2007-05-18 04:33:48 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People, I did not say that I became jealous over a dream my partner had. In fact, I know I wouldn't. But I am considering the possibility that she might be jealous if I mentioned having a sexual dream about someone else. If it's reasonable for her to be jealous, I'd rather not say anything, so she will remain happy.
2007-05-18 04:51:32 · update #1
It is not reasonable. I have had sexual dreams about people that I have zero interest in sleeping with. Bad enough you are responsible for your actions when you are awake.
2007-05-18 04:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by lilygateau 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly natural to have feelings of jealousy if your partner is dreaming about someone else. Don't let 'what you are supposed to feel' determine how you feel. After all, dreams are usually thoughts from the day or days before, or subconscious things. It could be something as simple as they saw that person that day, and then they were horny or had thought about sex in the same day. The mind sometimes brings two things together to cause weird mental images and thoughts during sleep. If you're really concerned, ask your partner if the dream had any significance to them. Chances are, if it did, they wouldn't be telling you. Trust your partner and be thankful they are being honest and up front with you. I'm sure you'd be angry or hurt if they had the dream and didn't share it with you. Talk it out and let them know how you are feeling and have them share how they are feeling about the dream. Communication is essential to any relationship.
It's human nature to be upset when someone you love is having thoughts and/or dreams about someone else in a sexual way. I hope you two have trust and understanding in your relationship so you can get through this together.
2007-05-18 04:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by turtle_express16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with one of the answers I've read, why would they even tell you that. And yes you have reason to be jealous. I wouldn't keep on about it or anything, but you have every right to be jealous. The thing that a lot of people don't understand about jealousy is that it doesn't have to be a bad thing if you control it properly. Everyone is jealous of someone or something at some time in their life. Just don't let jealousy rule you or your life.
2007-05-18 04:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by koozie65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A smart person would not tell you they had those types of dreams. But, to answer your question, it would be unreasonable to be jealous or upset as we don't really have control over our dreams and even I can say I have dreamed about having sex with other men (not by willing it) and I certainly don't share that with my husband but I don't feel bad about it either. I believe since I occasionally have dreams like that my husband must, too. Oh, well, you know?
2007-05-18 04:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need to provide you some information first so you will understand my answer. Numerous highly educated individuals have studied dreams for years, and one of the things they point out is the people in your dreams often represent someone else, and sometimes it even is yourself.
That said, no it is no reasonable, the person in the dream could represent your partner(even if it is someone else that you know).
2007-05-18 04:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is reasonable but the part that I dont understand is why would they tell you about the dream with the other person. If I had a dream like that and it wasnt with my hubby I wouldnt tell him because more then likely the dream didnt mean anything and why upset your spouse/significant other with needless info.
2007-05-18 04:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has sexual dreams about other people. That doesn't mean that you won't be jealous, but it means nothing. If you had a sex dream or a daydream, should your partner worry? : )
Sweet Dreams!!!!
2007-05-18 04:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by memahizer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. It's very normal and common for people in relationships to dream or fantasize about sex with others (either people they know or people they don't know). To assume that you (their partner) is the only person they'll ever desire the rest of their lives, is unrealistic.
As long as their behavior lives in the dream world only...don't worry about it.
2007-05-18 04:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. While you might feel kind of upset, it's important to know that the feeling is instinctual but unreasonable. We can't control our subconscious! Dreams don't really mean much most of the time.
2007-05-18 04:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are just dreams, they don't necessarily mean anything. Not sure why someone would share that, it only makes for hurt feelings. Some things are better left unsaid.
2007-05-18 04:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by linda h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋