I get in really bad moods sometime, and I try to find every flaw about him that ticks me off in the slightist little bit, and I pick him right apart. I end up getting really emotional, and of course I feel bad for doing this after wards. Everyt time I get this way, he feels it is his fault, and that somewhere deep inside I don't want to be with him. But really.....I can't imagine my life without him. Other than these littel out burts, we do really well together. We have a great relationship aside from this...and I don't know how to fix this part. I sometimes think that it could be stressed caused from other aspects in my life.....like going to school, working, trying to plan a wedding and not knowing where I want to decide to live in the next 4 months. I hate blowing up at him, but at the time, it feels like I am in the right, and that he deserves to know everything little thing that ticks me off.
I love him so much, and I hate making him feel like I don't love him.
2007-05-18 10:17:10 · 10 answers · asked by Jamie Lynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Becauae no matter how much you love someone. Alot of people think they need to change a person to better suit there needs and styles. Take for instance alot of women that think they need to dress they husbands because they lack some individual style or look grungy.
I think you just have to start liking your fiance for who he is and the person you fell in love with and the rest will just follow as the time goes by. Stop nagging him there must be a reason you said yes think about that and relax.
Congrats and God Bless.
2007-05-18 10:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a clinical problem because there is a voice inside you that urges you to destroy something good. You can't stop that urge.
Not sure about women, men can practice deep breathing to calm themselves down under stressful situation and to suppress any urge of anger to cloud their judgment. Athletes do that when the game is on the line. You can try.
2007-05-18 10:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find other ways to express your frustration--you do have a lot on your plate and you probably feel safe expressing yourself to him--You need to find other outlets--even though you CAN express yourself to him--and maybe you are RIGHT most of the time--it doesn't mean you HAVE to express yourself or se him straight--becasue that will drain him...So-find other people to vent to--family, friends, etc..exercise more (it's what i'm getting into again)--get a massage--get into aromatherapy, etc...The point is--even though you're getting married etc--your finace and soon to be husband cannot handle all of your issues--before he was in your life--how did you deal with your stress?...if you got annoyed at people, did you feel free to just lash into them? Probably not--you had to just complain about it somewhere else (if you did always get on people's cases then you might have to work on your personality)--be authentic with your fiance but he's not a superhero--just a regular person--so lay off of him and find other people to talk to
2007-05-18 10:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering which you're his fiance, he could desire to be discussing issues with you FIRST in the previous he supplies her an answer. that's how couples artwork it out mutually. He hasn't particularly enable circulate of that attachment to her . . .he's unemployed and nonetheless attempting to get digs at her? he's no longer over it
2016-12-11 13:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by deparvine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably pick on him because you love him so much that you want him to be perfect, forgetting the fact that he's human. If you really love him, then you should be building him up, not tearing him apart.
2007-05-18 10:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Owen!
It's more about you not really liking him for who he is but for who you think he can become for you. I had to come to that realization in my own marriage years ago... it was a realization that I came to on my own. I left eventually because although I loved him, it was the "him that had potential" that I loved and not the "this is me"
know what I mean?
2007-05-18 10:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by ForeplayRx.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pick him apart then you don't love him. If you loved him you would accept him as he is without resorting to picking him apart.
2007-05-18 13:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something else is bothering, you need to see a therapist.
2007-05-18 10:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that he is asking himself the same question.
2007-05-18 10:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't love him enough and you really don't want to marry this man.
2007-05-18 12:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋