i told my hubby i hate a man that travel but his new job want them to travel and at last min, some times he could be gone for two to 3 weeks. i complain everytime he has to travel,He said he hates when i complain to him about the job so he want to quit. my question is if he does quit will he hate me for it later.
P.S. everything about this job is good but i hate it when he has to travel. Oh and im pregnant 27 weeks.... What would u do if u were my husband.
2007-05-18 11:21:28 · 39 answers · asked by One Love 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He did not tell me the job wanted them to travel untill after he got the job at that time i was 12 weeks preggy and we were married for 7 months , he knew i dont want a man that travel.
2007-05-18 12:48:13 · update #1
I dont like traveling work either. I hope he quits his job and finds another one. I wouldnt accept a traveling job and neither would my husband. we have 2 kids & PG w/ the 3rd and he would miss them. Maybe after the baby is born he will miss the family and quit on his own!
2007-05-18 14:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What would you do if he told you that he hates how you act like a spoiled child when you're pregnant and doesn't want to become a dad, and wanted you to get an abortion or give up the child for adoption, even though he helped you get that way? It's sort of the same thing, isn't it? You're forcing him to make a decision that one of you is going to hate, and will be the source of resentment for a very long time. He will probably keep the job, and will undoubtedly look forward to getting on that plane and away from his whining harpy of a wife who doesn't appreciate what he does to provide for her.
Have you stopped to consider that he doesn't otherwise want to travel, but doesn't feel he has any other choice? Sorry sweetie, this isn't just about you. I hope it's the hormones talking.
You don't say how often he will have to travel. Think about all of the women who are married to pilots, firefighters, military personnel, rescue workers, etc. Their husbands travel or are away from home on a frequent and regular basis, and I don't hear any of them complaining.
Sorry honey, you need to grow up. Be glad you have a husband, and that he has a job. Stop hounding him because you don't want to adjust. You're the one who has a choice to make here. You can't make him decide to do or not do something, you can only decide how you're going to respond to it. Do the right thing, and good luck!
2007-05-18 11:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by Judgie C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off if he quits beause of your complaining then yes, he will blame you for the rest of his life how he had to give up this wonderful job. I am sure that if he found a job as good as the one he has now, but with no traveling he would take it. I understand about being pregnant and wanting you husband around. my best advice is see if he is willing to interview for a local job while he is home inbetween trips. that way he can find a good job near-by.
2007-05-18 11:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Craig 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never want my other half to ask me to quit my job. For better or for worse remember? I think it's being selfish. He's trying to provide for his family and youre giving him grief for it. I understand youre pregnant and that could be hard, but having him quit isn't going to make the situation better for you... especially if he likes his job, he may resent you then.
and all these girls making these comments, telling you to have your husband quit are all talking out of female emotion rather thinking with their mind. Just because your married doesn't mean you get everything youre way. A marriage is communication, support, understanding and love.........
2007-05-18 11:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by chacha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd try to be patient with you for being such a pain in the ***.
Look, the guy doesn't want to travel away from you and the expecting baby. It's bad enough that he has to do it for the sake of work. You both know it sucks, so stop throwing it in his face. In order for him to have a successful business trip, he needs the love and support of home--that's YOU!
I travel for work, and my wife and I both know it sucks to be away from her and my two little children, but she doesn't complain to me about it until after I'm home. That way, I'm not distracted during my business trip about the comings and goings at home that I can't control.
Relax
2007-05-18 11:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Paul BS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this traveling is something temporary I would just put up with it if I were you. If it is something that is going to keep going on, your husband will probably want to quit in order to have a happy marriage. I doubt if he will hate you for it at all.
2007-05-18 11:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he loves you he will consider looking for another job. When a man works away from home alot, at first he does it to provide for his family....as time goes by and you guys spend less and less time together, you are unhappy and he is unhappy and eventually there is an affair and then a divorce..
Don't just quit, look for other options first
2007-05-18 11:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be made if I had to quit my job. If he does not cheat on you and he treats you right then you should let the travleing go. If it is a good paying job and there is room for him to move up in the company and really be something let it go hun
2007-05-18 11:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by cutemom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him keep it. You guys have a baby coming that will need things.. Not a very good idea to quit the job.
2007-05-18 11:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by saffron 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell you to grow up and stop acting like a spoiled whiny child. Your husband is working to provide for his family and all you can do is WHINE about it. Would you rather he not have a job at all and be living in a homeless shelter and have your baby there? Grow up, life isn't all about YOU.
2007-05-18 12:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋