I am very willing any time he wants it! And yes, when we do he waits for me to orgasm before he finishes. But I'm confused, the other two guys I was with several years back would beg for sex ALWAYS! And my husband is the one who wanted to wait till marriage, not me. So far, in the 3 wks we've been married we've had sex 3xs and I started it. When we 1st started dating we had sex about 5xs and he was the one to start every time, then he said he thought it would be better if we waited till marriage. Sometimes I wonder if he's even attracted to me but once I start things he's really into it. ???
2007-05-18 08:11:11 · 9 answers · asked by 7766jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe it excites him when you make the first move. Nothing wrong with that. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. After only three weeks of marriage I would hope that you have the lines of communication open and can talk about something important like this.
2007-05-18 08:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his drive is just not revved up as much as yours is? If he gets into it once you get things going then he must be attracted to you. Maybe it turns him on more when you start the action! Talk to him about it, and be as open as you can be. Don't accuse or be negative in any way, don't point fingers or say you do this and you don't do that. Just tell him how you feel about the way things are and let him know how you'd like to see it change and why. And be sure to find out what it is that he wants and needs too! That way he knows that you're not just concerned about your own wants & needs, but rather you're concerned about the health and security of this relationship.
I have been dealing with a similar situation, but it turns out that it's due to his drinking/alcoholism and not because of me at all. (what a relief, kinda!) Drinking puts a real hinder on those kinda activities! If he drinks, maybe now's the time to talk about that? Or does he have performance anxiety/issues? Sorry so long winded- I hope something in this rambling helps!
2007-05-18 08:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by starshine0330 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your hubby doesn't have the sex drive you do, mine don't.
The more you push on it the more aware they are that they aren't living up to your desires in that field.
Try to initiate without being to pushy, once the pressure is off he'll come around and you'll be getting more....
2007-05-18 08:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by blazingbulldog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a looooow sex drive.
Welcome to the world of a few women and a ton of men.
2007-05-18 08:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a rule that states that men should be the one to initiate sex? If you have to get things rolling, then get things rolling.
2007-05-18 08:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he likes for you to make the first move. Make the first move.
The key here is that it is You he wants to make the move on him.
So put on something sexy, do your makeup, and go get him!
2007-05-18 12:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words: He's gay!
Many of these gay guys try to get married to pretend they are "normal" but are actually into men. I think the signs here are pretty clear. Get out before he gives you AIDS!
2007-05-18 08:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Richard Hurtz 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
keep going first and you'll win all the time.simple
2007-05-18 08:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him
2007-05-18 08:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋