My wife waits until i fall asleep and then she checks my cell phone and calls the numbers back to see if it is a girl. And when its not she feels like nothing. When we were dating i cheated on her with my bestfriend at the time and it was a mistake. I love my wife and would never do that again. I respect us being married and i was young at the time now i am a man and we have kids together, so why cant she gest trust me and give me my privicy.
2007-05-18 10:40:43 · 20 answers · asked by supermariobro05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have nothing to hide - let her check it. She will eventually realize that she can trust you again.
2007-05-18 10:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by DEBBIE G 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Everyone has a right to some privacy, even if it's just harmless stupid stuff. If you trust your partner, you don't need to be checking up on them. It's that simple. Insisting you should be able to look simply screams "I may say I trust you, but I really don't". In the 60s, you could not get the call records for your phone without an inquiry to the phone company, and there had to be a good reason. And it is against Federal law to open someone else's mail. And people were, in general, polite enough to abide by that. Except for suspicious paranoid assholes who viewed their wife as property and felt they had the right to control every aspect of their lives.
2016-05-17 04:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by gladys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were your wife and you cheated on me while we were dating, I would be paranoid and I know for a fact that I would be checking your cell phone and anything else that I could think of. Do I think it's right? Not necessarily. Why do people cheat and then expect to have the same trust level with their spouse? You violated her trust back when you cheated. She obviously doesn't trust you. Do you do other things that would make her feel like you are cheating on her again? People don't understand that when they cheat it opens up a whole nother can of worms. She is insecure. She obviously loves you because she wouldn't have went ahead and married you after finding out that you were unfaithful. I don't know how long ago the incident happened, but it takes time to heal. You have to do things to earn her trust back. If you are honestly still cheating then be honest and save her the heartache and stress.
2007-05-18 10:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She loves you...a lot.....she married you yes.....she forgave you but she will never forget....the phone thing is not a big deal you have nothing to hide why worry!!! privacy mmm well your married there is no privacy .....all i can say is get used to it ....its your wife now soon it will be your kids as i said there is no privacy....we dont allways like that idea but thats marriage unfortunately.....as far as the trust issue goes it will take time just keep loving eachother time will heal the heart....
2007-05-18 11:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by yvette w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not right and she wouldn't like it if you did it to her. Tell her to stop or you need to code lock your phone. Just because she is your wife doesn't mean she has the right to invade your privacy.
Truth is you are probably better off kicking her to the curb. She doesn't respect you and will not get better. You need a woman that will trust you. The fact that you cheated on her while dating doesn't matter anymore. Not only did that happen before you got married, but she gave you a pass on it when she said "I do". She can't go back and hold it against you now.
2007-05-18 10:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think she feels insecure. Why don't you talk to her and ask her to trust you. The same things you wrote in yr questions, tell them to her face to face, I bet she will be happy to hear them. Ask her to please show you she forgave and forgot about what happened in the past. Tell her you will give her some time to try to do it, but that you expect that to stop sometime soon, since you really have no intention to be unfaithful. Hopefully she will rethink that bad habit she has and stop for good. Just show her that you understand her and not criticize her, but would love to see her trusting you as well.
Wish you luck.
2007-05-18 10:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by gracegptx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow so easy for you to simple say it was a mistake... why did you marry her in the first??? I married my wife and I know she the one I wan tto spend my life with... knowing that I never cheat on her why??? because I so much in love with her and I rather share with my wife than cheating on my wife... If want to cheat I woul dfirst end it and then go see that woman.
It more harder for that woman to trust you dude. ohhh you want her also give you privicy.. not anymore. Can you see what you had done to her??? Harder for her to deal with this and easy for you to say i was a mistake and I was young at that time and now I am a man.. wow that lame excused you have there...
I share with my wife with everything I do on internet even give my wife my password even those she trust me.. alot.. and I trust her alot.. I say to my self If I cheat on her... how would she feel??? umm IF my wife cheated on me oh gosh that will be the hardest thing to deal with it because not easy to forgive and trust this person again.. that how i know ...
You really think that we have to feel sorry for you??? I felt really sorry for your wife for keeping you still... by the way, why don't you talk to your wife????????????? wow that easy to simple looking for question for your wife.. nice.
2007-05-18 10:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's ok, she clearly has trust issues. You need to be open and honest with her and have a discussion with her. Although it could go badly because she may think you're hiding something from her. The issue is if she forgave you for cheating on her, then she has to forget to have truly forgiven you. Good luck.
2007-05-18 10:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by HR Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you have cheated once and she needs to just check and make sure she will not get hurt again and if you have nothing to hide then why do you mind? If you have not noticed yet when you get married you really don't have no privacy you are supposed to share everything...
2007-05-18 10:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can't trust you because she chooses not to. It's her way of forever punishing you for your 1 mistake. You married her anyway, so get used to not enjoying any privacy.
2007-05-18 10:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋