i have a feeling that he is like bored with me...no doubt he loves me...but i want his attention always...so what should i do?...how should i attract him towards me.?.....pls pls help me out.....i m confused coz its just one year,....and i am just 21 and he is 26.....so give me sum tips?...god will bless u.. guyz....
2007-05-18 04:05:30 · 14 answers · asked by mahveensmum 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first year is the hardest; it's the getting use to each other year. Have you tried to sit down with him and ask if there is anything wrong and is there a way that you could help him. Maybe you could surprise him with his favourite meal at home and a movie afterward. There are things that you can do; little treats that he would enjoy. I hope and pray that things go well for you both; marriage is hard and requires all of our effort; it's hard work. But, oh, so worth it. xo
2007-05-18 04:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Garnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want his attention ALWAYS? What you do is get your self esteem up, because that is going to suffocate him. He is going to feel cornered, trapped, like he is dragging around 120 pounds ( or whatever, but you are going to make it feel like tons). All people need their "me time". Or time with friends, or time to do things they like to do.
Find a hobby, make a friend, take a class. Do something so that you can find a way to make it without him for bits of time. He loved you enough to marry you, you don't need to chain him to you. That will drive a man away faster than anything. Well, expect sharp instruments. Insecurity ruins a lot of good relationships. He isn't bored exactly, he is caged. Go find your own hobbies and soon he might be the one wanting to spend more time with you. If he is your whole focus in life, then all you have to share with him, is him, and he already knows all about himself.
And JUST 21 is probably old enough to know all this. You are grown up dear, act it. You sound like a small child not wanting Mom to leave them with a sitter.
2007-05-18 11:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he IS different than before. Everyone changes constantly. Fact is that YOU are different than before.
That said, I guess that is not the point. So excuse me for mentioning it. Obviously you are having a problem in your marriage, because the changes are happening in a way that is drifting you apart. What I recommend doing is getting him into marriage counseling. Tell him how you feel, and that you want some help working through it. If he won't go, then go yourself. Within a few visits, you'll know what to do. Good luck!
2007-05-18 11:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest doing something different periodically. Wear something special, cook something special, buy him something special.
You're married, so anything between you 2 is acceptable.
How about the pretty woman thing .. . buy him a tie and be wearing it when he gets home . . . . with nothing else on.
Remember, open conversation is the most important. Whatever you're feeling, he needs to know.
2007-05-18 11:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are creatures of habit, and most of them feel that after they have you, they shouldn't have to do anything to prove their love anymore. It's annoying lol, but that's how they think. Maybe suprise him with a really great dinner one night, buy something cute to wear, spend the night doing romantic things. He will get the hint, I promise. good luck!
2007-05-18 11:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by miasayswhat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find some exciting new ways to romance him. Guys get bored easily...That doesn't mean he doesnt love you though. But you dont want him to feel bored with you. Just Romance him with candles, rose pedals...anything. Just be creative!
2007-05-18 11:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by Just here. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is your sex life? That is always a big thing in a marriage, after you get married the sex life goes out the window...try dressing up for him as a surprise..he will love it!
2007-05-18 11:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband if he loves you. Ask him if he is being faithful, i.e., no emotional/physical affairs, no pornography, stripclubs, etc.
Husbands are the natural leaders and if he is not leading you your responsibility is to provide a check and balance into your intimacy levels.
I would also seek out a counselor or very close friend that you trust who is happily married and ask for feedback as well.
hope this helps.
2007-05-18 11:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by Psa23 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just do what you guys did before you got married that seemed to work then and it will work now. Just ask as if you guys are still dating and not married.
2007-05-18 11:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by HELP ME!!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try doing your own thing. distance yself and he may realise y not so bothered (wen really u r, but u keep that a secret). im the same thought i was boring my man. still do sometimes but the more i care bout wat he thinks the more i will be hurt if its true and i need to concentrate on my life. u shud to.
2007-05-18 11:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by JESSICA H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋