well ours was a love *** arranged marriage and we both hail from North India
2007-05-18 08:59:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
andy your question is really serious,i am a female and i been there,did you guys have a talk are you open with her,what did you do to get her to that point,all you have to do is just let her go if she isnt in love with you anymore,it will hurt but also help you.move on there are more women waiting to be wooed into your arms.
2007-05-18 09:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by nickkie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would like to say that your wish to win her back is the biggest asset you have in you. You realize that love is something that needs to be worked on and not taken for granted.
Since yours was a love & arranged marriage, you knew her and got agreement from the family. You should go back to the days of what made her fall in love with you. Women always hang on to the perception of what made them choose their life partner and feel cheated if anything changes dramatically from that point. If your fault had anything to do with infidelty then God help you, if you hurt her because of some social reasons, you still have hope. You can make her your first,last and only important person. Instead of making grand gestures, make slow,simple and honest changes in your life. Try to think what she asked of you before and after your marriage and do them and let her figure out on her own that you are trying to impress her.
Praise her to your family (that matters the most to an indian wife) and respect her parents and siblings. Have patience. The time it took you to hurt her feelings, it will take double the time to win her back. Good luck.
2007-05-21 09:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Pinewind3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it was an arranged marriage, that will mean you did not really get the time to know other willing, make out one nite or hold hands while looking deep into each others eyes when you conversed. This is how you gonna do it man- start everything a fresh, let her get to know the side of you she has never seen before, search for movies, take her out, walk out in the gardens, hold hands often, kiss her often, compliment her when necessary, take her out to dinner, to a club, a dance, a party, travel together, spend some weekend at a hotel with good accomodation, and while you at this check this link (http://www.menshealth.com/cda/homepage.do) to help you meet most future challenges, remember the more she feels a loss when she sees other men the less her love for you. link: www.menshealth.com. Try being open-minded, sweet, a good listner and observe. Get to know her all over again, rediscover her, even if it means getting to know some of her friends to help you out. Good luck man, and remember, in a relationship, you put your partner before yourself. Peace
2007-05-18 16:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Young King 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was an arranged marriage then she probably never loved you to begin with because she didn't know you. It is easier to win a stranger's love than to win back the love of a woman you have wounded. I would be kind to her, talk to her, try to be a friend and don't boss her around or yell at her. Hopefully you will learn to like each other first and then maybe fall in love. Treat her with respect but don't be a doormat. Women seldom love a man whom they don't respect.
2007-05-18 16:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she looks pretty.
Tell her you love her.
Kiss her
Hold her hand
Bring her a flower now and again
Call her on the phone just to say "I was thinking about you today and thought I'd call and see how you are."
Help with the children and housework
If you hurt her - in any way, apologize and keep apologizing until she tells you to stop. Then apologize some more.
Take her out on regular dates - to places SHE wants to go.
Stand up for her in the presence of your parents (both sets)
Spoil her
Respect her
Cherish her
Show her that she is the most important person in your life.
Good luck.
2007-05-18 16:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to win her, then court her. Do the things a guy would do for a girl he was trying to impress. Take her to dinner; get small thoughtful gifts; listen to her concerns (and DON'T try to "fix" them - just LISTEN). Smile at her. Hug her without expecting sex. Go for walks. Take her to a museum or whatever else she likes. The fact that you're married to her (especially given that this was an arranged marriage) doesn't guarantee love; if that's what you want, then be willing to WORK for it.
2007-05-18 16:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't understand how any arrangement of a marriage can last you barely know this person, although I respect your customs, i don't understand as the United States has a high divorce rate. do Indians divorce, or stay together regardless.
2007-05-18 17:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by beachy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...you can't do nothing here partner....she's gotta wanna have you back as badly as you want her too. "Talk" sometimes can help occasionally...but I'm thinking you two are way beyond the point of talking to one another sensibly anyways. ( you tell us partner ) I'd probably entertain the ideas of you two BOTH hitting the therapists chair together seriously. Maybe not in the same chair of course dude...but it's definitely worth the shot really....wouldn't ya think? Communication is gonna be the keys to salvation in anything you'll ever do my friend........go communicate with her properly now partner....and be nice about it too while you're at it...Are we cool dude?
2007-05-18 16:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her what you feel. Be original. Its works with women. Just tell her what u have in your heart.
All the best...even I hail from north India.
2007-05-19 02:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle to her and don't act superior. Don't make her do things when she doesn't want to. Try to understand her.. this is the difficult part.
Tell her often how pretty she is. All women love that.
In other words.... you have to try hard.. :-)))
2007-05-18 16:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋