Marriage & Divorce - 18 May 2007

we were friends for years and then we dated. he told me he loved me and i believed it... but then we had sex and he broke up with me. he devestated me! and now he wants forgivness and for us to be together again...what should i do? i'm so lost and depressed... help me please!

2007-05-18 11:32:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I both have good jobs, we do not own a home , our rent is not too bad and we have a car pyment and then the regular household bills, But every payday it is an arguement and I cannot take the stress of handeling the money anymore because no matter what I do not do it right. My husband does not want to take over the responsibility of handeling the bills so what should I do? I'm trying as hard as I can to pay everyting on time and I get nothing but complaints from him. every payday i have panic attakcs because i do not want to do it anymore. help!

2007-05-18 11:32:21 · 18 answers · asked by AJSMOM 3

2007-05-18 11:23:42 · 54 answers · asked by frisbee45uk 3

i told my hubby i hate a man that travel but his new job want them to travel and at last min, some times he could be gone for two to 3 weeks. i complain everytime he has to travel,He said he hates when i complain to him about the job so he want to quit. my question is if he does quit will he hate me for it later.

P.S. everything about this job is good but i hate it when he has to travel. Oh and im pregnant 27 weeks.... What would u do if u were my husband.

2007-05-18 11:21:28 · 39 answers · asked by One Love 4

If you would find out that your husband or boyfriend was seeing another woman, would you want to meet her? If yes what would you do? What would you do to your man?

2007-05-18 11:14:13 · 29 answers · asked by ALEXA 1

I am married with 3 beautiful kids. My husband is a great dad and husband, but we got pregnant my senior year in college unexpectedly. I'm now 31, and we have 3 kids. I gave up medical school and all my close friends (jobs moved us) because we wanted to do the "right:" thing. The problem is I love my husband, but my heart still belongs to my high school sweetheart. I dated a lot of people before my now husband, so I've seen the good, the bad, and the ugly. I've totally changed and am young compared to the suburbanites that got married and had kids the traditional responsible way. I miss my old friends, my old boyfriend, and I wish I had my old life back. I know a lot of people wish they could go back sometimes when there were no responsibilities, but I truly love another man. After high school, my boyfriend became a professional skater and snowboarder, and he said he would hold me back from greater things. I am getting professional help but would appreciate any advice.

2007-05-18 10:44:02 · 12 answers · asked by just wondering 2

My wife waits until i fall asleep and then she checks my cell phone and calls the numbers back to see if it is a girl. And when its not she feels like nothing. When we were dating i cheated on her with my bestfriend at the time and it was a mistake. I love my wife and would never do that again. I respect us being married and i was young at the time now i am a man and we have kids together, so why cant she gest trust me and give me my privicy.

2007-05-18 10:40:43 · 20 answers · asked by supermariobro05 1

I need help on how to find out ways to prove in court that your husband was cheating.

also, i need help trying to decide whether i should move out and just drop out of shcool because my husband just came back from LA (with military) and says that he is unhappy and wants a divorce before he leaves for Afghanistan in about a month./

Here's the story; he didnt tell me why he just wants a divorce.
We just moved here PCS in December, and we just bought a house at the end of February. i have always helped support out family for the yr that we were married and now that we have a houes he wants to keep the house and divorce me. with no grounds im not cheating and he says that hes not but i dont believe him one bit. no one just ups and wants a divorce and abandons their new wife in a strange city.

2007-05-18 10:33:27 · 5 answers · asked by ya girl 4

I think my husband is unfaithful. We have been married for 16+ years. He has cheated before when we were younger, and didnt admit it til just 3 years ago. He claims that he has never done it since. About 6 yrs ago I suspect he had cheated before and even suspected he was cheating then with (lets call her) V. But he denied it, foolishly, I cheated on him to get him back. We separated. I So learned from that mistake. He forgave me. I would never think to do that again. We got back together, then a few weeks after mending he cheated with the girl he was seeing while we were separated. I put his bags by the front door. My father talked me out of it. All this happened 6 yrs. ago, I thought this was behind us. Til I found several emails 2 weeks ago, were he sent naked pics of him and recvd others back, even asked to meet some of them at a hotel. He claims he never did meet any of them. But this hurts deeply. Including an email from V on valentine's day saying she loves him? He denies cheat

2007-05-18 10:28:04 · 34 answers · asked by d8em 2

im 18...

2007-05-18 10:21:49 · 15 answers · asked by ssr 1

I get in really bad moods sometime, and I try to find every flaw about him that ticks me off in the slightist little bit, and I pick him right apart. I end up getting really emotional, and of course I feel bad for doing this after wards. Everyt time I get this way, he feels it is his fault, and that somewhere deep inside I don't want to be with him. But really.....I can't imagine my life without him. Other than these littel out burts, we do really well together. We have a great relationship aside from this...and I don't know how to fix this part. I sometimes think that it could be stressed caused from other aspects in my life.....like going to school, working, trying to plan a wedding and not knowing where I want to decide to live in the next 4 months. I hate blowing up at him, but at the time, it feels like I am in the right, and that he deserves to know everything little thing that ticks me off.
I love him so much, and I hate making him feel like I don't love him.

2007-05-18 10:17:10 · 10 answers · asked by Jamie Lynn 3

I have been married for 2 years and have 10 month old twin boys. They take up alot of my time, but I still find time to be lonely. I recently asked my husband if we could move back to Ms, and he made up every excuse in the book. I tried to explain that I had no friends, no family, nothing to do here, I'm in this house 24/7 with our kids and I need friends, outlets. He told me to get a hobby, then when i got one he bitched about it. He gets home from work at 4:30 and goes outside to fix on his mud bogin truck. Out of a week he may change 1 diaper and fix 2 bottles the rest of the time I am doing it. I have become depressed lately, and I really feel if I moved back home(Ms) I wouldn't be depressed anymore. All of my family and old friends live there. How do I get him to understand, how I feel. We both don't have friends or family here and his job ain't that great. What do I do, stay quite and hide my feelings about moving or voice them?

2007-05-18 10:14:32 · 12 answers · asked by twistedone691821 2

2007-05-18 09:53:31 · 12 answers · asked by Nimbot 2

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after 3 years of our relationship, now , my financy is not happy with me, what should i do? stay and fight or leave for peace?

2007-05-18 09:50:42 · 24 answers · asked by kamyar 1

She is a lovely person so any male interested please post your profile

2007-05-18 09:50:10 · 21 answers · asked by Jean D 3

We have been together three years . I have three children from a previous marriage. We have a new baby also. We fight alot. He makes the same mistakes over and over. He is verbally abusive and controlling. He ignores me mostly except for when he wants something. He is disrespectful. It is either hot or cold with us. There isn't a warm area. I do love him and I know he loves me. He just doesn't show it well with me. He is great with his son and good with my other three children. I have long since given up and my emotions are just crazy. I don't feel the great love I had for him in the beginning anymore. I feel almost completely numb. I have had resentment and anger towards him and I even think that I was happier alone. He has changed a good bit since we first were together but he slips into destructive behavior and he doesn't care. He talks to his lady friend up north for his pick me ups, not me. He claims they are only friends. Thats a sticky situation. How do I make this work ?

2007-05-18 09:41:45 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

well ours was a love *** arranged marriage and we both hail from North India

2007-05-18 08:59:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know he would not do his first love, Vanya, this way, but I need him soo much, and I do love him, what do I do ? What is going thru his mind ? He has already dumped me but has asked me back........how do I leave him when I need him soo much ? I feel trapped. Is he a controller or what ? Will he dump me before I dump him ? You can read my other questions if you like ? We are nice to each other but deep down I wonder, does he truly love me if he disrespects me sexually ? Plus he knows I don't want to have sex but he is a master seducer and I don't have anywhere else to live.

2007-05-18 08:56:16 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Like I said before, he wrote her that email that was detailed. They have two children together and they have to talk at least a little bit. He was open about his past and cries when he tells me that I am the only one he wants and loves me more than anything. He said that she bugged him about that email to get the details, but he says that he didn't write what the whole email said. She doesn't like me very much because I am nice to their children and they like me. He has microsoft outlook for his email and he can't check his mail because someone hacked into his account. I want to trust him so bad, but I know how it has always been for me, getting hurt. I don't want to look like a fool. He hasn't changed his story one bit, and keeps on saying that he is not lying and that he only wants me and doesn't have any feelings for her anymore. We have only been married for two weeks, but have been together for over a year. I am so upset! What do I do?

2007-05-18 08:53:23 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi
iam in the first stages of divorce, as i filed not because i really wanted a divorce from my wife but after a severe fight with my wife , i think out of spite my wife took of with our child the next day, and then for 3 weeks i tried to talk to her but she would just hang up and blame me for eveything, even my inlaws told me not to call there as she went to live with them, so then after getting no part from my wife as to making it better, i went and filed for divorce and custody. so now i still want to reconcile and try to fix things before the court hearing but now my wife wants no part of making it work, as i have called her and ask her to recocncile and she said NO, now she wants a divorce.
what can i do?? i really do not want a divorce and if she love me and want our marriage then why is she just using the blame game and telling me that since i filed now i have to live with it, as she does not want any reconcilattion. is there anything i can do or say to her to get her to try

2007-05-18 08:44:02 · 12 answers · asked by phillyanyone 1

After 15 years, two teenage daughters and living with his family for 10+ years, my husband has decided that he no longer likes who I have become. He says I lack excersice and need to stop watching TV. He says I pay no attention to myself or him. He has a short temper and wants me to be perfect house wife. Make dinner everyday and have the house spotless after a regular 40 hour work week. Don't want to toss it all away but he is pushing me to just drop everything and start fresh and alone.

2007-05-18 08:43:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Almost one year ago my exhusband and I went through mediation. He offered that i could see my son (2yrs) every day from 9am - 5pm and every other weekend from friday 9am until sunday 5pm if he can have full custody and I won't claim the money he would have to pay by law (ca:$370,000.00 and alimony....) After asking my attorney for advise and his answer ( well.... you never wanted the money.....you just wanted to be with your son), I agreed.... on the terms that after one year we will renegotiate the visitation to adjust them to new circumstances. Within this year my exhusband shortened the time step by step until he eliminated it completely. I am desperate. I miss my son so much. every single minute of each day. I can't talk about it, I can't think about it, because it hurts so bad. I haven't talked to my own parents for months because it would break their heart to know. I lost all confidence in the law, I def. lost confidence in my attorney.... where or to whom can I turn to?

2007-05-18 08:20:00 · 10 answers · asked by fun_fatale82 1

I am very willing any time he wants it! And yes, when we do he waits for me to orgasm before he finishes. But I'm confused, the other two guys I was with several years back would beg for sex ALWAYS! And my husband is the one who wanted to wait till marriage, not me. So far, in the 3 wks we've been married we've had sex 3xs and I started it. When we 1st started dating we had sex about 5xs and he was the one to start every time, then he said he thought it would be better if we waited till marriage. Sometimes I wonder if he's even attracted to me but once I start things he's really into it. ???

2007-05-18 08:11:11 · 9 answers · asked by 7766jenny 1

My spouse and I are more like friends with benefits. We have kids and they are our first priority. But aside from that...he's okay with me dating and I'm okay with him dating. We care about eachother. Anyone else have that kind of marriage?

2007-05-18 08:10:43 · 15 answers · asked by anonymous 2

I posted a question earlier about someone I'm dating for 5 months and how we were discussing our desire for marriage and people wrote all kinds of statments implying I'm psycho to even discuss marriage at 5 months of dating and got a whole bunch of thumbs up for it too. Now, call me old fashioned, but I never figured ANY topic of conversation is off limits if both parties want to discuss it. Second, since when has working towards a goal constitued actually DOING it. In my culture, the standard is you spend the first 6-months of dating getting to know each other (including talking about their attitudes/goals on marriage), another 6 seeing if there is long-term compatibility. One gets engaged at around the 1-year mark and married from 4-12 months after engagement. Thats a minimum of 14 months and a max of 24. My GOD, since when did this become psycho? So, is the norm that marriage is not even discussed until ___ time? And when is that?

2007-05-18 08:09:08 · 23 answers · asked by Esmeralda 4

because they initiated??

2007-05-18 08:06:44 · 12 answers · asked by lauryola 2

I am in a divorce and have no major debts other than my student loan, acquired while we were still married. Is this debt split in case of divorce?

2007-05-18 08:04:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

and not just kissing out of obligation or pity?

2007-05-18 08:02:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

things are not working out she want to know if she leaves will she get 1/2 of the things they own that was bought after they was married and will the law make him help her to get by until she gets her money comming in from not being able to work anyone help her on this
and thanks ahead

2007-05-18 07:58:27 · 9 answers · asked by sunshine 2

My sister in law got a debit card and last month she was out of money to pay her bill and end up using the debit card from Child Support.. Child Support called her and did not give her the next check she was suppose to get cause they noticed she used it to pay a bill and not to take care the kids... I wanted to know if this is the reason why they are doing it....

2007-05-18 07:58:23 · 7 answers · asked by Delfinazul 2