somthing stupid but ur husband picked u ... he loves u and he married u .... he might look at porn for a few days... but u should allow him cuz then he will get bored from it and want the real thing ... he'll come to u and ask u for sex :) here's when ur part starts... u should give him the best ever so that he wouldnt even think of goin back to porn... be kinky, be nice.... be everything ... ;) u can do it! and i am sure u r a beautiful young woman :)

Answer 8

Two questions here
1. Is it cause hes not happy with me sexually so he looks to it else were?
2. Why do people watch porn?
Have you considered:
1. Trying to determine what he desires in the porn that is not your life. (could be hose, garter belts, shaved......, the heavy moaning, the dirty talk, oral, and etc.)
2. Telling him you are really interested in what turns him on in the porn scenes. Assure him you love him and will not tell anyone even if you he tells you something that is repulsive to you. A word of warning, you can really shut down any open communications, if you respond negatively to his trust. Don't call him names.
3. Some people really are turned on by porn--women included.
4. Some people want to see how other people perform--Hey, where else can you see sex in private.

A psychologist professor told me and rest of the class once, most men are turned on by "trashy dressed women, it does not matter if they are to overweight, have small breast, skinny or fat legs, and etc" So do not feel that the changes in your physical appears is what drives him to porn or he is unhappy with you sexually.

Answer 9

Porn sometimes spices things up and gives you different ideas. You shouldn't be threatened by the people on the videos at all. But honestly if you are not comfortable with watching porn your husband should respect your thoughts and concerns however maybe your husband needs a little excitement? Try something new with him for a change...

Answer 10

You should be asking your husband this question and having a heart to heart talk with him. My guess is you both need some time together, unfortunately with a three week old it can be difficult.

When the baby gets a little older get a relative or friend to babysit and go on a date night. Make it once a week if you can and it doesn't mean you need to spend money (go to the park, mall, beach, etc.). You both need time together.

Good luck.